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Is it worth it for £2.90?

36 replies

wiseoldsnail · 28/04/2024 10:35

My ex is a twat.

Absolute nightmare in maintenance. Always late and he has arrears. I went through cms and he's still no better.

He never pays on time - always 1 or 2 days late and it's always £2.90 per week less than it should be.

Yesterday I asked him yet again to pay and pay the correct amount. He replied with laughing emojis and said he would pay.

Today he has paid but not the right amount.

£2.90 doesn't make much difference to our daughter but equally if you added it up in a year it's £150ish that is missed.

Would you go back to cms and tell them he's not paying the correct amount?

Not sure I can handle the abusive messages I would get for doing it.

I feel I'm being petty but this man is so controlling it's unreal.

OP posts:
chaticat · 28/04/2024 10:47

Any idea why it's always 2.90 less? Does it make it a round number?

Personally yes I'd go to cms and say he's not paying the correct amount or on time

DuckBee · 28/04/2024 10:45

Is there a significance to £2.90?

mewkins · 28/04/2024 10:44

I'd definitely follow up with CMS. How long has it been going on for? I hope they charge him interest x

LittleGreenDragons · 28/04/2024 10:44

I agree with the others. Inform cms that he is refusing to pay the correct amount AND not on time. Get him with both otherwise he could end up paying the correct amount but weeks late.

He's doing it deliberately but he's obviously forgotten it's a court order and official. I also agree with having that coffee 😉

GRex · 28/04/2024 10:43

He sounds intensely irritating. I would be chasing that up on principle, even if it cost me £3 per week to do so. I would see each abusive message as thishaving annoyed him, and that would be cheering.

FlippyFloppyShoe · 28/04/2024 10:43

I would remind him that if he doesn't pay the correct amount voluntarily then CMS can take it and charge him a fee for doing so each month

Amx · 28/04/2024 10:40

Yes I would

SevenSeasOfRhye · 28/04/2024 10:40

As you say, over a year it's £150 - he shouldn't get away with it. It's his tiny, pathetic way of sticking two fingers up at you.

wiseoldsnail · 28/04/2024 10:39

loverofbestbuy · 28/04/2024 10:38

do you have to pay anything to progress this?

if not, hell yes i’d progress

and i’d set aside that £2.90 a week for a nice coffee and i’d think “this is on you twat” with every sip

No it won't make a difference to me. Thank you, that's a good idea!

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Holliegee · 28/04/2024 10:38

Yes I would.
Hes taking the p*ss and depriving his child of money the law says he should pay and he’s disrespecting you.
When he sends you abusive texts reply with the same emojis.

loverofbestbuy · 28/04/2024 10:38

do you have to pay anything to progress this?

if not, hell yes i’d progress

and i’d set aside that £2.90 a week for a nice coffee and i’d think “this is on you twat” with every sip