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To ask for ideas of fun/bizarre/unusual things I could do before I turn 40!

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Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 09:34

As the title suggests, in order to celebrate approaching 40, I want to make sure I'm living and doing stuff rather than just plodding through life washing, cooking and working.
So please could you hit me with ideas of things I could include? I have some already, some are expensive, some time consuming, some free and easy. I want a whole mix!
An example of ideas so far are things like
Pottery wheel lesson
Learn BSL
Listen to the dawn chorus
Stay a night in a ludicrously posh hotel
Indoor skydiving
Watch a sunrise on a beach
Run a 5K for charity
Learn to crotchet.

But I would love to hear some more!

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Gall10 · 28/04/2024 21:54

CapaciousHag · 28/04/2024 13:17

Why are you on MN if you are not interested in the opinions of random strangers? Grin

I don’t ask for suggestions…I’m just enjoy nosing into other people’s lives !

Titsywoo · 28/04/2024 17:15

Just had a look at my list. Some other good ones I have are📧

Do family tree - started this and it is fascinating
Go to a darkzone in the UK to look at the stars
Go back to the Lake District with my MIL while she is still alive (she has a life limiting illness and has never been and I know she would love it. Also I only spent 24 hours there the one time I went). We are booked for a week this summer.
Couple of restaurants in London I really want to go to
Go to Ultimate Power sing a long
Try paddleboarding
Go snorkelling with turtles

Dontcallmescarface · 28/04/2024 15:32

Definitely learn BSL Op. The more people who learn the better IMO.

I really, really want to re-enact the "fight" scene at the end of Bugsy Malone. There are other things on my list, but that is number 1.

IcouldbutIdontwantto · 28/04/2024 15:12

I have nothing to add, but this is my favourite bucket list story of all time 😆

news.sky.com/story/woman-104-arrested-at-care-home-by-police-to-fulfil-bucket-list-wish-11671110

Dilbertian · 28/04/2024 14:54

Swim in a Lake District lake - I have a vague idea of swimming in every one, but I've done 3 and may not get much further... Wastwater was the most beautiful.

Wastwater is my favourite lake for swimming, especially if you avoid the busier locations. There are some lovely spots at the Nether Wasdale end. No motorised vessels are allowed and water can be so still that the only ripples are the ones you make. Neither of the photos were taken on sunny days - on a sunny day the view is truly spectacular.

Rydal is also good. I've only swum at the east end of Rydal Water. You don't need to be a particularly strong swimmer to swim from island to island and get a feeling of adventure. Plus the Badger Inn is a great place to refuel and warm up again after your swim.

I've also swum in Ullswater, Derwentwater and several Lake District rivers.

To ask for ideas of fun/bizarre/unusual things I could do before I turn 40!
To ask for ideas of fun/bizarre/unusual things I could do before I turn 40!
GingerLiberalFeminist · 28/04/2024 13:58

I tend to set myself new years ambitions, past ones include;
Fencing lessons
Visit Rome
Cycle hadrians wall

This year I'm running a 5k, cycling London to Brighton and going to Egypt.

Longer term ideas;
Do pompei
Northern lights
Cycle 100 miles
Actually manage my garden (!)

OssieShowman · 28/04/2024 13:51

Hot Air Ballon is great
Escape Room
Axe Throwing

eise · 28/04/2024 13:48

GreenIcy · 28/04/2024 12:22

Learn a new language
Learn to juggle
Go on a silent retreat
Swim at midnight in the sea on a full moon
Ride a cross country course on horseback

Do the swimming last

Ghostbasket · 28/04/2024 13:36

Hot air balloon ride?
see a tiger in the wild
do a chin up is one of mine 😂

mitogoshi · 28/04/2024 13:28

Book yourself a hotel at charmouth and go fossil hunting, I've never failed to find one!

@TheExclusiveSandwich

I recommend Fuerteventura for your wish, stayed at Magic Life which is split between Brits and Germans particularly (actually plenty of other nationalities but the bulk) and I has a nudist pool, separate and fenced off plus the beach is come as you like, most are in costumes but plenty did swim naked, very freeing!

katscamel · 28/04/2024 13:26

Stargazing, I have a friend with a set up in Yorkshire and looks amazing. I have camped under the stars but never with someone that knows what's what.
Jewellery making....not creative or artistic at all but do love jewellery
A proper hamam in Istanbul...always a favourite
Abseiling down ....somewhere
Water skiing
Study something just because it'd be interesting (just starting a freebie OU course on earthquakes)

Dilbertian · 28/04/2024 13:25

softslicedwhite · 28/04/2024 13:07

Genuinely wondering why you feel you need to throw a pot before you turn 40.

Because throwing pots is wonderful fun. Plus you get to keep the pot, and even use it.

PermanentTemporary · 28/04/2024 13:23

Swim in a Lake District lake - I have a vague idea of swimming in every one, but I've done 3 and may not get much further... Wastwater was the most beautiful.

See the Northern Lights
Grow something edible from seed
Write down your best recipe/adaptation
Take Grade 1 in a new musical instrument
Learn a new language and go somewhere to speak it
Read the book you've never managed to read ( I finally read Midnight's Children a couple of years ago and it's as good as its reputation)

Dilbertian · 28/04/2024 13:23

Not just watch sunrise on a beach, but do so alone. Swim in the sea alone.

Watch sunrise from a mountain top, or a high hill. Camp there overnight, or hike up in the pre-dawn.

Go skinny-dipping.

Go wild swimming.

Say "No" to a request from someone with the authority to tell you to do so.

Teach someone a skill you have.

Learn a skill you don't have.

Sing in public.

Sing a solo in public.

Get an adult kick-scooter and use it.

Play on the swings and slides.

Do a 'Jonny' and squirt whipped cream straight into your mouth (Friday Night Dinner). Extra points for sitting on the kitchen counter while you do so.

Ask things I have done since I turned 40. Actually, some I had done before, but a very long time before. Some were terrifying, some exhilarating, all wonderfully liberating.

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 13:19

Titsywoo · 28/04/2024 13:16

Absolutely. Mine isn't a bucket list as such but it is so easy to end up at 70 having just lived your normal day to day life then not have the time or energy to do all the things you fancied but kept putting off as you were 'busy'. Having a list just keeps reminding me to do those fun things I always wanted to do! I think it is sensible not weird. There is always a joy sponge on these threads!

Yes, you've articulated this perfectly. All of these reasons are exactly why - it's a goal, a focus to ensure life doesn't just pass me by.

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Posithor · 28/04/2024 13:17

I'm going wing walking!

CapaciousHag · 28/04/2024 13:17

Gall10 · 28/04/2024 13:11

Why are you asking strangers what you should do? If you wanted to do something then you’d already have the answer to your querie.
Some random stranger’s idea of a ‘bucket list’ type thing is a wierd way to enjoy your 40th.
Just go out & get rat arsed…stock upon paracetamol the day before.

Why are you on MN if you are not interested in the opinions of random strangers? Grin

Titsywoo · 28/04/2024 13:16

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 12:56

@ssd
Oh yes, I definitely plan to keep doing stuff beyond 40, this is just a way of getting out of a bit of a funk of monotony where my life revolves around work, housework and raising a family. I want to make sure myself and my family are living and experiencing stuff together and to show my daughters that life is for the taking and that pushing yourself outside your comfort zone is often a wonderful thing! Having sadly had a couple of friends either desperately poorly or not live to see 40, I am just aware what a privilege life is and I want to make the most of it 🙃

Absolutely. Mine isn't a bucket list as such but it is so easy to end up at 70 having just lived your normal day to day life then not have the time or energy to do all the things you fancied but kept putting off as you were 'busy'. Having a list just keeps reminding me to do those fun things I always wanted to do! I think it is sensible not weird. There is always a joy sponge on these threads!

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 13:13

@Gall10
Because part of the point is to push myself out of my comfort zone and try new things I may not have thought of/come across before.
I find sharing ideas with others inspiring and interesting.

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Gall10 · 28/04/2024 13:11

Why are you asking strangers what you should do? If you wanted to do something then you’d already have the answer to your querie.
Some random stranger’s idea of a ‘bucket list’ type thing is a wierd way to enjoy your 40th.
Just go out & get rat arsed…stock upon paracetamol the day before.

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 13:08

@softslicedwhite then read the thread 🤷 I'd love some more suggestions if you have any.

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softslicedwhite · 28/04/2024 13:07

Genuinely wondering why you feel you need to throw a pot before you turn 40.

cranberrypi · 28/04/2024 13:06

softslicedwhite · 28/04/2024 13:04

This thread is so weird. Why do you need to do all those things before you turn 40? I'm sure you can manage a pottery wheel at 41, or even 71, or even 81.

It is not weird, it is fun! why not have a few new goals in life, and a deadline to try and meet them

Gotabadfeelingaboutthis · 28/04/2024 13:06

@softslicedwhite why are you being needlessly rude and dismissive? I didnt ask or need anyones permission. Read my last update if you are actually interested in why and have something useful to add otherwise, feel free to leave the thread 🙄

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softslicedwhite · 28/04/2024 13:04

This thread is so weird. Why do you need to do all those things before you turn 40? I'm sure you can manage a pottery wheel at 41, or even 71, or even 81.