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Do you begrudge high earners?

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cheerscheerscheerstomeyeahcheers · 28/04/2024 08:47

Do you actually understand what they do and why they earn so much?
Would you be actually willing to put in the time and effort yourself?

I see so much griping about people that earn a lot, but I also see a lot of ignorance about why they earn what they do.

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NoisySnail · 29/04/2024 00:49

@XenoBitch Exactly! I think supervisor jobs are worse than doing manager jobs higher up, and I have done both. You are responsible for the day to day management of people near minimum wage, some of who will be trying to do as little as possible. At the same time you are the person who managers above delegate loads of tasks to, and get you to ensure staff follow any changes to policies and processes even when they make zero sense. It really is the worse of all worlds. It is fine if it is a stepping stone, but otherwise it is nearly always a shitty job for a tiny tiny bit more money.

Aquarius1234 · 29/04/2024 00:47

Oh yes I can't stand the so called self employed ones earning 40/ 50/ 60 k and paying virtually no tax.
Out of order.

NoisySnail · 29/04/2024 00:44

@savethatkitty do you think lower paid workers are sitting around drinking tea and eating biscuits?

Aquarius1234 · 29/04/2024 00:43

Yes I do. More envy. I feel I could never do the work involved to earn a high salary.

savethatkitty · 29/04/2024 00:41

I'm a high earner & I work my arse off for it! I have studied & earned higher education to warrant my pay. So no, I do not begrudge high earning. Trust me, we're not sitting around drinking tea & eating biscuits

XenoBitch · 28/04/2024 23:57

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 16:39

Supervisor positions are usually paid a tiny bit more and carry a whole load of responsibility. You only do it if you think you have a reasonable chance of progressing up.

When I worked in the NHS, I was Band 1. Supervisors were Band 2. I saw many colleagues go up to supervisor and demote themselves after a while. The extra pressure and responsibility was not worth the meagre pay rise.
It didn't help that management (on Band 6 at a minimum) were total assholes.

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 23:12

In 2023, the average annual full-time earnings for the top ten percent of earners in the United Kingdom was £66,669. £300,000 is more than simply a high earner.

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 28/04/2024 23:12

Tattletwat · 28/04/2024 17:51

Not really they tend to be paid about 50p more a hour, which is about 20 quid and about 15 after tax.

That's not my experience

SloaneStreetVandal · 28/04/2024 23:00

cheerscheerscheerstomeyeahcheers · 28/04/2024 08:52

£300k plus

Gosh I wish HMRC had the same view of what constitutes a high earner 😂

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 22:51

ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 28/04/2024 17:39

They are still paid more.

I agree with the other poster that the extra money is usually minimal. DH was asked if he was interested in a supervisor post, he said no. The woman who is doing it now is managing a team of just above minimum wage workers, getting massive pressure from senior management to make sure staff meet challenging targets, is under pressure to work over her hours because of the volume of work, and for that is being paid about £40 more per month after tax and NI. No it is not worth it. Supervisor positions are normally really shit jobs.

ohthejoys21 · 28/04/2024 22:14

Blossomtoes fair enough and thank youFlowers

BIossomtoes · 28/04/2024 22:09

ohthejoys21 · 28/04/2024 22:05

Dh builds care homes but at the moment part of his time is focused on building a homeless shelter. He gives a large percentage of his personal earnings every year to charity along with company donations, on top of colossal tax and corporation tax. He's a giver. Are there people out there who actually begrudge success for someone like him?

No. He sounds like an amazing man. Can you clone him because the world needs more people like him. I begrudge success to people who wouldn’t give their nose droppings away and do everything possible to avoid tax.

XenoBitch · 28/04/2024 22:08

Whatafustercluck · 28/04/2024 19:11

Do I begrudge hard working high earners who pay their taxes, don't whinge about benefits scroungers, live their lives in a politically humanitarian way? No, absolutely not.

Do I begrudge high earners who get rich off other people's misery, do everything they can to avoid tax, look down their noses at others who are less fortunate and are politically driven by greed and conservation of themselves at the expense of others? Fuck, yeah I do.

It is not someone's wealth that I judge. It is how they behave with it.

💯Same here.

ohthejoys21 · 28/04/2024 22:05

Dh builds care homes but at the moment part of his time is focused on building a homeless shelter. He gives a large percentage of his personal earnings every year to charity along with company donations, on top of colossal tax and corporation tax. He's a giver. Are there people out there who actually begrudge success for someone like him?

Anonymous2025 · 28/04/2024 22:02

PotatoPudding · 28/04/2024 18:47

So if the CEO’s salary was dropped to your current salary, what would yours drop to?

Personally I do t think mine should be dropped as I would a lot , I do however think q lot if others should go up to the same levers as mine

Previousreligion · 28/04/2024 21:58

No, but I do think it's unfair that essential, critical jobs are often paid less than (imo) stupid worthless jobs. Like "Influencer".

Freakinfraser · 28/04/2024 20:46

Newbutoldfather · 28/04/2024 19:00

Begrudge is a strange word.

I don’t begrudge them their success at all. But I do resent the attitude that they worked hard and deserved it, especially if they are in certain over remunerated professions (finance, management consulting, corporate law etc).

If they are nice respectful people and understand that, at least in part, their success is due to luck and connections, I am very happy for them, especially if they give back in some way (time or money).

I was in an over remunerated profession and then did a decade of teaching, earning about 10-20% of what i did in my previous career. I worked at least equally hard as a teacher and actually found it more rewarding in many ways.

I don’t understand this, I really don’t agree that those earning highly always it’s due in part to luck or connections. Sometimes sure. Yes. But quite frankly not always and I read this as a way to undermine achievements,

also your comment on resenting thay they worked hard and deserved it. You sound like you do absolutely begrudge people success. And I wonder if that is due to your own work history.

dollybird · 28/04/2024 20:31

shearwater2 · 28/04/2024 10:13

The likes of Bono are in their own stratosphere of earnings, like the top 0.0001%. Top 10% starts at people earning £60,000 a year. Not helpful to lump them into the same category.

And Google isn't a person

Mistymountain · 28/04/2024 19:31

Nobody talks about premier league footballers or music artists on these threads. Is it so self evident that only they deserve the enormous sums they earn? The reality is you get paid for your output, if your rare skill or talent is in demand and will generate revenue then you will earn more money, it's not really about working hard or working more hours in the day.

Rhodora · 28/04/2024 19:29

My dad earned a good salary 25 years ago. He brought home £7000 a month and from that my parents saved £4000 every month and had £3000 for meeting the household expenses. He had to travel to London though at least once a week and New York once a month. Even when he was working in the Edinburgh office he worked 12/13 hours a day. In the office for 5am and not getting home any earlier than 6pm. I would not want to deal with the stress that he had to deal with then. My dad was a stockbroker analyst.

BIossomtoes · 28/04/2024 19:22

Whatafustercluck · 28/04/2024 19:11

Do I begrudge hard working high earners who pay their taxes, don't whinge about benefits scroungers, live their lives in a politically humanitarian way? No, absolutely not.

Do I begrudge high earners who get rich off other people's misery, do everything they can to avoid tax, look down their noses at others who are less fortunate and are politically driven by greed and conservation of themselves at the expense of others? Fuck, yeah I do.

It is not someone's wealth that I judge. It is how they behave with it.

Same.

Whatafustercluck · 28/04/2024 19:11

Do I begrudge hard working high earners who pay their taxes, don't whinge about benefits scroungers, live their lives in a politically humanitarian way? No, absolutely not.

Do I begrudge high earners who get rich off other people's misery, do everything they can to avoid tax, look down their noses at others who are less fortunate and are politically driven by greed and conservation of themselves at the expense of others? Fuck, yeah I do.

It is not someone's wealth that I judge. It is how they behave with it.

Newbutoldfather · 28/04/2024 19:04

@PotatoPudding ,

It doesn’t really work that way.

Block shareholdings (pension funds etc) dominate the vote on corporate issues. And the end holders of the shares have very little say. And, of course, the big pension funds are staffed by people who are also overpaid, so they vote ludicrous schemes through for CEOs.

The most egregious examples were the bonuses paid in 2008, all voted through months before the banks became insolvent and the shareholders lost everything. That was close to criminal.

Grenwyn · 28/04/2024 19:02

DietrichandDiMaggio · 28/04/2024 16:10

Be interesting to see how Mumsnet would judge the two of you if the sexes were reversed.

These were my poor choices and I can't blame anyone else for them.

but ultimately you are living a very comfortable life despite those choices, because you made a good choice of partner.

Yes, that was a choice I was never going to make lightly as it is probably one of the most important choices a person can make.

Newbutoldfather · 28/04/2024 19:00

Begrudge is a strange word.

I don’t begrudge them their success at all. But I do resent the attitude that they worked hard and deserved it, especially if they are in certain over remunerated professions (finance, management consulting, corporate law etc).

If they are nice respectful people and understand that, at least in part, their success is due to luck and connections, I am very happy for them, especially if they give back in some way (time or money).

I was in an over remunerated profession and then did a decade of teaching, earning about 10-20% of what i did in my previous career. I worked at least equally hard as a teacher and actually found it more rewarding in many ways.

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