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Have I just been dumped before we even began ??

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utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:08

Chatting to a man for last week. Met twice and got on great. Shared a kiss. Went for dinner earlier . Great evening and great company. Things got steamy. We kissed etc and chatted. He shared his fantasy of another in the bedroom .. a female... in context of conversation..

when I challenged him on this and said well how do you feel about a male , he said no problem as long as he didn't have to be intimate with him etc. yet he had hoped I'd be interested in a female ..
I said I had no interest in that really but especially if he had no interest in doing the same either .

That was that.
We had kisses and fun but nothing heavy .

I text to thank him for a lovely evening and also said that as his fantasies wouldn't t be realised by me , if he wanted to let things go, that was perfectly fine.
He replied saying the pleasure was all his and we' ll keep in touch ( we're both busy for the next few weekends )
I answered with take care and he said .. you too...
have I just been dumped here ???

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OlympicProcrastinator · 28/04/2024 02:17

He’s accepted the ‘way out’ you gave him.

I don’t know why you seem upset he dumped you, you should have enough self respect to have dumped him properly yourself. He’s not going to treat you well OP.

utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:30

I had said if he wanted to let things go based on the fact that his fantasies would never be realised by me ...

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Bluestarling · 28/04/2024 01:27

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2024 01:23

Your relationship with this man had barely begun and he was already telling you that you're not enough.

Good fucking riddance to him.

Dude's talking threesomes before you've even had a twosome....

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2024 01:23

Your relationship with this man had barely begun and he was already telling you that you're not enough.

Good fucking riddance to him.

bostonchamps · 28/04/2024 01:21

You said if he wanted to let things go that's fine by you...what were you expecting?

utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:15

I guess that I had hoped , objectively , that a poster could give me an opinion based on his responses after I challenged him on it !

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Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2024 01:13

utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:12

I have no problem with others wishes etc but these aren't for me. I'm just wondering if his responses indicate that I've been discarded by him
For this reason?

How could anyone know this? We aren't him.

utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:13

And thanks for responding!

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utsjustnavy · 28/04/2024 01:12

I have no problem with others wishes etc but these aren't for me. I'm just wondering if his responses indicate that I've been discarded by him
For this reason?

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YukNo · 28/04/2024 01:10

Hopefully. He sounds awful.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/04/2024 01:09

If I were you, I'd hope so. He sounds pathetic.

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