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Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Bloodyfreezinng · 27/04/2024 18:55

Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

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PickledMuffin · 27/04/2024 20:03

no

Notreat · 27/04/2024 20:02

SwordToFlamethrower · 27/04/2024 19:48

Yes, it is literally next door, like being in another room.

You've got eyes on your baby, so go for it.

It's not though is it. Presumably the OP will lock her door if she goes to her neighbours and her neighbours door is probably also locked. It's not like simply going from one room to another
It is leaving a very young child in a house alone.
There are too many things that could go wrong they may be unlikely but unlikely things happen. The door key could jam (this has happened to me before). There could be a fire and OP might not be able to get back. If the fire breaks outbl down stairs she won't see it on the camera. She could be distracted chatting and drinking with her friend and nit notice the baby crying.
OP says she doesn't like people in her house but surely that's better than leaving a two year old alone in q house?

Londonscallingme · 27/04/2024 19:55

MidnightPatrol · 27/04/2024 19:51

Yeah … it would feel pretty safe to me. And as I said - I’m no risk taker.

Detached house? I’d probably think differently. Child that was prone to waking up and trying to wander around? Ditto. Newborn? No I’d take them with me. No video monitor? No.

Shes not suggesting she’s going down to the pub for a few hours.

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Exactly. I’m also not sure how people with big houses are able to feel comfortable going to the other end of it when their children are asleep, by the logic of people of this thread… what if my house is spread over multiple floors, what if I have a big garden?

bluetopazlove · 27/04/2024 19:53

By some of the standards here army married quarters would be full of toddlers sleeping in their cots while one parent serves overseas and the other is enjoying wine next door . Just as well it doesn't happen..

MidnightPatrol · 27/04/2024 19:51

Londonscallingme · 27/04/2024 19:16

Congratulations for being the one person who seems to have actually thought about this before commenting with a knee jerk response 😂

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Yeah … it would feel pretty safe to me. And as I said - I’m no risk taker.

Detached house? I’d probably think differently. Child that was prone to waking up and trying to wander around? Ditto. Newborn? No I’d take them with me. No video monitor? No.

Shes not suggesting she’s going down to the pub for a few hours.

BirthdayRainbow · 27/04/2024 19:48

Of course not.

SwordToFlamethrower · 27/04/2024 19:48

Yes, it is literally next door, like being in another room.

You've got eyes on your baby, so go for it.

MelonSmoothie · 27/04/2024 19:47

What if there's a fire? No.

Notreat · 27/04/2024 19:46

Definitely not.

MidnightPatrol · 27/04/2024 19:45

whistleblower99 · 27/04/2024 19:11

I think it’s appalling that any parent would even consider a small risk like that ok. Disgusting doesn’t quite cover it imo.

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Disgusting? Come on now.

Durdledore · 27/04/2024 19:42

No

Universalsnail · 27/04/2024 19:41

I probably wouldn't do it no, but if your video monitor has signal next door so you can watch him clearly and next door is attached and not detached tbh I think alot of people are being abit over the top about it and I don't think you would be a bad person to do it. My house is so small I would be closer to a child asleep in my house next door then I would be sat in the living room of some of the houses I've baby sat at.

Zombiemama84 · 27/04/2024 19:40

Would you be comfortable enough with your decision to go and admit to people you had done that? Would you feel embarrassed/ashamed if you had to explain your reasons to a police officer or social worker?
My 2yr old is a crap sleeper anyway but I couldnt bring myself to do it, even with my 12 year old here i dont think I would.

BobbyBiscuits · 27/04/2024 19:38

It sounds silly, but if next door was a flat across so you took 3 steps/ you're 2 flats in same floor of small building, then I'd say yes. So you could be back in seconds.
If you need to go to a fully separate building or several flights of stairs/lift (eg if a big block) then I'd say no.

fieldsofbutterflies · 27/04/2024 19:37

napody · 27/04/2024 19:32

But you have working smoke and heat alarms, don't you? Which you'd hear.

Anyone who is piling on to judge OP, check those things first. Fire and smoke inhalation could all happen while you're asleep in the same house...

OP, I don't think it's an unreasonable question. You're next door looking at a monitor. You can bet many mumsnetters live in houses double the size of a terraced new build! Do they avoid going to the other side of the house when baby is asleep?!

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The thing is,all that might be true - but if the worst happened, how would you feel about it? On top of that, you would have to explain to the police why you left your baby unattended while you went drinking next door.

Yes, the risk may be minuscule but the consequences would be life-changing.

rollonretirementfgs · 27/04/2024 19:37

Omg No!!!! Jesus Christ

Msmumm · 27/04/2024 19:34

napody · 27/04/2024 19:32

But you have working smoke and heat alarms, don't you? Which you'd hear.

Anyone who is piling on to judge OP, check those things first. Fire and smoke inhalation could all happen while you're asleep in the same house...

OP, I don't think it's an unreasonable question. You're next door looking at a monitor. You can bet many mumsnetters live in houses double the size of a terraced new build! Do they avoid going to the other side of the house when baby is asleep?!

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Would you really take that risk......all for a glass of wine with a neighbour?
Unbelievable.

Merryoldgoat · 27/04/2024 19:34

Createausername1970 · 27/04/2024 19:03

To pop round to pick something up and be back within a few minutes - yes. No different to putting bins out.

To actually go next door for a glass of wine and potentially lose track of time and not check the camera - no.

This - pop a parcel over etc but not a social visit.

Onetiredbeing · 27/04/2024 19:33

fieldsofbutterflies · 27/04/2024 19:06

I can't believe this is a serious question Hmm

I know. For a drink too!

Cheesewiz · 27/04/2024 19:33

No, Slightly concerned that you are considering doing this!

napody · 27/04/2024 19:32

Msmumm · 27/04/2024 19:08

Good god no!! I cannot believe there are people who WOULD leave them alone in a house.
You can't see smoke and fumes from a fire on a monitor!

But you have working smoke and heat alarms, don't you? Which you'd hear.

Anyone who is piling on to judge OP, check those things first. Fire and smoke inhalation could all happen while you're asleep in the same house...

OP, I don't think it's an unreasonable question. You're next door looking at a monitor. You can bet many mumsnetters live in houses double the size of a terraced new build! Do they avoid going to the other side of the house when baby is asleep?!

cigarettesNalcohol · 27/04/2024 19:29

No.

Obviously probably won't happened (but can happen), but what if a fire broke out at your house and you can't get back in to rescue your child ? Don't risk it!

ShelfShark · 27/04/2024 19:28

Oh course not. I can’t believe you’re asking. What if there was a fire? What if someone broke in?

You also risk being reported to the police/social services.

bluetopazlove · 27/04/2024 19:28

No never I was an army wife thirty years ago so husband spent a lot of time away and no family around . You need to suck it up and socialise during daylight hours .

SquigglePigs · 27/04/2024 19:26

If I lived in a terraced house I might. It's no lt really any worse than being the other side of a big house or outside. Ideally they'd come to you though.

If I was in a detached house then no, I wouldn't. Too far separated and likely the monitor wouldn't work reliably anyway.