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Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Bloodyfreezinng · 27/04/2024 18:55

Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

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TerriPie · 27/04/2024 22:50

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:39

No of course not, but do you have your child with you every minute of every day whilst staying awake to make sure he doesn't choke?

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Yes, 2 year olds need supervised. Only time my 2 old was alone was in their bed with the camera on with me popping in to check on them, especially in winter when they would manage to throw their covers off and be curled up in freezing cold ball!

JadeSheep · 27/04/2024 22:49

hourstokill · 27/04/2024 22:45

the couple next door its called.... the book i just read

Oh yeah!!!! I read this!

personally I wouldn't OP, I'd be too anxious to enjoy that wine

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:48

hourstokill · 27/04/2024 22:44

have litterally just read a book where this was the story line.. it didnt go very well!

why does the neighbour want you to go round? is it for a social visit - then no, either don't go or take DS with you.

if its an emergency - then no, get DS up out of bed!

i think no...

Was it fiction or non fiction?

JadeSheep · 27/04/2024 22:47

whistleblower99 · 27/04/2024 19:01

You won’t hear them choke on a camera. You won’t see a fire until it is too late for damage from smoke inhalation. Any parent suggesting they would needs to have a hard look at their crap parenting.

That's way harsh. OP is fine to ask. You don't know if she's beyond depressed / isolated or anything - as you don't know her situation, so adding an insult into the mix is a bitchy move tbh

Samlewis96 · 27/04/2024 22:46

whistleblower99 · 27/04/2024 19:01

You won’t hear them choke on a camera. You won’t see a fire until it is too late for damage from smoke inhalation. Any parent suggesting they would needs to have a hard look at their crap parenting.

Surely these things could happen with you asleep in same house though.

Would be better if neighbour came to you. Not sure if I'd be comfortable leaving the baby alone

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:46

@JKRIsRight do you know the OP personally? What a strange question, when you've been so judgemental and made assumptions.

Why do you assume "shit faced"?

Your issue with alcohol I assume ?

Alcoholic parent maybe?

Don't judge everyone by them.

hourstokill · 27/04/2024 22:45

the couple next door its called.... the book i just read

hourstokill · 27/04/2024 22:44

have litterally just read a book where this was the story line.. it didnt go very well!

why does the neighbour want you to go round? is it for a social visit - then no, either don't go or take DS with you.

if its an emergency - then no, get DS up out of bed!

i think no...

JKRIsRight · 27/04/2024 22:43

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:42

Shit faced?

Please don't assume everyone had your drinking issue, some of us can drink in moderation.

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Do you know the op personally?
Also I don't drink, never have.

SimpleJoys · 27/04/2024 22:42

Allfur · 27/04/2024 22:30

And people die on the motorway, or the ski slopes, or a plane crash

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What has being on a ski slope got to do with anything?

I find it utterly bizarre that so many people are trying to justify leaving a 2 year old in the house alone, especially for something as trivial and non-essential as a glass of wine.

Even if you try to argue that it is really desperately important for the parent to have the opportunity to socialise tonight, then it still wouldn’t excuse leaving the child because the neighbour could still come to OP’s home.

Not liking people in your home is not an excuse to leave your child there alone. Sort your priorities out.

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:42

JKRIsRight · 27/04/2024 22:41

Jfc no, so many things that could go wrong.
For example if you lock the door and something happens to you they are left alone.
You get drunk and lose track of time/monitor stops working and something goes wrong or they are in distress.
Someone sneaks into the house while you're busy getting shit faced.
The fact you are asking this to begin with means you know it's wrong so why try to justify it.
If you do it I hope someone calls the police on you for child neglect.

Shit faced?

Please don't assume everyone had your drinking issue, some of us can drink in moderation.

walnutcoffee · 27/04/2024 22:41

What sort of parent are you you value a glass of wine over the safety of your child a baby.
Anything could happen in a split second FFS grow up.

JKRIsRight · 27/04/2024 22:41

Jfc no, so many things that could go wrong.
For example if you lock the door and something happens to you they are left alone.
You get drunk and lose track of time/monitor stops working and something goes wrong or they are in distress.
Someone sneaks into the house while you're busy getting shit faced.
The fact you are asking this to begin with means you know it's wrong so why try to justify it.
If you do it I hope someone calls the police on you for child neglect.

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:39

TerriPie · 27/04/2024 22:38

Will you hear him choke to death on the camera?

No of course not, but do you have your child with you every minute of every day whilst staying awake to make sure he doesn't choke?

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 27/04/2024 22:39

You know its only a few years since hotels had a listening in service. It was the norm and its exactly the same thing and was regarded safe.

I go to an annual weekend away with friends, multiple couples with kids to rented holiday homes and every one of them did what OP suggests when kids were young. Never once did anyone suggest it was neglectful.

I think the responses here are extreme and a little hysterical.

DrPsy · 27/04/2024 22:39

Please don’t leave him

TerriPie · 27/04/2024 22:38

Will you hear him choke to death on the camera?

whistleblower99 · 27/04/2024 22:37

MidnightPatrol · 27/04/2024 21:12

Well that has me convinced!

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You think I care?

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:35

coldcallerbaiter · 27/04/2024 22:33

They are not visible when you are asleep in the house at night. You might hear them or the monitor but if you are deep asleep then you might not.

I wouldn’t do it personally but the posters that say that you would be accused/prosecuted if there was a fire or choking, would you? If you had FaceTime on? Would being next door be so different from being in the house.

Guess it is a slippery slope. If next door is ok, then why not 5 doors down, internet is still the same.

Remember a case of grandma left small child in the car outside a shop for a few minutes to pop in. Height of summer, but she collapsed at the shop and was taken away by ambulance, unable to speak. Child died in the hot car.

Really?

Allfur · 27/04/2024 22:34

coldcallerbaiter · 27/04/2024 22:33

They are not visible when you are asleep in the house at night. You might hear them or the monitor but if you are deep asleep then you might not.

I wouldn’t do it personally but the posters that say that you would be accused/prosecuted if there was a fire or choking, would you? If you had FaceTime on? Would being next door be so different from being in the house.

Guess it is a slippery slope. If next door is ok, then why not 5 doors down, internet is still the same.

Remember a case of grandma left small child in the car outside a shop for a few minutes to pop in. Height of summer, but she collapsed at the shop and was taken away by ambulance, unable to speak. Child died in the hot car.

Ooh now I'm convinced

coldcallerbaiter · 27/04/2024 22:33

They are not visible when you are asleep in the house at night. You might hear them or the monitor but if you are deep asleep then you might not.

I wouldn’t do it personally but the posters that say that you would be accused/prosecuted if there was a fire or choking, would you? If you had FaceTime on? Would being next door be so different from being in the house.

Guess it is a slippery slope. If next door is ok, then why not 5 doors down, internet is still the same.

Remember a case of grandma left small child in the car outside a shop for a few minutes to pop in. Height of summer, but she collapsed at the shop and was taken away by ambulance, unable to speak. Child died in the hot car.

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 22:33

SimpleJoys · 27/04/2024 22:28

Definitely not, it’s a big no from me.

There’s all of the risks that people have already mentioned for the baby, but on top of that, if anything happens to you then you’ve left your baby totally alone.

I have heard of someone who ‘just nipped to the shop’ as it was only 30 seconds over the road. Got hit by a car, taken to hospital - no one knew about the two small children left unattended in the house.

Neighbour comes to you, or you don’t go.

Well the neighbour knows Iif she hot by a meteorite that she had children at home.., so your analogy about the shop is irrelevant.

🤷‍♀️

NannyGythaOgg · 27/04/2024 22:33

Yes, why not. If he normally sleeps through and you can see him on camera, what's the issue

Allfur · 27/04/2024 22:30

SimpleJoys · 27/04/2024 22:28

Definitely not, it’s a big no from me.

There’s all of the risks that people have already mentioned for the baby, but on top of that, if anything happens to you then you’ve left your baby totally alone.

I have heard of someone who ‘just nipped to the shop’ as it was only 30 seconds over the road. Got hit by a car, taken to hospital - no one knew about the two small children left unattended in the house.

Neighbour comes to you, or you don’t go.

And people die on the motorway, or the ski slopes, or a plane crash

sixnearlyseven · 27/04/2024 22:30

No!

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