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Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Bloodyfreezinng · 27/04/2024 18:55

Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

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napody · 28/04/2024 07:27

Msmumm · 27/04/2024 19:34

Would you really take that risk......all for a glass of wine with a neighbour?
Unbelievable.

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Of going to the other side of your massive house?!

Cas112 · 28/04/2024 06:05

@ShagratandGorbag4ever not that I know of love

fcrm2223 · 28/04/2024 05:11

If you're terraced and attached just get blankets and sit in the front garden

reallytimetodeclutter · 28/04/2024 03:37

I have stayed with friends who had a MASSIVE house and sat in the garden while DD on the second floor. I was definitely quite a bit further away than if I was in my terraced house and popped next door.

However (and I don't think this is necessarily logical) I would nonetheless feel uneasy about going to even a very close neighbour. I think I'd feel a bit too separated.

ShagratandGorbag4ever · 28/04/2024 02:45

Cas112 · 27/04/2024 20:39

What if there was a fire downstairs the cameras didn't show and it was too late to get back in the house and upstairs before anyone noticed?

You're all absolutely insane. Actually makes me question the type of people that are allowed children when this can even cross someone's mind.

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Allowed children? Is there a way of stopping unsuitable people having children? if so, why is it not widely known about and widely used?

Rubyrubyrubyrubee · 28/04/2024 01:23

Will probably get flamed but I did this once. Toddler was with us at dinner at next door neighbours’. DH went back to put her to bed and we were going to swap. Then DH comes back with the baby monitor. I ended up staying for half an hour to 45 minutes to finish my drink.

I wouldn’t recommend it. I still feel panic and shame to this day thinking about it. I decided to stay because I’ve had a few wines and my judgement was off, but I go cold thinking about what if a fire had broken out.

theprincessthepea · 28/04/2024 01:17

No I wouldn’t. Not until they were much much older.

Scotcheggz · 28/04/2024 00:47

Yes sure

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/04/2024 00:23

Well I would, but apparently the kids would be dead of fire AND choking, and also abducted while I was there.

As for "Well I wouldnt, but I am detached" had to take a moment to stop laughing before I posted. Do you have Royal Doulton with a Perriwinkle design?!

wintersgold · 28/04/2024 00:09

I would, there's a camera and it's a quick glass of wine.

FourOfDiamonds · 28/04/2024 00:07

I wouldn't personally. I can see that technically you could be no further away from the baby next door in a semi detached compared to a large detached house but I always just imagine the news story if something bad was to happen - 'mother leaves baby home alone to go drinking'

renthead · 27/04/2024 23:53

We used to do this. But we live on a rural boarding school campus and parenting is generally more relaxed. I can't see what the issue would be in you're literally looking at the baby on a monitor. That's entirely different to Madeleine McCann.

Samlewis96 · 27/04/2024 23:49

onedayiwillbecontent · 27/04/2024 23:28

No way! Has the Madeleine Mccann abduction not taught you anything?

Did Madeline McCann parent have a monitor watching her? Don't remember that ever being mentioned

Keely199 · 27/04/2024 23:42

Just dont I can't believe people would even think this is OK.

UPALLNIGHTMNETTING · 27/04/2024 23:42

A pol would have been a good one for this! The answers are just yes / no!

I wouldn't be worried at all, if it were me. Assuming the neighbour isn't a mile away, at the edge of a country estate or anything! If I went to my neighbours, I'd still be closer to DC than someone else, who was sitting at the far end of their six bed property or something.

onedayiwillbecontent · 27/04/2024 23:28

No way! Has the Madeleine Mccann abduction not taught you anything?

Kendodd · 27/04/2024 23:26

I would and did.
Semi detached, going to house next door with baby monitor. I'd have at most 10 meters extra to walk if baby started crying than if I was in my own house.
It's no wonder depression/anxiety is through the roof in this country if people are so worried about such minor stuff.

Agii · 27/04/2024 23:26

Yes.
If your camera is good enough for sound and image - it's fine. You might as well be in the garden and have your child asleep - often the same distance from the house and yet it's ok?
I'm often in the garage and my child was soundly asleep in the cot, just checked every now and then and it's fine! Hazards removed is the key.

JoniBlue · 27/04/2024 23:20

No.

coldcallerbaiter · 27/04/2024 23:16

When my kids were babies we had the old style sound monitors, but they picked up next doors one too. I could hear them having conversations.

Tech is great now, but you cannot keep your eyes and ears on a baby in a cot at all times. You will be asleep for some of it for starters.

i knew an old lady who was a single mum in the 60s, a widow or divorced, she told me that she left her baby in the cot and went to work at a factory, she came home at lunchtime to feed the baby and went back to work.

Heatedblanky · 27/04/2024 23:15

What? No! Haven’t you ever heard of Maddy McCann?

MumblesParty · 27/04/2024 23:15

Allfur · 27/04/2024 19:19

Isn't being in the sitting room down stairs pretty much the same as being in the sitting room next door?

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@Allfur between my sitting room and an upstairs bedroom there is one door (not locked) and a flight of stairs. Between my neighbour’s sitting room and my upstairs bedroom there is a door in their house, their front door (which might be locked), my locked front door, and a flight of stairs.
So no, not the same at all.

MinervaMcGonagallsCat · 27/04/2024 23:15

Absolutely not.

Invite neighbour to you

Lovemybunnies · 27/04/2024 23:10

No. But I know quite a few people (Doctors and teachers included) who have.

Copperoliverbear · 27/04/2024 23:09

No

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