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Would you go next door if baby is in bed?

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Bloodyfreezinng · 27/04/2024 18:55

Next door neighbour has invited me a round for a glass of wine. DS will be in bed next door I have camera on his room so I can see him.

Would you go or not? Or does it feel to much like a Madeline McCann situation.

DS is 2

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Moidershewrote · 28/04/2024 20:12

12 pages of outraged sanctimonia!

😂😂😂

Crimsonripple · 28/04/2024 20:09

Are you fucking serious?!!

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:55

ItsFuckingBoringFeedingEveryoneUntilYouDie · 28/04/2024 18:54

When mine were little, we lived on a street where almost everyone had young kids. Summer weekends, we often had impromptu street parties. Everyone would bring wine, blankets, picnics, barbecues, whatever. Once it got to bed time for little ones, people would take them home, settle them and return to the party with baby monitors, phone cameras, whatever. No one got shit faced, nothing bad happened. We all just sat in the street and enjoyed the evenings. Never occurred to any of us that this was somehow neglectful. Social services weren't involved with any of us. No one would ever have been further from their house than the bottom end of some people's gardens. I have very fond memories of that street.

You had alcohol without being drunk...,.

Some people won't believe that!

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:54

@LordFrank ignore @Janiie what a stupid suggestion..

You've described normal family like, not a fucking date night!

Whatever that is!

ItsFuckingBoringFeedingEveryoneUntilYouDie · 28/04/2024 18:54

When mine were little, we lived on a street where almost everyone had young kids. Summer weekends, we often had impromptu street parties. Everyone would bring wine, blankets, picnics, barbecues, whatever. Once it got to bed time for little ones, people would take them home, settle them and return to the party with baby monitors, phone cameras, whatever. No one got shit faced, nothing bad happened. We all just sat in the street and enjoyed the evenings. Never occurred to any of us that this was somehow neglectful. Social services weren't involved with any of us. No one would ever have been further from their house than the bottom end of some people's gardens. I have very fond memories of that street.

Janiie · 28/04/2024 18:50

LordFrank · 28/04/2024 18:13

@Janiie We run our own business so all of our work materials are there; it’s good to separate work from home. We watch films out there because it’s almost like having a date night ‘away’ from the house - in reality we are in our garden with a baby monitor. It’s always felt very safe.

Cabin at the end of the garden, nursery other end of the house. Doesn't really sound like say hanging the washing out whilst kids in sight in the house?

Just have a date night when thr kids are actually being looked after by someone. Relying on monitors while you watch films in a separate building seems crazy imo.

ontheflighttosingapore · 28/04/2024 18:36

No I wouldn't

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:36

Mumofyellows · 28/04/2024 18:31

No absolutely not, can't they come to you?

🤦‍♀️

Mumofyellows · 28/04/2024 18:31

No absolutely not, can't they come to you?

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:30

LordFrank · 28/04/2024 18:13

@Janiie We run our own business so all of our work materials are there; it’s good to separate work from home. We watch films out there because it’s almost like having a date night ‘away’ from the house - in reality we are in our garden with a baby monitor. It’s always felt very safe.

As it is .

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:29

@Kendodd well we must be reading different threads.....

The sanctimonious were out in force last night!

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:27

LordFrank · 28/04/2024 18:09

@Saschka Bad comparison and example. I’ve known this woman personally for years - not a friend - to clarify. I expect a lot will be revealed at her trial.

I expect so as well.

Truly tragic.

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 18:26

bradpittsbathwater · 28/04/2024 18:15

Oh it was 3 years ago! Still a bloody long time

When the trial takes place, that will be explained.

bradpittsbathwater · 28/04/2024 18:15

Oh it was 3 years ago! Still a bloody long time

bradpittsbathwater · 28/04/2024 18:13

Slightly off topic but why the fuck does it take 7 years for the fire case to go to trial?

LordFrank · 28/04/2024 18:13

@Janiie We run our own business so all of our work materials are there; it’s good to separate work from home. We watch films out there because it’s almost like having a date night ‘away’ from the house - in reality we are in our garden with a baby monitor. It’s always felt very safe.

LordFrank · 28/04/2024 18:09

@Saschka Bad comparison and example. I’ve known this woman personally for years - not a friend - to clarify. I expect a lot will be revealed at her trial.

DragonGypsyDoris · 28/04/2024 17:52

This is a fairly normal set of circumstances in a very big house.

Kendodd · 28/04/2024 17:51

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 17:47

You've very clearly not read the full thread......

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I have read the full thread, hardly any posters have mentioned the wine drinking and when they have, most have been fine with it.

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 17:47

Kendodd · 28/04/2024 17:46

The other thing I would agrue is more risky that going next door with monitor is the wine drinking. Hardly any posters have had a problem with this and completely overlooked it or deemed it an acceptable risk (drink wine in your own house). Personally, I wouldn't drink while in sole charge of a child.

You've very clearly not read the full thread......

Kendodd · 28/04/2024 17:46

The other thing I would agrue is more risky that going next door with monitor is the wine drinking. Hardly any posters have had a problem with this and completely overlooked it or deemed it an acceptable risk (drink wine in your own house). Personally, I wouldn't drink while in sole charge of a child.

Behindthescenesnow · 28/04/2024 17:20

Saschka · 28/04/2024 17:02

Madeleine McCann wouldn’t be my first thought - Deveca Rose would be. She nipped to the shops leaving her 3 and 4 year old children asleep in bed.

https://metro.co.uk/2021/12/17/london-mum-was-shopping-at-sainsburys-as-sutton-fire-killed-twins-15790202/amp/

She did not nip to the shops, I live less than a mile from that, it was a 10 minute walk to Sainsbury's.

She was gone a long time with no video footage available.

So stop comparing the two, they're totally different.

Stupid ridiculous "comparison" .

She hasn't even had her trial, so how you've got knowledge of how long she'd gone, I don't know.

TheOriginalEmu · 28/04/2024 16:57

whistleblower99 · 27/04/2024 19:01

You won’t hear them choke on a camera. You won’t see a fire until it is too late for damage from smoke inhalation. Any parent suggesting they would needs to have a hard look at their crap parenting.

You won’t hear them choke on a camera in your own house. You might not notice a fire in your own house.

Kendodd · 28/04/2024 16:53

Aria999 · 28/04/2024 15:41

I agree @Kendodd . People so horrified at some things and not others of equivalent or greater risk but can't really say why.

Yes and I would bet money that the 'I take zero risks with my children's safety' brigade have done five unnecessary things in the last week more dangerous than this.
It is odd though, that we deem an unnecessary trip to McDonald's along busy A roads an acceptable risk but baby in cot with monitor an unacceptable risk. Personally I have no problem with people making these judgement for themselves based on feelings (and let's face it, that's what they are made on). What I do have a problem with is the illogical vitriol aimed at parents who might judge the A road unacceptable and the cot acceptable risks for their child.
Life has risks and I for one will not let my life or my children's lives be limited by absolutely miniscule risks. I don't believe it does their mental health any good at all.

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