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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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Snowball777 · 28/04/2024 17:57

Ha ha, you have a brilliant sense of humour, just spat out my coffee reading your post OP!

Julie2024 · 28/04/2024 17:55

My kid says am old, am 48. I think anyone over 40 is old personally. You then become an old biddy at 70.

Bestyearever2024 · 28/04/2024 17:53

DaisyHaites · 28/04/2024 17:48

The Blimey is the first clue 😂I'm not sure anyone really considers themselves old, but you are a pensioner, as in... an old age pensioner... which, presuming you're a lady, makes you an old lady!

(Caveated with I am saying this from the safety of my 30s! I suspect I'll think different in my 60s!)

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Trust me, you will !

chalkiegirl · 28/04/2024 17:49

chalkiegirl · 28/04/2024 17:46

Blimey! I’m 72 and don’t consider myself an old lady. Or does ‘blimey’ give me away!

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A mere youngster 40’s or less would have said fxxxing hell (not blimey)!

DaisyHaites · 28/04/2024 17:48

chalkiegirl · 28/04/2024 17:46

Blimey! I’m 72 and don’t consider myself an old lady. Or does ‘blimey’ give me away!

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The Blimey is the first clue 😂I'm not sure anyone really considers themselves old, but you are a pensioner, as in... an old age pensioner... which, presuming you're a lady, makes you an old lady!

(Caveated with I am saying this from the safety of my 30s! I suspect I'll think different in my 60s!)

SabreIsMyFave · 28/04/2024 17:48

Lorrymum · 28/04/2024 12:30

My DH was asked for ID when buying beer in the US.
He's 70!

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WHY?!! 😂 No-one of 70 looks too young to buy alcohol. 70 year olds look 70! Yep they really do! This, along with '63 is sooo YOUNG' (that a few people have said,) is turning this into a batshit thread! 😆

As a pp said, the average age for a woman to live is 82. You're around 80% of the way through your expected life span at 63

I don't think 63 is VERY old, but let's stop this '63 is YOUNG' nonsense. It's just daft! 😆

OhcantthInkofaname · 28/04/2024 17:47

Summerhillsquare · 27/04/2024 15:12

Embrace it and wear purple around them.

With a red hat. A large red hat.

chalkiegirl · 28/04/2024 17:46

DaisyHaites · 27/04/2024 15:23

I’d say 60s and 70s are old lady territory. 80+ I’d say is elderly.

Blimey! I’m 72 and don’t consider myself an old lady. Or does ‘blimey’ give me away!

DriftingDora · 28/04/2024 17:43

piperatthegates · 27/04/2024 15:12

I feel your pain, when my boiler broke down the engineer called Worcester Bosch trying to get me an urgent visit and called me a vulnerable elderly customer - I was outraged 😂 (PS I also talk to the cat 😸)

Ah, but does the cat answer you?

Bestyearever2024 · 28/04/2024 17:42

AnnieSnap · 28/04/2024 17:40

I take issue with this. I’m 65 in July (40 in my head). I intend to live another 30 years (plenty of people live well into their 90s these days)! How can I be old?

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You can't be old and you're not

WhatShallIdo11 · 28/04/2024 17:42

No you’re not old - nor am I and approaching 67 but you can excuse faux pas stuff as being an age thing - comes in handy sometimes. I was asked by a bank a few days ago whether I needed help with doing on-line banking - noooo - I’ve just retired from a working life in IT. As a single lady, it’s surprising how many younger men prefer an old girl 😂

IWouldLikeToKnow · 28/04/2024 17:42

Well I am 49 and got called ma’am by a young lad in a shop today.

AnnieSnap · 28/04/2024 17:40

ByUmberViewer · 27/04/2024 15:13

You are old. 63 is old. I'm approaching that age myself.

Is being old a problem?

I take issue with this. I’m 65 in July (40 in my head). I intend to live another 30 years (plenty of people live well into their 90s these days)! How can I be old?

Tryingtokeepgoing · 28/04/2024 16:50

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 16:07

@Tryingtokeepgoing we do not live to 90ish on average. The median age for women to die is 82 years old.

I know, but I’m an optimist and rounded up ;)

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 16:08

AgitatedGoose · 28/04/2024 14:10

@VeronicaBeccabunga I’m a few years younger than the OP but being called sweetheart in shops and the ‘you are over 18 aren’t you’ really pisses me off. I always challenge shop assistants when they use infantilising language and send an email of complaint to head office.
I run/walk 5 miles most days, swim, climb, cycle, am not overweight and I’m probably fitter than many people half my age. I think the pandemic did a lot to reinforce ageism by deeming anyone over 60 as vulnerable.

People over 60 were more vulnerable to covid. This was about the number of receptors you have and is simple biology. Being fit makes you less vulnerable, but it does not cancel out ageing.

NoisySnail · 28/04/2024 16:07

@Tryingtokeepgoing we do not live to 90ish on average. The median age for women to die is 82 years old.

VimtoVimto · 28/04/2024 15:53

Shityshitybangbang · 27/04/2024 23:28

I remember me and my two sisters painting my front gate. This old man walked past and said to me, great you have your two kids helping you!! Cheeky pig, it was my twin and my younger sister. I thought I looked young then lol 😂

I used to go to WeightWatchers with my sister. One week I went on my own as she was working and the lady at the desk asked if my daughter was coming. My sister is six years younger than me but I didn’t think I looked old enough to be her mother.

Tryingtokeepgoing · 28/04/2024 14:45

I always used to take a simplistic approach to it - given we live to 90ish, give or take, then the first third is young, the second third middle aged and not until over 60 are you old. But….I started taking this view when I was around 40. However, now I’m in my early 50s I’m not so sure 😂

Bestyearever2024 · 28/04/2024 14:36

63 is NOT old

63 is old-er

You are old-er, OP, BUT NOT OLD

When you are 73 you will be old-er than 63 but not old

When you are 83 you will be old

When you are 93 you will be elderly

AgitatedGoose · 28/04/2024 14:10

@VeronicaBeccabunga I’m a few years younger than the OP but being called sweetheart in shops and the ‘you are over 18 aren’t you’ really pisses me off. I always challenge shop assistants when they use infantilising language and send an email of complaint to head office.
I run/walk 5 miles most days, swim, climb, cycle, am not overweight and I’m probably fitter than many people half my age. I think the pandemic did a lot to reinforce ageism by deeming anyone over 60 as vulnerable.

Dontcallmescarface · 28/04/2024 12:42

Roomination · 28/04/2024 10:46

I really hope my pubes starts diminishing. I can virtually plait the fuckers.

Look on the bright side, when they start going from the middle you can do a comb-over....or maybe that's just mine.

Lorrymum · 28/04/2024 12:30

SabreIsMyFave · 28/04/2024 10:48

I assume that's a joke. Why would they check when you're nearly 70? 😂

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My DH was asked for ID when buying beer in the US.
He's 70!

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 28/04/2024 12:09

ODFOx · 28/04/2024 00:06

If you were actually old you would know that there are many songs in Chitty Chitty Bang Bang, not just one.

That's me told then! I know the words to most of them as well - we had the soundtrack on vinyl when I was a child.

greatvisuals · 28/04/2024 11:32

. . . and when/why does the language change from falling over to 'having a fall'?

The minute someone says I've had 'a fall' I'm going to inwardly seethe.

I haven't had 'a fall', I just tripped over/fell over/slipped!!! 😆

TorroFerney · 28/04/2024 11:07

LiterallyOnFire · 27/04/2024 18:55

And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we’ve no money for butter.

@TorroFerney

I think it was simply that satin sandals, summer gloves & brandy are all indulgent purchases; Unnecessary fripperies.

Summer globes would be lightweight, maybe lacy. Not sensible, durable things.

Sturdy walking shoes, loose tea leaves and sensible winter leather gloves would probably be considered the sensible way to spend your money.

Ah true suppose winter gloves are practical. I assumed the poem was from an older era where women wore gloves all the time so they would be a necessity!