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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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ginislife · 28/04/2024 21:52

Feck off y'all with your 63 is old. I'm only 26 in my head. I swear I went to bed one night and woke up 20 years later. I struggle to believe I'm 63 - until I look in a mirror. I still feel the same as ever inside

Somepeoplearesnippy · 28/04/2024 21:49

GoodVibesHere · 28/04/2024 06:46

Wow, I've always been amazed at people who can do the splits. It must be quite unusual to be able to do it at 62yrs of age, or is that my ageism making me think that way? Have you had to work hard to maintain that kind of flexibility?

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I can only do it properly on one side and not if I’ve had a bad nights sleep! But it’s definitely something I can do now and I couldn’t have done it 30 years ago.

i do a lot of yoga and there are women substantially older and fatter than me whose flexibility and strength is amazing.

I’ve always been sporty and active and much as I love all my activities, doing a mix of different styles of yoga has been far and away way the best for my long term health

Kirstk · 28/04/2024 21:45

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

I clicked you were being unreasonable when I meant NOT I am 37 and do the same

DaisyHaites · 28/04/2024 21:33

Marplesyrup · 28/04/2024 21:17

43 is not middle aged!

55-65 middle aged
65-75 older person
75 -85 elderly
85 + old

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Urm, not many people are making it to 110-130 so your middle aged bracket is out by definition.

Surely middle aged is 40-50, given life expectancy is somewhere between 80 and 100?

SammyScrounge · 28/04/2024 21:31

No! It's great.
Young men leap out of roadworks trenches to escort me across the plank.
A young woman has offered to put up my hood for me when the rain started and my hands were full.

When I accidentally locked myself out and I stood at my gate waiting for a locksmith my young neighbour brought a chair and a nice cup of tea.outside for me.
There are loads of little kindnesses to make my day

Tupperwaremofo · 28/04/2024 21:30

CleverLemonCat · 28/04/2024 21:17

Hmmm, crochet pjs sound fab but might be a tad itchy. Can report that young woman next door moved in despite thinking house is HAUNTED!

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Haha. Those are good, thin, spying walls. Well, if she annoys you with any more slanderous comments (whilst eavesdropping through the wall) you can buy some old chains to rattle around with whilst making your 10 pm Horlicks. Good luck 👍

TeaGinandFags · 28/04/2024 21:25

Milk that old lady vibe and you'll never do DIY again.

I've knitted from the age of 14.
I've always talked to cats.
I love gardening apart from the bloody squirrels.
I've had a rocking chair since I was 26.
And crocheting is very à la mode.

BIossomtoes · 28/04/2024 21:22

43 is not middle aged!

It really is. It’s halfway through for most people.

BIossomtoes · 28/04/2024 21:20

I’m old. It’s a shock, isn’t it @CleverLemonCat? In my head I’m still 18.

Marplesyrup · 28/04/2024 21:17

Fluorescentgem · 27/04/2024 20:17

Of course you're old. You're 63. I'm 43 and I'm definitely middle aged and getting on. I think you're a bit delusional if you think you're not old. Better than being dead though.

43 is not middle aged!

55-65 middle aged
65-75 older person
75 -85 elderly
85 + old

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CleverLemonCat · 28/04/2024 21:17

Tupperwaremofo · 28/04/2024 21:12

Sit in your fabulous crocheted pj's, stroking your cat and spying on your young neighbours to your hearts content. You've earned it. Let us know what they say next.

Hmmm, crochet pjs sound fab but might be a tad itchy. Can report that young woman next door moved in despite thinking house is HAUNTED!

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KTMeetsTheRsUptown · 28/04/2024 21:13

Reallybadidea · 27/04/2024 15:15

Why do your neighbours know about your pubic hair disappearing? 😱

I was wondering about that too 🤔 😅 😂

Tupperwaremofo · 28/04/2024 21:12

Sit in your fabulous crocheted pj's, stroking your cat and spying on your young neighbours to your hearts content. You've earned it. Let us know what they say next.

Eddy0987654321 · 28/04/2024 21:07

I’m 58 nearly 59. All the younger family members, 21 up, think I’m old. We are. 😬

take10yearsofmylife · 28/04/2024 20:55

This is funny, I am 49, my teens called me old which I don't mind and care. Those who called a 63 year old 'old' now probably won't feel the same when they are 63 theslmselves. 😁

Taboo1 · 28/04/2024 20:52

You are not being unreasonable!

The fact that you buy plants for your garden shows that you are still in good health and in tip top condition.

By the way, I talk to my guinea pigs all the time, if that counts?

PersephonePomegranate23 · 28/04/2024 20:52

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:16

Haha, put it in to see if anyone else remembered the song!

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I got it and I'm early 40s! I don't know how times I watched Chitty, Chitty, Bang, Bang as a child!

Gonners · 28/04/2024 20:50

I would let on that I'd overheard and complain that "old woman" is rude and that the polite term is "old lady". Then guilt-trip them into mowing your lawn.

LeanneNZ · 28/04/2024 20:44

I’m 60 and it isn’t considered old . But I guess it is if you are 30!

JudgeJ · 28/04/2024 20:29

QuaintLemur · 28/04/2024 20:07

I know what you mean. I'm thinking of bribing the check out staff to ask if I'm under 18.

When we used to go to New Mexico we were always asked for ID to buy beer, it's the law, but it made us feel good!

JudgeJ · 28/04/2024 20:27

Maia77 · 27/04/2024 21:47

You're not old. For me, I notice somebody's 'old age' once they're over 70.

No, stop it!

A friend's grandson said his teacher was very old and she asked why. He told her that he'd seen her age in her cardigan when she'd taken it off and she's 38!

Pussygaloregalapagos · 28/04/2024 20:20

I usually think 0-30 young 30-60 middle aged, 60 to dead old.

so yeah you are old. Sorry.

AgitatedGoose · 28/04/2024 20:10

@DisabledDemon I agree and think ageism and ageist comments need to be addressed. It's the one ism that no one takes seriously or actively challenges.

Reluctantgarderner · 28/04/2024 20:09

DaisyHaites · 27/04/2024 15:23

I’d say 60s and 70s are old lady territory. 80+ I’d say is elderly.

Somehow old lady sounds worse than just ´old’ !!

Howyoualldoworkme · 28/04/2024 20:09

I'm 68 and when I was at the hairdresser the other day the junior called my pale green faux leather jacket 'Cool'
So take that old age! 😁