OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

Sorry I posted in wrong bit

You might be better to start your own thread. You'll get more responses.

I made a terrible mistake at work, it was noted HR are involved, I've had a discussion which could lead to disciplinary action, I'm so stressed out I got upset in the meeting, cant tell my husband my heads a mess, i just need to vent its a mess! I don't want to lose my job

63 is not old. You are older, yes, but not old. Old is always 10 years more than one's current age. It's really a state of mind. I'm older in years than you and I know 50-year olds who are far older than either of us. It isn't phraseology that ages one nor one's clothes; it's being a grown-up. Heaven save us from ever being a grown-up.

Sorry 😂 - some people do age very badly.

(In the sing-song voice of ?Evie in 'The Mummy') "You're not helping!"😂

Sometimes people look older than they are.

@CleverLemonCat My parents are in their mid-60s, and they're always saying "We're getting old". So to me, people approaching their mid-60s are old. You'll be considered elderly as soon as your 70s.

I consider myself as "getting old" and I'm in my 40s 🤷.

It's just life.

I am 54 and have piles of folded fabric, 'just in case'. I have proudly taken delight in my seedlings growing outside, I use a slow cooker often, make soup. I was singing 'Yellow Submarine' all morning (hate that song). Just ordered a multipack of full brief cotton pants, I don't answer door, phone or do anything I cba with & I like a supportive back pillow. On the other hand I love an ale, loud music sometimes, wearing whatever I want.... Converse, mod parks and yellow jumper...yes please! ripped (legitimately) jeans, red trainers, stripey top and a Barbour... yes please. Beers at 5pm and bed at 8.30pm to watch Home of the Year ..oh yes. Just do your own thing!! 'Old' is what young people that don't get it say.

Try being stuck in a "care" home - hopefully not for much longer. Patronising doesn't even come close. "HELLO LOVEY" "what's gone wrong?" etc, etc, etc. I have to keep telling them I'M NOT DEAF! and the only thing that has gone wrong is being in here. I'm 62 and treated like I'm 102 and suffering with galloping dementia. Keep your independence for as long as possible, milk your advancing years by getting other people to do things for you, even though you can do them yourself - save all your energy for fun things and let them wear themselves out.

A good few years ago, my DH filled car with petrol, then went to cash point and forgot to go in to pay.
He received a visit from the police, who had copy of incident form completed by cashier.
He was glad to see "possibly accidential" box ticked rather than "definitely deliberate"
Less happy with description of driver-
"old bloke in a suit"
He was in his late 40s

New lawnmower was designed for a very tall man. Is VERY heavy and handles come up to armpits.

What make is it? My husband is tall and moans that lawnmowers are designed for dwarves and give him back ache.

@QuaintLemur No you definitely don’t deserve the disrespect that’s commonly shown to older adults. I’m not yet 60 but have grey hair and am slightly built. I do all the outdoor activities you do and climbing as well. The amount of ageist comments I experience is unbelievable-sweetheart, oh bless, be careful you might fall and hurt yourself etc. I now do most of my outdoor activities on my own and in isolated areas to avoid this kind of demeaning idiocy. Recently when so was standing on a low stool pruning a tree in my front garden I had a dickhead come and stand with his hands held out as though to catch me. He soon beat a hasty retreat when I told him to stop being a complete f—k wit.

70 isn't near the end of your timeline. My Mum was 92 and my Nan 103 when they died, so you've got years ahead of you. Keep doing what you're doing - use it or lose it. 3-4 years ago I was fit and strong, then I had several health problems and ended up in hospital, I had to learn to walk again. They were threatening to amputate at least one leg! but I held on to both and plan to get back to full fitness. Age is a state of mind and at 62 I am having to start my life again, but I think 60 is the new 40, and remember we lived through the 70s and 80s which was the last time there was anything decent in the charts so we already have an advantage over today's "youngsters".

Yay! Bravo! I along with most of my incredibly irresponsible friends would second this!!

Oh gosh - howling at this!!

😜love it
You need to buy scented geraniums . The scented geraniums have really pretty flowers

That's exactly it! It's how other people regard you. I don't want to be thought as lesser somehow because of when I was born! There's no denying it happens and very often here on this very site! It's demoralising.

I have as much to give in life as I ever had - in some ways more due to all my experiences!

It's not me, it's other people who equate being old with being a has-been burden. If I was knocked off my bike by a dangerous driver (it has happened) I would be described in the press as a doddery old aged pensioner. If I defended myself against an intruder, I would be described as a granny who nutted a burglar. Nothing about me being 5'9" of toned muscle with dodgy knees and an impressive CV! And that's the problem with labels. They generalise and take away individuality.

This is why people insist they are not old. They equate being old with being a hasbeen burden and being disrespected.

If you are self assured other people will latch on to you in times of confusion, e.g. cancelled/postponed flights etc, its not really anything to do with age. If you look like you know what you are doing it gives other people confidence. Also they can pass the buck and let you sort out the problem. Some people are natural leaders, irrespective of their age.

I remember being about 10 and telling my mum about this lovely new friend I had made. She was old but still very nice 🙂

She was about 20.

I must have thought something was off maybe with my 'old' friend or my mum's response as the memory stayed with me and the penny dropped a good decade on!

I'm nudging 70 so I know I'm getting to the end of my timeline. But old? Why do I have to have that label? I kayak, cycle, walk, swim miles and I'm economically active. I have friends of all ages, they know my age but don't treat me as though I'm about to drop off the edge. During my life I have achieved so much; do I honestly deserve the disrespect of being treated as a has-been burden?