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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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Manzana · 27/04/2024 17:12

ha ha, "My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin". Not just me then, also 63.

parkrun500club · 27/04/2024 17:12

I have no interest in gardening so I am not old. 😂 me too :)

parkrun500club · 27/04/2024 17:11

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 27/04/2024 15:19

Regardless of how you feel, 63 is old though, isn't it?

It's not elderly. But it is old. It's certainly not young.

The guy in Southport who's 112 probably thinks 63 is young Grin

Delphiniumandlupins · 27/04/2024 17:10

I am older than you but only slightly. I am unable to judge whether people are old or not. I am very cross you have put Chitty Chitty Bang Bang in my head and I am trying to replace it with something else.

LakeTiticaca · 27/04/2024 17:10

A bunch of 14ish year old schoolgirls once referred to me as "grandma"
I was 23.........

Dontcallmescarface · 27/04/2024 17:06

I remember being front and centre at a rather energetic gig once. As everyone was leaving a young person (looked about 18/19), said to me "I hope I'm as energetic as you are when I'm your age"....I was 38 at the time. Two decades on and I'm still front and centre but it takes a couple of days for the hips to stop mithering me. Also I have no interest in gardening so I am not old. 😂

coldcallerbaiter · 27/04/2024 17:05

I always felt old was when you got your pension. That is 67/68 so you are not old yet. Make the most of your next 4 years of youth!

LakeTiticaca · 27/04/2024 17:05

I feel your pain. I'm 63 in years but in my head I'm in my 20s.
The illusion is shattered when I look in the mirror and see my mother staring back at me 🤣🤣

theresnoonequitelikegrandma · 27/04/2024 17:02

We have young neighbours too (and are of a similar vintage to you) and I was really touched that, in lockdown they would always ask how we were doing when we were out in our respective gardens..until I realised that they thought of us as the vulnerable elderly people the government were asking us all to look out for! 🤣🤣

CamoPenguin · 27/04/2024 16:57

I'm half your age OP and not seeing anything wrong!
I still find it weird that people with a birthday in the 2000s can buy alcohol, they're all still toddlers, surely.

EmpressSoleil · 27/04/2024 16:56

I'd take the win, in that they described you as nice!

I love an age thread on MN. "Some" people get very worked up about what constitutes "old". It's funny how we don't really see it as an insult until we get to that stage ourselves.

I'm 55 this year, technically middle aged. But I do have grey hair. Young people may well describe me as old. I don't mind. I think your attitude of finding the humour in it is far healthier than horrified denial.

Crowgirl · 27/04/2024 16:46

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

Other than I probably don't look like your mum or mine I think we might be the same person and I'm in my 30s.

Belatedeyebrows · 27/04/2024 16:44

You just described my life. I'm 35. reaches for crochet hook

fairysarereal · 27/04/2024 16:36

I have a full set of false teeth ive knitted 3 blankets and ive just finished a quilt.
Along with talking to myself and finding silence blissful and the noise of kids get right on my nerves.
Im 37.

LostittoBostik · 27/04/2024 16:35

I think 70 is the start of "old" - but if they're very young then maybe they can't see the difference between early 60s and early 70s.
Don't worry, time will catch up with them too eventually

Supersimkin2 · 27/04/2024 16:34

Geraniums are cool at the moment. So am
I. Just finished tweaking a junior human for a shoot for A Well Known Fashion Chain.

I’m 56 and all the kidz want my white-blond hair. I love bedsocks, a warm jersey and sitting in the car with sandwiches too. And emojis.

LostittoBostik · 27/04/2024 16:33

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 27/04/2024 15:15

You're not old, mind you I don't see my 80yo mother as old so I'm probably not the best judge. Then again I'm only 20 but I've been 20 for 35 years.

GrinGrin

Nannyfannybanny · 27/04/2024 16:32

73, and not old..my 2 DD,53 and 32, assure me I'm not. They are my biggest critics
. I met a relative by marriage, white hair, curly perm I thought she was in her 80s, I was 51, she was just a couple of years older
. one of my friends has a mother my age, she also rocks the 50s white perm. I became a grandparent at 42, woman I worked with sniggered, said doesn't that make you feel old, nope. We worked together, she was 27, me 41, she asked the patients how old they thought she was, they said definitely older than me. I must admit she had a tight curly perm as well. When I was pregnant with my youngest,a lot of people asked if she was my first, and I actually had a 21 year old.

bryceQ · 27/04/2024 16:30

I love a garden centre trip and I'm 34!

tillytoodles1 · 27/04/2024 16:29

I know how you feel. I live in an over 55's flat and one day a young lads car wouldn't start, I overheard him on the phone telling someone that he was by the old people's home!

VincentVanGoth · 27/04/2024 16:29

I’m mid 40s and have always felt relatively young for my age, but last week I went to my colleagues 25th birthday party in a nightclub and the next day I’d aged 20 years.

MrsScrubbingbrush · 27/04/2024 16:28

SoftPuppyBlanket · 27/04/2024 15:26

Yes, you are old! Let's face it, most 'young' people are not stocking up on wool and buying geraniums for shits and giggles 🤣
I will say though your post was funny! Definitely not lost your sense of humour no matter how advanced in years you may be!!

I must have two prematurely 'old' 28 year olds then.

One not only talks to the cat but has conversations with her hamster.

The other has a box of wool under her bed so she can crochet things when she wants.
🤣

LammasEve · 27/04/2024 16:26

Oh God, I'm younger than you and I have geraniums!

I've always had conversations with the cats, they are very good listeners and only slightly judgemental.

Luxell934 · 27/04/2024 16:25

You’re old to them, but someone in their 80s might call you young 🤷🏻‍♀️ it is what it is!

OldTinHat · 27/04/2024 16:22

Wait until you are congratulated on your friends 70th birthday. For being 70 when you're 52.

Or taking your 77yr old mother to a museum and being asked if you are also a 'senior'. When you're 52.

I'm only ever booking senior tickets to anything from now on as I'm apparently ancient!! 😆