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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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Viviennemary · 27/04/2024 17:34

You will be old to them. It's just how it is.

diddl · 27/04/2024 17:33

Well tbf you have put "young neighbours".

I guess you mean "younger than you" & they mean "older than them"?

stayathomer · 27/04/2024 17:32

They heard you singing chatty chatty bang bang op. That did it!!!edited to say: chitty!!!🙈

CJ0374 · 27/04/2024 17:32

@YouSayChorizoIsayChorizo I expect OP was referring to the Chitty Chitty Bang Bang lyrics - "Near, far, in our motor car" - rather than being wilfully archaic.

Yes, I was aware of that 🙄 Its called sarcasm!!! 😆

MrsCarson · 27/04/2024 17:30

Yeah we're old I'm only a year behind you.
Embrace the old age We'll all be there one day, even the new neighbours.
I went looking for new spring/summer tops today, found nice ones only couldn't get them as they had no stretch and I'm getting issues with my shoulders so can't get them on and off.
I went to M&S and bought bigger bras that look like I'm going into battle, but they are bloody comfy.
Carrying a few extra pounds
Pubes have left the building
I was buying Geraniums in my 20's last plant I got was Camelias last month.
If I get on the floor to look under the bed for anything, it takes time to get back up.
Dh fell on his back on the grass verge middle of nowhere while out on his bike and couldn't get up, got the giggles, and had to roll onto his hands and knees today, that was a first for him.

MsLuxLisbon · 27/04/2024 17:29

ByUmberViewer · 27/04/2024 15:13

You are old. 63 is old. I'm approaching that age myself.

Is being old a problem?

63 isn't old. Nowadays, I barely think of anything under 80 as old.

SleepQuest33 · 27/04/2024 17:29

How dare they 😡😂
I think with your sense of humour you’re destined to be young forever!!

next time you see them mention they’re welcome to join your swinging parties, every Tuesday all welcome 😂

HelpMeGetThrough · 27/04/2024 17:29

I felt old when I was in hospital.

I'm 52 and convinced the doctor was 14, or doing a very good impression of Doogie Howser!!

(you have to be knocking on a bit to know who Doogie Howser is).

PuppyMonkey · 27/04/2024 17:28

Hang on. My pubic hair isn’t disappearing anywhere so far - is there something wrong with mine? I’m 57.Confused

Gymnoob · 27/04/2024 17:27

JustWhatWeDontNeed · 27/04/2024 15:19

Regardless of how you feel, 63 is old though, isn't it?

It's not elderly. But it is old. It's certainly not young.

Yes I agree with this. I’m in my 30s and starting to feel old 🤣

DrinksbytheSea · 27/04/2024 17:27

How young are they op? When I was mid-20s my nan was 63. I guess I considered her old… she wouldn’t have been happy!

harriethoyle · 27/04/2024 17:26

@CleverLemonCat i don't care how old you are but you are fecking hilarious. If any reassurance, I (F:45) tried to buy window box geraniums last weekend and the garden centre sent me away because it's too early. Tbf it hailed this morning so they might be right 🤣🙈

RedPandaPop · 27/04/2024 17:26

I’ve recently turned 30 and I’m getting hairs on my chin 😱

Age is all relative OP. There will be teenagers who think I’m old, and people in their 70’s who will see me as a spring chicken. You’re only as old as you feel.

Also, getting older is a privilege denied to so many.

Wigtopia · 27/04/2024 17:25

My Nan is mid-90s and she doesn’t see herself as old, and is shocked if anyone calls her old but will refer to people 20years younger than her as “that old boy” or “that old girl” 😆😆

Pushmepullu · 27/04/2024 17:25

Manzana · 27/04/2024 17:12

ha ha, "My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin". Not just me then, also 63.

God, I’m 62 and this happened a few years back for me!
OP, I think that it’s the geraniums that are making you feel this way. You have to consider buying more modern plants. Oh, and buy period pants - like Tena but makes you feel younger when pay for them.

WickedSerious · 27/04/2024 17:25

WelshNerd · 27/04/2024 16:12

My mum is 71 and often talks about "the old ladies" at her club. Obviously she's not old but the 75+ ladies are.

I'll never forget my sister's neighbour refusing to be admitted to hospital because 'they'll put me on a ward with old people and I don't like old people'.

She was 95.

glittereyelash · 27/04/2024 17:21

Reminds me of someone guessing my age to be ten years older than I am because I'm apparently so mumsy and mature. The actual outrage 😃

Bumply · 27/04/2024 17:20

I'm 61 and starting to feel old in some ways.
Wouldn't bother me if I heard a neighbour call me old.

I'm a member of a running club with a wide demographic age wise.

I usually have coffee after parkrun with club members younger than me.

The one time I joined the older than me contingent I realised that was a step too far in accepting aging - not that they were particularly old, but the conversation felt different.

Pushmepullu · 27/04/2024 17:19

Summerhillsquare · 27/04/2024 15:12

Embrace it and wear purple around them.

And a red hat.
(if you know, you know!)

Whattodowithit88 · 27/04/2024 17:18

Yes you’re old. I’m late 30s and old to my neighbours who are young guns around early 20’s. (They look like babies to me)

TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2024 17:16

I remember being 22 and thinking my manager was old… he must have been early 40s! I’m not 42 and mortified that’s what I thought🙈😂

Phoebefail · 27/04/2024 17:14

I voted 'old biddy trajectory'. Talking to your cat indeed!
I hope you are not nagging it for answers.

YouSayChorizoIsayChorizo · 27/04/2024 17:14

CJ0374 · 27/04/2024 15:17

You've referred to your neighbours as young, but they may not use that term themselves, same as you don't consider yourself old.

In addition to the motor car, do you also own a wireless and a speaking telegraph? 😂

Sorry if this has already been addressed but I expect OP was referring to the Chitty Chitty Bang Bang lyrics - "Near, far, in our motor car" - rather than being wilfully archaic.

Ofcourseshecan · 27/04/2024 17:13

I realised I was old when people started saying “Bless you” to me — when I hadn’t sneezed.

Still enjoying life, though!

VeronicaBeccabunga · 27/04/2024 17:12

Old and just back from the garden centre to pick up tomato plants, cukes and courgettes. In the vague hope that it might stop raining and the sun might come out.
Quite enjoying being old and stroppy and getting OAP rates on things but mightily pissed off by smirking younger men in supermarkets going
'Are you over 21, young lady?' when I buy gin. Disrespectful and patronising and above all not funny.