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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 27/04/2024 17:49

Well, there’s a donation box in the local supermarket to support over 55s.

greengreyblue · 27/04/2024 17:49

God please tell me you didn’t show the neighbours your sparse pubic hair!!!!

NotAgainWilson · 27/04/2024 17:49

When we moved into this house, we were the “babies”, the young twenty somethings. I am now the old lady and I’m just in my early 50s. Some people say I look younger but for all these new comers I am still ancient 😁

Tandbikkies · 27/04/2024 17:49

I'm not at all old.

I still rock my size 10 skinny jeans and trendy boots with pride
I have very active hobbies and am better than averagely fit
I love going out with my many pals for Prosecco and pizza (or whatever .....)
I can operate all the latest tech and a love a smart watch/iPad etc etc
I can walk for miles with my dog every day
I have a profitable side hustle which earns me a nice amount of "fun money"

... nope, not old at all.

I'm 70 .....

AcrossthePond55 · 27/04/2024 17:48

Nannyfannybanny · 27/04/2024 17:45

55 isn't middle aged, not many people live to 110.

Yes it is, because we all intend to do so!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 27/04/2024 17:48

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 27/04/2024 15:26

Geraniums are not ageing. Begonias now….and as for aspidistra 🦖

How about gladioli? To me they’re a particular type of aged-person flower - who doesn’t necessarily look like Edna Everage. (Particularly if they’re that horrible salmon pink colour.).
I dug some salmon-pink ones up from the front garden not long ago - planted by the former owners of the house, at least 30 years ago. I’d wanted to do it for ages.

BeaRF75 · 27/04/2024 17:47

Be reasonable, OP - when you were their age, you'd have called a 63 year old person "old" as well! I'm nearly 59, and I'm happy to be described as "old"because 1) that's what I am and 2) there's nothing wrong with being old - it means you have maturity, experience and wisdom!

Itsnotallalark · 27/04/2024 17:47

You sound like my kind of neighbour OP! (Another old biddy here @ 65)

bunnibee · 27/04/2024 17:47

something else to ponder OP,

at our age, we 'have a fall'

younger people fall over!!

AcrossthePond55 · 27/04/2024 17:47

I'm older than you @CleverLemonCat but I'm not old yet. Old age is always 5 years older than one's current age.

I'm not wearing purple with a red hat yet. But I've conquered some of the other things mentioned. And definitely making up for 'the sobriety of my youth', but in ways other than drinking too much lol.

https://www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poem/warning/

Warning by Jenny Joseph - Scottish Poetry Library

When I am an old woman I shall wear purple / With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me. / And...

https://www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poem/warning/

BigMandsTattooPortfolio · 27/04/2024 17:47

Haha. I remember being 14 and thinking that everyone over 24 looked past it! The arrogance of youth.

semideponent · 27/04/2024 17:46

CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

But, OP, is it the old or the nice that gets you? Bring out the purple!

Nannyfannybanny · 27/04/2024 17:45

55 isn't middle aged, not many people live to 110.

FrannieGallops · 27/04/2024 17:45

Twas ever thus. When you were young, someone in their 60s seemed ancient.

Are hydrangeas old lady territory? I am 52 and have created an entire hydrangea bed. If it’s wrong, I don’t want to be right.

worcesterpear · 27/04/2024 17:45

You sound young, in fact I am doing most of your things and I'm quite a lot younger (I feel old though).

5foot5 · 27/04/2024 17:44

SabreIsMyFave · 27/04/2024 15:16

Or your Jim Reeves Greatest Hits cassette. Shock 😆

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Since my old motor car died I no longer have a device that plays cassettes.

Lifeomars · 27/04/2024 17:43

I can remember being 28 and an 18 year old said to me "I hope I look as good as you when I am your age"! Thing is, I can recall that when I was 16 I thought 25 was proper old, after all it was a quarter of century and in the words of Marilyn Monroe in Some Like it Hot, being a quarter of a century "makes a girl think"

Thecatistheboss · 27/04/2024 17:42

op can we get a pic of the geraniums, I love them And i‘m 40 😂😂

EwwSprouts · 27/04/2024 17:42

Well you are a little older than me. However, DS was in stitches last week when we were on holiday and twice people offered me their seat on the local bus. So maybe we are both edging there? 😲

LightDrizzle · 27/04/2024 17:41

Luckily I don’t think we see our loved ones age objectively. DH is 62, his friends of a similar age look old, and there’s no way I’d go out with them let alone shag them. Fortunately DH doesn’t look old: despite his thinning grey hair, paunch, wrinkles and stiff gait.

Nanaof1 · 27/04/2024 17:40

@CleverLemonCat I am older than you, so no, you are not old.

I go by the adage, "I'm like Peter Pan. I may grow old; but I staunchly refuse to grow up."

Also, thank you (not). Now that song is running through my head! I will have to start humming "Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious" to get rid of "Shitty-Shitty Bang-Bang". 😉

Lorrymum · 27/04/2024 17:40

I'm 66 and recently returned from a holiday in the Orlando. Had a great time on all the theme park rides etc.
At my flight check in I was asked if I was medically fit to travel (thank you Virgin). It made me suddenly feel extremely old.

Combattingthemoaners · 27/04/2024 17:37

🤣 you sound like a hoot

coxesorangepippin · 27/04/2024 17:35

Very funny op

You can live next door to me anytime op

RagzRebooted · 27/04/2024 17:34

ByUmberViewer · 27/04/2024 15:13

You are old. 63 is old. I'm approaching that age myself.

Is being old a problem?

I've got colleagues this age and I don't think of them as old. Older, yes, but not in the way I think of my elderly patients.