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OMG, am mortified/horrified and shocked...........

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 15:07

Young neighbours have just moved in next door. This morning (wasn't eavesdropping, honest) heard a relative ask if they had met any of their neighbours, oh yes they replied...there is a nice old woman next door. Old? I'M ONLY 63!!

This got me wondering if I was giving off 'old lady' vibes.

Possible indications:

I occasionally glance in a shop mirror and wonder why my mum is there dressed in my clothes.
My pubic hair is disappearing, and seems to be making it's way to my chin
Last week I bought 3 lovely geraniums
Last year I bought and planted a hydrangea in my garden
After a couple of tiny accidents, am wondering if I should buy some tena lady knickers.
Caught myself wondering if I should crochet a bed jacket ...it can be chilly in bed whilst reading a book!
Am having actual conversations with my cat
My box room is stuffed with wool ' just in case'
This morning, completely out of the blue found myself singing the song from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang and I CAN'T GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Jumped - in my motor-car - and bought 3 more geraniums

Indications I am not old:

Ermm, I am young in my head!

I am not being unreasonable, you are in your prime!
I am unreasonable. You are heading into old biddy territory!

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 21:05

Gonners · 27/04/2024 21:02

What exactly IS old?

Old is anyone more than 5 years your current age!

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Fingeronthebutton · 27/04/2024 21:03

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 27/04/2024 15:15

You're not old, mind you I don't see my 80yo mother as old so I'm probably not the best judge. Then again I'm only 20 but I've been 20 for 35 years.

Of course the OP is old she’s 63. In days of yore she would have been receiving her old age pension.
Please don’t think I’m being ageist, just stating a fact that can’t be denied.
Btw, I’m 77.

Gonners · 27/04/2024 21:02

What exactly IS old?

ChannelLightVessel · 27/04/2024 21:02

My late aunt used to send cards to lonely old ladies at church, when she was in her 80s.
A nice young man offered to help me with removing the metal shutters at the charity shop where I work. I am 52.

mentalbandwidth · 27/04/2024 21:00

I'm 39 and now have an ear worm of 'here there in a motor car oh bang bang chitty chitty bang bang' 🫠 have slid into the old category now haha!

PS OP you aren't old 🥰

StMarieforme · 27/04/2024 20:59

ByUmberViewer · 27/04/2024 15:13

You are old. 63 is old. I'm approaching that age myself.

Is being old a problem?

63 is not old fgs.

It may be older, but it's not old!

Livelovebehappy · 27/04/2024 20:59

I feel your pain. I had an altercation last week with a parent from the neighbouring school blocking my drive. As I turned away he called me a ‘miserable, deranged old cow’. I was upset. Not at being called deranged, miserable or a cow, but the fact he called me ‘old’. Booked in for Botox next week…..

VenetiaHallisWellPosh · 27/04/2024 20:56

I'm 46 and have many of your traits OP 😱😳😂.

Crochet is hip again, apparently. My teenage daughter has just started learning. 😳

babymidgetgem · 27/04/2024 20:55

Well I'm 42, and I think I pretty much checked off everything on your list...😵

Jenasaurus · 27/04/2024 20:55

I'm heading your way. I'm 59 and for the last 6 years my son has suggested I think about moving to a bungalow as soon I won't be able to manage the stairs! Funny when you consider I have 3 lots if stairs to negotiate at work and can't retire until 67 😂

HGP · 27/04/2024 20:52

OP I am 32 and I overheard someone at work say ‘we don’t really speak much as we are in such different age categories’ - they are the younger party 🥲

You sound like a lovely YOUNG neighbour to me!

Bigcoatweather · 27/04/2024 20:49

I’m later forties and while I see 63 as an ‘older’ age, I don’t see it as ‘old’. If I think of people I know in their 60s, none of them are anything less than stylish, interesting, dynamic and working in responsible jobs. 70 is ‘old’ to me.
Times have changed….people in their 50s used to look old in the 1970s/80s. People are fitter, working and living longer.

AcrossthePond55 · 27/04/2024 20:48

TorroFerney · 27/04/2024 18:33

I remember studying this at school so would have been 1985 ish. I've just looked and it was written in 1961 so i suppose It has stood the test of time as it's still the poem everyone refers to when talking about old age.

I wonder what was so risque about "summer gloves" to be a thing that she mentions she will do when she is old?

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No real idea, but I wonder if 'winter gloves' were of a heavier material like kid leather, heavy cotton, or wool/wool blends and 'summer gloves' were more likely to be of thin cotton, lace, or chiffon-ish material.

Summer vs winter gloves must have been kind of like the old chestnut of 'never wear white after Labor Day' (US 1st Monday of Sept). I know my mum and her friends adhered to that one religiously in the 60s, especially when it came to shoes. White shoes in September? Gasp, the horror!!! TBH, not exactly sure when that 'rule' was thrown out for women of Mum's generation. Certainly my generation never paid attention to it (teen in late 60s/early 70s).

Greeneyegirl · 27/04/2024 20:48

lostoldname · 27/04/2024 16:18

Did they catch you using the Merlin bird app

Oh god 33 I'm and love that app

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/04/2024 20:47

Well how young are they. In my late teens and early 20s anyone over 40 was decrepit. 🤣

Gonners · 27/04/2024 20:44

@fairysarereal · Today 16:36
I have a full set of false teeth ive knitted ...

Gosh! If I get you the wool, can you knit me some? 😆

Snazzysausage · 27/04/2024 20:43

SabreIsMyFave · 27/04/2024 15:16

Or your Jim Reeves Greatest Hits cassette. Shock 😆

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Or The Spinners on 8 track.😄

MissingMoominMamma · 27/04/2024 20:40

SoftPuppyBlanket · 27/04/2024 15:26

Yes, you are old! Let's face it, most 'young' people are not stocking up on wool and buying geraniums for shits and giggles 🤣
I will say though your post was funny! Definitely not lost your sense of humour no matter how advanced in years you may be!!

My eyes are dim- I read that as moist young people…

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CleverLemonCat · 27/04/2024 20:38

Update: being 63/64 rocks! Popped to tesco and there were 17! boys blocking pavement. I smiled, they said sorry, moved their bikes and I passed through them like moses crossing the red sea! - am chuffed

Less good:

cat is VERY annoyed with me. 1. I bought the wrong flavour sheba cat food, she will not accept that I wont pay £5.50 in tesco and she will have to wait until home bargains open tomorrow. 2. It is evidently my fault that it is raining both at the back and front of the house. I have tried reasoning with her and failed.
I have remembered that I also have gladioli. Am tempted to go to garden centre tomorrow to ask for plants YOUNG people are buying as previous pp has suggested. ( I might be making that up).
Are violas a mistake? Display table was crowded with VERY old people when I bought them.
Have moved from custard creams to fry's chocolate covered Turkish delight.

OP posts:
Lorrymum · 27/04/2024 20:37

Im surprised you haven't been pointed in the direction of Gransnet! It was once suggested to me during a thread on here.
Age is relative, my Nana used to look after the "old folks" in the flat below her. My Nana was 87!

katepilar · 27/04/2024 20:29

Is this just a joke?
Obviously at 63 a person isnt young. Why does it bother they called you you an old lady. As if being old was something weird.

Stoptherideiwanttogetoff24 · 27/04/2024 20:26

Your post made my day 🤣🤣

howreyou · 27/04/2024 20:26

I mean you’re in your 60s and probably look your age. There’s nothing wrong with that and it’s not an insult about your personality or lifestyle etc. “old” has many definitions it doesn’t need to mean elderly

JudgeJ · 27/04/2024 20:26

danitheastrologer · 27/04/2024 19:58

63 is pretty old. If the average life expectancy is 83 then at 63 you are in your last stage of natural life. We will all get there if we are lucky. Don't be offended.

Oi, not it isn't! Age in your head not the mirror, your passport, your bus pass or your birth certificate.
I'm a lot over 63 by the way.

Willmafrockfit · 27/04/2024 20:25

of course you are not old
60 is the new 40!
you rock that bed jacket!