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To think any man would know this wasn’t acceptable.

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Mummytoswiftie25 · 27/04/2024 10:39

I took my DD to a movie with a few friends yesterday - it was a specific movie they had been waiting to see and so they went all out and dressed up in costumes.
we were waiting in the food court outside and the girls were mucking about hugging etc when a man approached us with his mobile phone out and lifted his phone up, I automatically went “ what are you doing “ and he proceeded to then ask us if it was ok to take a picture of any DD alone. I asked him if he had taken any other pictures and to move away. I called security over and asked to see the photos he has taken, he had taken a few of the girls playing around and then told security it was a mis understanding and they he just appreciated her costume, deleted the photos and they let him leave.

surely any man I would say 35-40 years old would know this to be wrong ?

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40andlovelife · 27/04/2024 11:28

This must have been so scary.

He's a nonce. Plain and simple.

Motherland2624 · 27/04/2024 11:27

I like the way you got him to delete the photos in front of you 🙌

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 27/04/2024 11:24

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I'm no these questions have any relevance AT ALL to justify photographing someone without their express consent?

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 27/04/2024 11:23

Totally out of order and so incredibly creepy. Fantastic you not only challenged this but alerted security too 👏

I saw something on the BBC last week about men filming and taking photos of inebriated young women during nights out and then uploading them to some website where it was a free for all with misogynistic comments.

So absolutely no excuse

Lookwhosbackbackagain · 27/04/2024 11:10

He sounds like a prev to me. Did he delete the photos completely or just to his deleted photos file?

Mummytoswiftie25 · 27/04/2024 11:03

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Not sure the relevance but it wasn’t a revealing costume, child friendly.
he was on his own around 35-40 but would say more like 40.
spoke good English, didn’t seem confused and had a local accent ( very northern so we know it well ) wasn’t a misunderstanding.

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Pheeeeebs · 27/04/2024 10:58

El creepo indeed YANBU

DreamyMintFish · 27/04/2024 10:49

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Mummytoswiftie25 · 27/04/2024 10:46

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Yes.

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RoderickHosclassicblackhoodie · 27/04/2024 10:42

As convincing a line as the bloke that claimed he'd photographed my breastfeeding friend in the park (without her knowledge or consent) for the local paper. Which he couldn't name.

jeaux90 · 27/04/2024 10:42

Not ok well done op

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SilverBranchGoldenPears · 27/04/2024 10:41

What an absolute creep of a man - or a plain idiot. Glad you jumped in!