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MIL won't join but does her own

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LordyPutts · 26/04/2024 22:44

I am lucky to have grown up near to a steam train line where we regularly saw Thomas the Tank Engine sat on the line.
Now that I have a little boy I want to take him along to this event, but I'm hesitant to pay the extortionate fee because to me I've seen Thomas loads throughout my life, and DS will likely do so too, but ofc I was DS get to ride along and be able to join in with the activities.
I invited MIL and Mum to join us for a family day out, but MIL declined because she's antisocial she says she isn't interested.
She then asks to take DS on a day out the weekend prior, and DH lets slip she wants to take him to see Thomas for the day.
AIBU to not want to let her take him before I can? Especially as she'll pay the eye watering amount when I'm not that fussed to do so.

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Southeastmumma · 26/04/2024 23:01

She wants to take him there, spend the time with him, and pay for it all. He gets to enjoy the magic and so does she. You don't have to pay the eye watering cost or put up with the tedium, sorry I mean keep the magic to yourself, of really meeting Thomas. As long as you don't mind missing Thomas just this once it sounds great, they can both have a nice day.

Dacadactyl · 26/04/2024 23:00

I'd say "great we can all go together the weekend prior"

charabang · 26/04/2024 22:58

I'd think about what my son would want.

JellyBabiesSaveLives · 26/04/2024 22:54

Slightly confusing.

You want to take DS to see Thomas but you think it's too expensive so you're not going to?
And his grandma wants to take him and will pay for it but you don't want her to because you want to do that with him?
Reasonable to say no to her if you're going to do it the next weekend, and you've invited her to join and she's declined. Unreasonable if you're not going to go either.

SmallIslander · 26/04/2024 22:52

Offer the weekend after you go and see how she feels about that.

PotatoPudding · 26/04/2024 22:48

Would you be posting this if it was your mother, or is it just because it’s MIL?