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buttonchocolate · 26/04/2024 22:28

A male was caught on camera whispering to a small boy and then biting his ear in a potentially sexual way.

The police are now involved too

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ExhaustedHousewife · 27/04/2024 13:06

penjil Busybody? Are you mad? This is disgusting how you are excusing an Adult man licking and biting a child in a sexual way.look at the unpixelated version and tell me it's innocent behaviour.

AhBiscuits · 27/04/2024 13:04

I agree there is no licking. He says something to him then nibbles his ear.

ExhaustedHousewife · 27/04/2024 13:02

People who don't see anything wrong in this behaviour are absolutely blind.

AIstolemylunch · 27/04/2024 13:02

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 27/04/2024 12:51

There is no licking. The video is bad enough without people making shit up.

Are you visually impaired?

Trulyme · 27/04/2024 12:54

Lots of women are coming to his defence saying they do stuff like this all of the time.

I know of a couple women in real life who have weirdly close relationships with their kids (usually sons) and it does make me feel uncomfortable.

Part of me thinks if he was an abuser, he wouldn’t do this in a public place as they are much more careful.

But I still find it so weird and uncomfortable.

I also feel sorry for the poor kid whose friends and classmates have all seen it and won’t forget it, which is probably worrying him just as much as his dad being investigated.

NotReadyForAutumnYet · 27/04/2024 12:54

motheronthedancefloor · 27/04/2024 10:23

I have mixed feelings about this.
If it was a family just messing around, playful nip in the ear, sort of thing, then all these stories in the news etc could cause a lot of upset for an innocent family.
But if there is something going on, obviously the police should investigate.

This is my feeling too. Concerns could have been reported without it needing to go viral. Whether it's something or nothing, the wide circulation of this clip will amp up the damage to that kid.

SabreIsMyFave · 27/04/2024 12:53

Ewww, this has given me the collywobbles. This man is treating this boy as if he's his lover. Gross. I feel sick! 😑

ArseholeCatIsABlackAndWhiteCat · 27/04/2024 12:51

AIstolemylunch · 27/04/2024 12:29

He clearly kicks him first before biting his ear. Some of you need to get your glasses prescription updated.

There is no licking. The video is bad enough without people making shit up.

Trulyme · 27/04/2024 12:50

Itsonlymashadow · 27/04/2024 06:42

I saw the video and there was creepy behaviour right up until the biting.

The way the man’s demeanour changed when he realised the camera was on them was really shocking.

TBH, I feel quite upset the child’s face has been plastered everywhere. That child is, in my opinion, already in an awful situation and now had their face shown. The child must be very distressed by it all.

I completely agree!

The biting is weird but it’s the nuzzling and the behaviour leading up to it that made me feel more uncomfortable.

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LizzieSiddal · 27/04/2024 12:45

DrJoanAllenby · 27/04/2024 12:20

The man was visibly startled when he realised he was being filmed and then started wobbling his head about and grinning to try and make the situation lighthearted.

But several people have said these two were on camera for at least 10 minutes before this incident and were laughing and waving at the camera, so he did know he was on camera.

I don’t like the interaction at all, I’m not one for physical “jokes” but maybe it is innocent.

AhBiscuits · 27/04/2024 12:44

It's creepy AF. If it was just a bit silliness I'd have expected the child to be laughing.

AIstolemylunch · 27/04/2024 12:32

Licks not kicks

AIstolemylunch · 27/04/2024 12:29

He clearly kicks him first before biting his ear. Some of you need to get your glasses prescription updated.

DrJoanAllenby · 27/04/2024 12:20

penjil · 27/04/2024 12:02

It was just the kid's dad dicking about in front of the cameras.....

I'm sure whoever reported it was a complete busybody, and Soth Yorkshire police won't take any further action in what was a bit of fun between father and son.

Stop clutching you pearls.

The man was visibly startled when he realised he was being filmed and then started wobbling his head about and grinning to try and make the situation lighthearted.

ontheflighttosingapore · 27/04/2024 12:18

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That's exactly how I interpreted it too. He wasn't thinking he would be in shot and then realised and pretended it was fun ! Disgusting creep

ontheflighttosingapore · 27/04/2024 12:16

penjil · 27/04/2024 12:02

It was just the kid's dad dicking about in front of the cameras.....

I'm sure whoever reported it was a complete busybody, and Soth Yorkshire police won't take any further action in what was a bit of fun between father and son.

Stop clutching you pearls.

Very dangerous attitude and exactly how child abuse goes unreported and carries on get into the real world there is no way that was harmless fun kids need protecting

1offnamechange · 27/04/2024 12:10

On the face of it it seems weird but haven't there been enough examples that show how dangerous 'trial by social media,' is?

There are lots of things that other families do that I personally find weird - parents and children who kiss each other on the mouths, families who are happy being completely naked around each other (after the children are school age or older), people who don't close the door when they are on the toilet, etc.

BUT I recognise that other families do things differently and what seems weird to me is completely normal in other families, as long as both parties don't mind it.

So if I saw a grown man kissing a 12 year old girl on the mouth I probably would instinctively think 'yuck' because it's so far from my experience and I couldn't imagine doing that to my dad/daughter. BUT I wouldn't jump straight into 'incestual peodophile!'

MoonWoman69 · 27/04/2024 12:06

buttonchocolate · 26/04/2024 22:28

A male was caught on camera whispering to a small boy and then biting his ear in a potentially sexual way.

The police are now involved too

That is creepy footage. I see on YouTube, where the uncensored version is, that people are trying to say it's the mans wife, who looks male and childlike!!! Anyone can see it's a young male ffs!
Let's hope the police can get to the bottom of this. Nothing about that looks innocent, even if it's his child, who does that?!

penjil · 27/04/2024 12:02

It was just the kid's dad dicking about in front of the cameras.....

I'm sure whoever reported it was a complete busybody, and Soth Yorkshire police won't take any further action in what was a bit of fun between father and son.

Stop clutching you pearls.

DrJoanAllenby · 27/04/2024 12:01

I feel sorry for the boy because even if there is the remotest chance an innocent explanation (I can't think of one) he's going to get robbed about it at school and perhaps things could even turn nasty.

If abuse is uncovered he's lost his anonymity.

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Willmafrockfit · 27/04/2024 11:41

social media is just going too far

Longma · 27/04/2024 11:16

Whilst it seems inappropriate from the short clip, it's much better the video isn't shared unpixelated and it is left for those in authority to investigate, not for random people to share and make assumptions hours after the event, and after the police have commented they are aware. The latter will not help the child - whose image is now widely shared across social media - regardless of what the situation is.

The sharing of that child's image across public social media is concerning.