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AIBU to ask if sometimes you feel just so exasperated by your DH?

35 replies

kokomilan · 26/04/2024 21:43

.... That really. I mean I understand sometimes marriage can be hard work. But this week, I just kept thinking, errrkkkk I wish DH would just go out so I can have the house just for myself. Or working late to avoid him a bit. I find tolerating small things that I didn't use to notice harder.

I don't know if it's normal or worrying? Nothing big has happened and we generally have a happy life.

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phoenixrosehere · 27/04/2024 08:59

Hoglet70 · 27/04/2024 07:44

I think it would be weird not to live with someone and not have times when they drive you a bit demented, it's part and parcel of relationships.

Agree.

I’m not menopausal and feel this way in spells. It’s usually because I haven’t had time to myself or very little of it.

Fairyliz · 27/04/2024 08:49

Hoglet70 · 27/04/2024 07:44

I think it would be weird not to live with someone and not have times when they drive you a bit demented, it's part and parcel of relationships.

Yes I agree.
I have been on several holidays with friends that I really like , doing something that I want to do but sometimes end up feeling mildly irritated by them.
It’s probably worse with your DH as you spend more time with them just doing daily chores.

Hoglet70 · 27/04/2024 07:44

I think it would be weird not to live with someone and not have times when they drive you a bit demented, it's part and parcel of relationships.

DustyLee123 · 27/04/2024 07:37

Pheeeeebs · 27/04/2024 07:28

Menopause is often quoted for this type of irritation, both on and off MN.. can I ask why women should consider menopause as an explanation for their partner being so annoying?

How can women of a certain age tell the difference between hormones and a plain variety annoying partner?

Sorry I’ve not helped your AIBU. However, I asked a friend this question last week to which they told me it is probably that your partner is annoying and you have less patience for their behaviour.

The lack of oestrogen, the ‘caring’ hormone, is often the explanation for less tolerance as we get older.
I certainly tolerate my DH better on HRT.

Catinmyshedoh · 27/04/2024 07:34

TBH no, he really doesn't get on my nerves much at all. I don't like it when he's not here.

Noicant · 27/04/2024 07:33

No not really, whats he doing thats irritating? Dh and I are quite good at being quiet together. The crisp munching though, that is really irritating.

LittleBooThang · 27/04/2024 07:31

No. I love mine and value every second we spend together.

Iaminthefly · 27/04/2024 07:30

I'm singlw but tbh most of the women I know seem to feel like this about their partners.

Pheeeeebs · 27/04/2024 07:28

Menopause is often quoted for this type of irritation, both on and off MN.. can I ask why women should consider menopause as an explanation for their partner being so annoying?

How can women of a certain age tell the difference between hormones and a plain variety annoying partner?

Sorry I’ve not helped your AIBU. However, I asked a friend this question last week to which they told me it is probably that your partner is annoying and you have less patience for their behaviour.

DustyLee123 · 27/04/2024 07:20

Are you perimenopause age by any chance?

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