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To feel so sad about what happened to our town?

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AbstractThought · 26/04/2024 16:05

I wasn't born here, DH was, and I have seen it discussed on MN in the past. I am aware that many towns across the UK are in a similar situation, so this probably isn't anything special, but since most people talk about shop closures I wanted to look at it from a different angle.

In the past decade we have a ton more issues in the town than previously, often relating to homelessness and addiction, and the town centre, what's left of it, has become completely over run by these problems with groups of people fighting and street drinking. A lot of these people are in extreme difficulty, whether mental health related and/or drug issues. Crime shot through the roof, and even about 8 streets away from this it spills outwards to us in what was once a fairly quiet place to live.
We now have a constant stream of siren noise, day and night, helicopters are daily and whilst we personally haven't felt in any actual danger there is a horrible sense of decay and hopelessness. Just nipping to the closest supermarket is depressing, there are a lot of neglected animals and people having meltdowns in the streets.

It is how it changed so quickly though. I can't get my head around where it all started or why. I am aware of the contribution of politics, covid, all of that stuff, but it seems so incredibly extreme. The siren noise is the worst, it is piercing and never seems to end. This also seemed to explode around the same time as the area went downhill. Probably a mix of police and emergency vehicles. It is difficult to work or relax at home and if you are a light sleeper it can have an impact there too.

What I am wondering is if this is commonplace now, in what was once a thriving town? It is the sheer amount of troubled people which seems to have escalated the most, and I can't get my head around how this has evolved, in such a short space of time. It is like they weren't here, then suddenly appeared, it is difficult to describe it. Obviously the council can't do a great deal to help and I have no idea what the answer is. The most upsetting thing is that a lot of these people are so messed up that they can barely talk in a way that is decipherable. This includes children, and there is a growing amount of people who have barely any teeth. This is a fucking severe problem and I have no idea what will help it. We have mucked in with a few local charities but it barely scratches the surface in my opinion.
We are moving due to work relocation soon, so whilst it may not be 'our' problem after we have gone, this isn't the point. I am just so sorry that it has come to this, in likely even more places than just here. WTF happened??

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NoisySnail · 29/04/2024 15:49

I think people with good teeth do not understand that not having access to dentists does lead to teeth being taken out. Small preventative treatments at the dentists that used to be routine are now not happening for many people. So by the time they can see a dentist, tooth removal is often the only option.

MibsXX · 29/04/2024 15:44

AbstractThought · 26/04/2024 16:25

But Jesus it's grim, and as a gen x person I honestly never thought I would see this in the UK. Places had rough spots, some were idyllic, but nothing like this.
It just seems so sudden. It's horrifying to contemplate so many failing services. A lot of the people I mention don't seem to be new to poverty or issues though, I think many of them are generations into it. I doubt people are losing all their teeth and speaking a barely discernible language due to the cost of living alone. I still don't understand how they just seemed to appear all at once though. Where were they before??

I'm losing my teeth and gaining poorer and poorer health from many mouth abcesses, simply because there are NO NHS dentists for over 100 miles of where i live, and the private ones all wanting circa a thousand pounds per stub to remove whats left.. per tooth! I don't have that so am surviving on painkillers and soft food best I can, cant sleep , dont remember a day without pain in the last ten years and hate being out in public, it's humiliating. Cost of living and cutting of services are huge drivers for more people than you realise

MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 13:56

So free market capitalism does not exist. A bastardized version operates globally.

Capitalism relies on selling a solution to, in the first instance, an identified need or problem, and convincing people to buy it. Psychological marketing tactics are big business, have been since Edward Bernays started working on it in the 20s and 30s. (Much to the delight of the Nazis who applied his methods to propaganda with great success).

Once a market is saturated, businesses need to get creative. They can do this by inventing a need that no-one thought they had, marketing it, and building on it.

Technology has aided greatly in this endeavour. Relax morals and standards, offer impossible dreams, make people desperate to "fit in" and voila, a never ending cycle of sucking "disposable income" out of the populous.

That's a very simplified version, but this is what's happening. And whether a commodity I'd legal, moral or necessary is irrelevant when the only goal is profit.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 13:34

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 12:40

but in reality everybody is too busy due to progress and trying to survive to actually do anything because stamping out serious criminality would upset the financial apple cart.

Sorry, mistress, another question:
How would stamping out drug criminality upset the financial Apple cart for anyone other than drug dealers and cartel runners?

Because the supply chains are often embedded in "legitimate" businesses Because bribery and blackmail of people in authority is a thing. Because of money laundering. It's all a very complex Web. Because cut off one head, another two will grow.

Crikeyalmighty · 29/04/2024 13:33

@taxguru I remember when we lived in Copenhagen being surprised that a member of Danish parliament was suspended for claiming 200 Euros on his expenses that he used for taking his wife out for a meal- I don't think it would even register here.

taxguru · 29/04/2024 13:02

Crikeyalmighty · 29/04/2024 12:50

I think Jeremy Clarkson said something very telling on Top Gear once- they were talking to a bunch of Germans about people driving without licenses or insurance or tax etc- and to a man they all said 'but you can't do that- it's the law' - it simply didn't seem to enter their heads that people here did indeed do these things even though it's 'against the law' - a certain section of society (and it's not remotely linked to immigration etc) think that laws don't matter - take the consequences 'if' you get caught and a total lack of policing in all areas of life mean the likelihood of getting caught is way less than it was .. we have allowed the rise of the feral underclass . It's these people that then become dealers, Nick cars, deliberately cause crashes for cash insurance scams, they want the trappings of money but without being prepared to put the hours and effort in without instant big rewards..

Nail on the head. I remember seeing that episode and thought exactly the same. We seem to have lost our moral compass in the UK.

Crikeyalmighty · 29/04/2024 12:50

I think Jeremy Clarkson said something very telling on Top Gear once- they were talking to a bunch of Germans about people driving without licenses or insurance or tax etc- and to a man they all said 'but you can't do that- it's the law' - it simply didn't seem to enter their heads that people here did indeed do these things even though it's 'against the law' - a certain section of society (and it's not remotely linked to immigration etc) think that laws don't matter - take the consequences 'if' you get caught and a total lack of policing in all areas of life mean the likelihood of getting caught is way less than it was .. we have allowed the rise of the feral underclass . It's these people that then become dealers, Nick cars, deliberately cause crashes for cash insurance scams, they want the trappings of money but without being prepared to put the hours and effort in without instant big rewards..

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 12:40

but in reality everybody is too busy due to progress and trying to survive to actually do anything because stamping out serious criminality would upset the financial apple cart.

Sorry, mistress, another question:
How would stamping out drug criminality upset the financial Apple cart for anyone other than drug dealers and cartel runners?

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 12:38

You're not wrong that the countries you mention in particular are publicly very hard line when they get hold of drug dealers. However if that is a tip of an iceberg, how much goes on underneath?

I don’t know but I do know in the case of Singapore and Korea (I can’t speak for other countries in East Asia) drug taking is very frowned upon and if someone is caught they are ‘cancelled’.
The reaction is similar to what happens here is someone is exposed as a racist.
Sometimes actors are caught - a recent example being a brilliant Korean actor called Yoo Ah In. He was tested for cannabis on his return to Korea from America and traces are enough there to be arrested - he wasn’t found with anything on him. Then he was discovered to have illegally procured propofol from doctors.
He has lost everything and he hasn’t even been found guilty in a court of law yet.
He has lost all his drama/film roles and he’s even been edited out of a recent drama he made. Another film in which he starred has not been released.
This is what happens to celebrities who are caught taking drugs there. If an office worker or factory worker was caught they’d be out on their ear.
So there may be some ketamine in night clubs but I honestly don’t think there is an opiate endemic like in some countries in the west.

Leah5678 · 29/04/2024 12:37

This ain't going to be popular opinion here but we've got to start death sentencing drug dealers. Not just the damage done to lives of people addicted is ruined but also their kids who are neglected and victims of crimes like theft to fund the habit. Yes there are cartels in South America and fentanyl coming from china but it's supply and demand and I guarantee that demand will go right down if we start putting drug dealers out of their misery (I am not talking about teenagers who sell a bit of weed).
No way is it right that someone selling hard drugs should be coming out of prison after less than a year

MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 12:16

As you can tell I'm pretty cynical which I acknowledged fully reflects the way my personal circumstances have dragged me into a pretty dark place.

You're not wrong that the countries you mention in particular are publicly very hard line when they get hold of drug dealers. However if that is a tip of an iceberg, how much goes on underneath?

Japan in particular has a strong gang culture with regard to drugs.

Another "industry" that is allowed to proliferate apparently is around sexual exploitation. The Internet has fueled that, particularly in the case of images of minors. Is it truly beyond the capability of law enforcement with access to technology to seek out the perpetrators and shut it down? Or again, are there people profiting both financially and serving their warped desires who are loath to truly protect the vulnerable because their selfish needs come first?

I know I'm being really dark here, but years of watching this all play out and apparently spiral out of control makes me wonder what the hell is going on.

It's as if we live in two worlds sometimes, the one where everybody is up in arms and determined on paper to improve things, but in reality everybody is too busy due to progress and trying to survive to actually do anything because stamping out serious criminality would upset the financial apple cart.

As Dirk Gently would say it appears everything is connected.....

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 11:57

It's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. What drives people to addiction? What allows drugs to be pretty readily available?
Hopelessness is a driving factor I think.

Yes I’m sure hopelessness is a driving factor but as you say, it’s a chicken and egg situation.
X says he drank because he lost his job and his wife left him….or did he lose his job and his wife left him because of his drinking.

If dealing drugs is profitable a blind eye is turned because the goal is money.
Maybe but countries have been trying to stop drugs entering because of the appalling damage wrought by them to society and the only people who benefit are the dealers and those running the cartels.
Drug use damages profitability as addicts are usually unemployable.
Capitalists countries like Singapore, Korea and Japan certainly don’t turn a blind eye to drug dealing.

AbstractThought · 29/04/2024 11:44

lol Grin

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MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 11:39

Todaywasbetter · 29/04/2024 11:30

To the poster, your negativity it’s just overwhelming. Everything is conspiring to defile society in your eyes even the sound of the cars.
You’ve got a spiral going on take advice from your friends

Eh?

Todaywasbetter · 29/04/2024 11:30

To the poster, your negativity it’s just overwhelming. Everything is conspiring to defile society in your eyes even the sound of the cars.
You’ve got a spiral going on take advice from your friends

MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 11:27

It's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. What drives people to addiction? What allows drugs to be pretty readily available?

Hopelessness is a driving factor I think.

Capitalism focuses on money at all costs, the accumulation of it, the obtaining of it, the power having money confers etc. If dealing drugs is profitable a blind eye is turned because the goal is money.

I wonder if we will see complete collapse of society to be honest.

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 11:19

The sheer scale of today's problem may be an unintended consequence but it is a consequence.

You may well be right, Mistress, but what to do about it?
The opiate problem is completely out of control and as far as I know there has been no effective way of stopping it.
Some countries in the Far East don’t have the problem but it’s only getting worse in many countries in the west.

icelolly12 · 29/04/2024 11:14

Loulou599 · 27/04/2024 09:00

I'm from France but have always loved the UK and have lived here a lot, across the country.

Yes we can have problems in France and Spain as a PP mentions but truly the level of degrade in the UK is something else. I believe it is to do with no social pressure. The UK seems to really have changed on that level since I first came in the 80s. There's an air of "I do what I like", whether it's the junkies or parents with their kids. People don't hold other people in check anymore. Anything is permitted.

The UK seemed to start sliding away from Europe culturally and embraced the American wild west feel, but the problem is: Americans have the space to do that, brits don't.

I also agree with PP there is a lack of responsibility for one's own. If people felt able to work "as a mob" to say "who do you think you are?" there would be less bad behaviour on the streets. If people felt socially and emotionally obliged to support and fix their own people, there would be less broken people roaming the streets.

The attitude is "where are the police, where are the council, where is the housing" instead of "where are the brothers, where are the neighbours, where is the society"

I agree in rest of the world I never see groups of unruly, rude and sometimes downright scary groups of teenagers ruling the roost like you do here across the country. In other countries children/teens are either far more mollycoddled or alternatively grow up much faster and have to work. Here we give them freedom but no rules.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 29/04/2024 10:56

Homelessness fueled by drug addiction is the result in part of corruption higher up the food chain. It's a black economy industry and if you think that law enforcement, councils, transport companies and even politicians haven't benefited from it since the explosion in the 60s you are extremely naive.

Look it up. Look up how drugs were allowed to proliferate in the US partly as an experiment to see what would happen. LSD was actually put into circulation in some towns as part of MK-Ultra operations. This is not tin foil hat conspiracy theory, it is documented fact.

The sheer scale of today's problem may be an unintended consequence but it is a consequence. Like it or not, drug money helps the world economy keep turning, and pissing about with raids here and there and criminalising low level dealers of weed is sticking a plaster on an arterial spurt.

Cartels in South America keep whole towns in line by helping the locals using part of their profits. At a cost of course. A brutal, bloody cost.

Traces of cocaine have been found on toilet cisterns in the House of Commons for Heavens sake. When those at the heart of power are having a little pick me up but can afford to, you realise what we're up against. And honestly some of the policy making in recent years makes me wonder just how high some of our ministers are most of the time.

Leah5678 · 29/04/2024 10:44

Alexandra2001 · 29/04/2024 06:19

No they haven't, well not sorting the problem, it was about £400m last year, much of which went on legal fees fighting whether the 'city can move on the homeless who declined a shelter.

Homelessness isn't solved by putting people in a shelter, its a long term term problem where some focus has to be on prevention, which takes money, education and early years intervention.

I agree money isn't the only solution but without it, social issues just get worse, just as a lack of it on an individual basis is a problem too.

Unfortunately, the right wing always sits back and does nothing until the public demand action, at which point its often too late and large amounts of money are wasted on "firefighting" e.g see how the Tories throw money at the NHS each autumn to deal with "winter pressures" :( how about long term regular funding instead?

I feel like drugs aren't mentioned enough on this thread, talking about San Francisco have you not heard of fentanyl? No amount of "nice" ideas is going to stop that. I know someone who was arrested for selling crack and heroin and out of prison within one year.

Alexandra2001 · 29/04/2024 07:57

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 07:44

Alexandra
Isn’t the homelessness problem in some American cities such as San Francisco largely caused by drugs and the easily available fentanyl and other opiates?
I don’t know how anyone from the right or left is going to tackle this.

Like i said Prevention is the long term solution.

We have homeless problems too, do nothing and we will end up like the US.

Ginmonkeyagain · 29/04/2024 07:57

San Francisco also has massive housing problems due to high rents driven by the tech explosion there.

Barbadossunset · 29/04/2024 07:44

Alexandra
Isn’t the homelessness problem in some American cities such as San Francisco largely caused by drugs and the easily available fentanyl and other opiates?
I don’t know how anyone from the right or left is going to tackle this.