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Boyfriend kisses gay friends on the lips

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Lilaclala · 26/04/2024 14:53

My partner has a few gay friends that he's known for years. He met them all through a friend. I went on a night out with him and them recently and was quite taken aback to see him greet one of them with a peck on the lips and then later kissed the same man on the hand at the bar. He's a friendly jokey person in general but am I right in thinking this is a step too far and a bit unnecessary and inappropriate, especially in front of his partner?

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VickyEadieofThigh · 26/04/2024 15:38

I think he's bisexual or gay.

CasperGutman · 26/04/2024 15:31

He may or may not be bisexual. But a peck on the lips isn't necessarily sexual (it's pretty commonplace between parents, children, siblings in many families) and doesn't have to mean he is or wants to be unfaithful to you. As a straight man I have, once or twice when younger, briefly kissed close male friends on the lips - e.g., when they were in fancy dress on a stag night, or when trying to demonstrate a level of comfort with same sex intimacy in diverse company.

At the end of the day, though, if it makes you uncomfortable then ask him not to do it! Maybe suggest he goes for a flamboyant French-style air kiss instead?

44PumpLane · 26/04/2024 15:16

He could be bisexual, or gay, or straight and this is just how they have always greeted each other.

ByUmberViewer · 26/04/2024 15:11

Yes he's gay. No straight man would do that.

RockItLikeRocketFuel · 26/04/2024 15:09

GoodnightAdeline · 26/04/2024 14:57

He’s in the closet. And trying to make a joke out of it so you won’t suspect.

Well he's leaving the door open so everyone can see in, then.

ImNotThereAmI · 26/04/2024 15:08

I’d say it’s unusual for a straight man to kiss another man on the lips as a greeting. Or indeed another woman. Kiss on the cheek would be more expected, so I think this would make me feel uncomfortable too op

Lilaclala · 26/04/2024 14:57

Ps. When I questioned him about it he said it was just 'banter'

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GoodnightAdeline · 26/04/2024 14:57

He’s in the closet. And trying to make a joke out of it so you won’t suspect.

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