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aibu to think I can forgive my partner for DV

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Hospitalbaby · 26/04/2024 12:42

Married 11 years, two kids under 5.
It's happened twice. Once when I was 17weeks pregnant (a push) and more recently at Christmas (a push again)
Although I wasn't hurt I was very shaken up.
I think about it daily.

My DH is in therapy and hugely trying to fix what he's done.
Aibu to think maybe I can forgive and stay in this relationship?

OP posts:
BodyKeepingScore · 26/04/2024 12:44

To me, this would be unforgivable. He had an obligation to seek out therapy so that he can change his behaviour in future but you have no obligation to keep putting yourself at risk just because he's allegedly working on himself. I know a few men who have been on DV courses. Not one of them ceased the behaviour.

Nousernamesleftatall · 26/04/2024 12:43

No. Protect children and leave.

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