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Saying shut up to a 1/2 year old

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Redruby2020 · 26/04/2024 11:48

I could say alot about this situation, and I can elaborate if needs be.
But I just want to focus on this point for now. Parent/s saying shut up to a child whether it is said in a nice or nasty way I don't think it's appropriate. Said child is now saying it back to the mother, which obviously children will do. And today, mother has got annoyed when child has said it back to her.
Well that is very hypocritical for a start.

Also what do you think of kids being stuck in all weekend, there might be some days out, or events happening. But can very often be stuck in from Friday after school until Monday morning.
Also in the holidays unless a holiday is planned, maybe out 1/2 times in a week. There is a garden and children aren't encouraged it doesn't seem, to go out in it. I am aware said children have asthma which I'm sorry to say it, the mother smoking heavily throughout both pregnancy's can't have helped.
Do you think that's got anything to do with being more anxious about taking them out etc?!

Also letting youngest run up and down the kitchen/sitting room from 8/8.30 anywhere up until 10/11pm. I'm not saying for 2/3 hours straight, but frequently throughout those hours.
I have to put my headphones on because once my DC is in bed. I want to do some chores and unwind a bit etc before bed. This is all I have to listen to every night.
And them waiting up for whenever the bf father of the youngest out of two kids, gets there. Who apparently doesn't live there, so she claims on her own, but is there 7 days a week. He is a big mouth too doesn't care that anyone else might have kids asleep I find it all very disrespectful.

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YoureStuckOnMeLikeATattoohoohoo · 26/04/2024 11:55

You really don't like them, do you?

If they are noisy neighbours you can complain to the council.

The rest of it is their choice as parents. Not ideal, but not abusive.

WillJeSuis · 26/04/2024 11:55

Is this a neighbour? You can't exactly call social services because someone is saying shut up to their toddler. I think you just need to keep wearing your noise cancelling headphones and hope that either of you can move away in the next few years.

Sugarcoatedalmonds · 26/04/2024 11:53

I'm assuming they live next door to you?

They aren't parenting choices I would make but there is very little you can do. Instead of judging why don't you offer support?

Redruby2020 · 26/04/2024 11:53

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 26/04/2024 11:51

Very little of that has anything to do with you, or the problem, which I guess is noisy neighbours.

Oh ok it's just for things like that others have paid consequences for. So why is it others business what people do with their kids when it suits, and not on other occasions 🤷🏻‍♀️
Weren't we told that child welfare is everyone's business?
Also if someone claims benefits and has a partner living with them that is not included, that is nones business either then.

If you are being affected by the going's on and noise, why is that not my problem either?

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MereDintofPandiculation · 26/04/2024 11:53

You really don't like the parents, do you? I'm not really sure that other people's parenting choices should be a concern of yours, what you're describing isn't abuse.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 26/04/2024 11:51

Very little of that has anything to do with you, or the problem, which I guess is noisy neighbours.

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