Clothing in the gym

The difference between you and a man is testosterone. I’ll await my deletion for stating facts. And I’ll await someone accusing me of being a man.

Glad to see mumsnet have deleted some posts.

Funnily enough, I'm a bisexual woman, very attracted to women. I have never once in my life found myself in an environment where a woman wearing more revealing clothes has made me uncomfortable becuase she looks hot, or becuase she doesn't look hot. I can look at a woman in any clothing and think "damn" and then continue with my own life without any issue.

So what is it about men that makes them so obsessed with what we wear? And makes them so angry about how we look and how we make them feel? Because it's not simply the attraction.

You can wear whatever you want and if it makes people uncomfortable or makes them want to assault you then that's a them problem.

Well he’s a knob. Yes some of the bras I don’t get how they support but they can wear whatever they like. I do run in my leggings and sports bra as it’s so hot in there and I do 5k but I out my t shirt on after but if I want to stay like that I should be able to! There’s a guy in my gym though who wears a set of leggings and tight long sleeve top. He has a few in different matching colours. I feel a bit uncomfortable with the view but even then that is my problem not his

My partner doesn’t claim to not notice. Why are you making things up? How odd.

He notices women like I notice men. Neither of us stare like creepy bastards because we are not creepy bastards and don’t wish to make other people feel uncomfortable.

It’s not difficult to act like a decent human even when in the company of attractive people who aren’t wearing much. If you don’t, you’re part of the problem.

Sigh.

We all notice people. We all find people attractive. We don’t all continue to stare. Not all men think sexual thoughts about women they see in public places to the point of getting an erection.

Those scrunch bum shorts and leggings are ridiculous (there was a thread about them the other week).

I see women in very little and just think are they not cold! I'm there in leggings and a hoodie and no one needs to see my middle aged belly so definitely no crop tops or just my bra 😂.

Control his behaviour of course. But there's nothing perverted about an adult male feeling something in response to a scantily class human female. Men are usually very visually responsive in contrast to women who are more interested in emotions. I suspect your partner is lying if he genuinely claims to not notice a scantily clad sweaty woman in close proximity. Either that or he's quite unusual.

I’m not a man fgs

Yes I think you did need an explanation

Then you were utterly, laughably, risibly, embarrassingly, blindingly, unbelievably, can't-understand-why-people-sit-down-in-the-gym wrong and I agree that you need to be ignored.

He sounds like he goes to the gym to get a hard on. Nothing he's written would make me care about a single word he says, or cause me to criticise women. A MAN HAS SPOKEN doesnt float my boat.

Yes in the gym I see some women wearing really skimpy gear- and thats only very occasionally. I might think wow thats a but much but the next moment, the thought is gone. Im in the gym to work out. Thats all. & if I felt uncomfortable at a gym for some reason, I'd switch gyms. Simple. All men look at women, but to have to write about it as he has is giving incel weirdo vibes

Explain = mansplain

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Yes I think you did need an explanation. You think it’s sexism when it’s a hormonal response. The man in the OP hasn’t acted on anything or done anything to anyone. He’s told the internet how the gym wear makes him feel.

I don’t give a shit how people dress.

All I’ve tried to do is to explain the screen shot that OP posted.

Do you think we didn't understand it by ourselves the first time? Why do you think we needed your explanation to understand a sexism we live with every day?

the stuff the OP posted is still what plenty of men feel and think

Did you think we didn't understand that, either?
What do you think we're objecting to?

We know a lot of men (and women) hold women responsible for their own failings. That women are morally lacking if they dress to please themselves and expect men to control themselves, whatever their internal response is.

Was this news to you?

I’ve looked back a few posts and she seems to be taking about therapy/anal sex? No I don’t do therapy or anal sex. The only people I have services off that I can think of are my window cleaner and hairdresser. So I doubt I am her client.

All I’ve tried to do is to explain the screen shot that OP posted.

You can think I am man, a troll, a perv, a weirdo and you’d be completely wrong. I’m just a middle aged mum.

you can disregard everything I’ve posted - I have no shits to give - but the stuff the OP posted is still what plenty of men feel and think and that has nowt to do with me.

I agree that poster should be ignored. Grim.

I'd already discounted them for saying there's no reason to sit down at a gym. Don't think they've ever seen any weights-based machines, let alone a woman in scrunch bum shorts using one.

The padding on those things is probably quite comfy, though. Ironically, it would actually stop you getting a wedgie.

This biology defence of the view in the OP post is selective in its observations. Our biology encompasses more than sexual behaviour. It also includes our ability to socialise, which is built on identifying or agreeing socially acceptable behaviour in groups and adaptin as needed. Our biology also includes feelings of shame, embarrassment, guilt etc which help guide this process. What's really happening when that's used as a defence is a willful casting aside of all the science and biology that's inconvenient 🤷‍♂️

My partner who is male and manages to control himself when there are women wearing tight clothing or not very much clothing, because he’s a grown man who isn’t a dirty pervert.

You don’t agree with me.

You don’t agree with the screen snap in the OP.

who do you think you are saying that everyone should ignore my views? The thread police? People can read and ignore what they want, without you dictating what they have to think.

no wonder your thoughts are too inflexible to consider what the OP’s screen shot says - because in your world, people have to think what you tell them!

The world's evils were never caused by women's clothes, they were caused by men failing to master themselves and act decently and then blaming it on either women or "biology". If you can be defeated so hopelessly by a pair of fugly trousers, you shouldn't be leaving the house.

Besides, we all know that desire isn't the problem here. It's misogyny and rage; the fury that women can elicit an internal response in a man and he has to be responsible for controlling it. It's projection and deflection.

Yes but are you female? There's a basic biological difference here. No point being all smug about it.

I'll happily tell you I truly don't. The design is intended to emphasise the glutes and give an illusion of more of a "pump" than the wearer has. An evolution of the contour type shading Gymshark made commonplace.

If you see that and think "anal porn" I think that's more to do with saturation in the subject because of your line of work.

Are you one of @LaurieFairyCake clients?