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Clothing in the gym

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Sapiens · 26/04/2024 09:15

I have seen this going around - do you agree with him?

I think I do, I really don't understand the current trend of ridiculously small shorts shoved right into arse cracks and bandeau bras for working out.

I go to the gym 2/3 times a week and feel no need to dress like this.

Or, are they just 'dressing for themselves?'

Clothing in the gym
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WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:39

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:38

Hopefully something pg, lest he struggles to control his wanton erections.

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😂

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:38

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:37

And I’m going to watch some tv with my husband. But you can carry on ignoring my points.

Hopefully something pg, lest he struggles to control his wanton erections.

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:37

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:36

Because people keep accusing me of being a rapey lechy man! And I’m not.

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Obviously MN thinks you're speaking like a rapey lechy man. Maybe that's something you should reflect on.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:37

And I’m going to watch some tv with my husband. But you can carry on ignoring my points.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:36

I’m a woman

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:36

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:34

Why don’t you ask MNHQ to trawl through my posts.

What? Why on earth would I do that?

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Because people keep accusing me of being a rapey lechy man! And I’m not.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:35

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:30

Posts were deleted because they broke talk guidelines. 😅

I don’t think my posts did. I can’t see them though as they’re deleted.

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:34

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:34

Why don’t you ask MNHQ to trawl through my posts. It won’t be clear to you, as I name change quite a bit, but it will be crystal clear to them that I’m a woman.

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Why don’t you ask MNHQ to trawl through my posts.

What? Why on earth would I do that?

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:34

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:31

I haven't reported any posts actually, but I wish I had.

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The worst are gone now. I don’t think mumsnet should give certain people a platform so I’ll keep reporting anything that is misogynistic and victim blaming.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:34

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:31

I haven't reported any posts actually, but I wish I had.

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Why don’t you ask MNHQ to trawl through my posts. It won’t be clear to you, as I name change quite a bit, but it will be crystal clear to them that I’m a woman.

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:34

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:31

Why are you calling me a man?
and rapey Shock

you want me banned because I think the OP’s screenshot represents a serious and common issue ??????
ok

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The "serious and common issue" is men being gross.
Not women existing and wearing clothing.

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:34

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:29

You have called me a menace to society. If that’s not a personal attack, I don’t know what is.

im a middle aged mum, been on this (echo chamber) website for years. I don’t exhibit lechy behaviour - I’ve been married to my husband for 25 years. I have no sexual interest in anyone else on the planet, male or female.

nothing I wrote breaks talk guidelines, but I’ve been accused of being a man, a perv, a client of someone’s.

shutting down comments that I’ve made is dangerous to women.

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It was a generic "you" and I thought that was plain in the context, since I was very clear I was talking about people who can't control themselves when they see padded leggings. If you recognise yourself in there, which you appear to have just confirmed, then yes, if the shoe fits...

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:31

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:29

Exactly. Just keep reporting him and ignore him. He’ll get bored or be banned.

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Why are you calling me a man?
and rapey Shock

you want me banned because I think the OP’s screenshot represents a serious and common issue ??????
ok

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:31

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:29

Exactly. Just keep reporting him and ignore him. He’ll get bored or be banned.

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I haven't reported any posts actually, but I wish I had.

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:30

Posts were deleted because they broke talk guidelines. 😅

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:30

Josette77 · 26/04/2024 21:26

When I see women dressed like that I think Damn! That woman looks great! She worked hard for that body. 💝

I've been sexualized my whole life. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing. I'm thin with big boobs and a butt.

If someone is going to sexualize women they don't know, they will do it any ways. Wearing a potato sack won't make a difference.

Quite. I've been sexually harassed, groped, pestered and objectified while wearing perfectly normal clothes by any reasonable standards. The idea that all I have to do is not wear bum scrunch leggings, which have existed for about five minutes, would be funny if it weren't so ignorant, sexist and misogynistic.

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:29

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:28

You might be glad, but I don’t think deleting my posts helps this serious issue.

Wrong as usual. Posts like that rapey bullshit are the issue.

Exactly. Just keep reporting him and ignore him. He’ll get bored or be banned.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:29

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 20:12

Nobody gives a shit about thoughts, Winston Smith. Think what you like. But keep pervy, lecherous and intrusive behaviour to yourself. If you can't do that, stay home. You're far more of a menace to society than a pair of stupid looking leggings.

I think you do stay home, though, because nobody who's ever spent a minute in a gym would think people don't do seated exercises or sit to take rest stops there.

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You have called me a menace to society. If that’s not a personal attack, I don’t know what is.

im a middle aged mum, been on this (echo chamber) website for years. I don’t exhibit lechy behaviour - I’ve been married to my husband for 25 years. I have no sexual interest in anyone else on the planet, male or female.

nothing I wrote breaks talk guidelines, but I’ve been accused of being a man, a perv, a client of someone’s.

shutting down comments that I’ve made is dangerous to women.

NonPlayerCharacter · 26/04/2024 21:28

You might be glad, but I don’t think deleting my posts helps this serious issue.

Wrong as usual. Posts like that rapey bullshit are the issue.

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:27

So much victim blaming.

Keep reporting, everyone.

Remember, if we wanted misogyny and victim blaming we could use other websites. This is mumsnet, predominantly female so women’s voices can be heard, a place where we aren’t blamed for everything.

Josette77 · 26/04/2024 21:26

When I see women dressed like that I think Damn! That woman looks great! She worked hard for that body. 💝

I've been sexualized my whole life. It doesn't matter what I'm wearing. I'm thin with big boobs and a butt.

If someone is going to sexualize women they don't know, they will do it any ways. Wearing a potato sack won't make a difference.

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:23

WaitUpForMe · 26/04/2024 21:10

Glad to see mumsnet have deleted some posts.

You might be glad, but I don’t think deleting my posts helps this serious issue.

Contrary to what you have decided, I am a woman and I have 2 teens, one of whom is a girl who uses a gym on her own - she’s 16. And I don’t allow her to wear tight bra tops to the gym. And she doesn’t want to either, as she is quite well aware from school of how some males are capable of behaving. One of her friends was almost raped at 13 by her own boyfriend but she had the strength to push him off. I’m not suggesting this was as a result of the girl’s clothing.

deleting my posts is counterproductive.

accusing me of being a man, I suppose, is so that you don’t have to actually engage with what I’ve said.

StarbucksQueen1 · 26/04/2024 21:20

IMO women who are bothered by this are jealous. I see women who wear skimpy things and think wow she looks hot! (I’m a straight woman btw) Men who can’t control themselves and worry they’ll be aroused… well you need to get some self control! It’s ok to find someone attractive and think ‘she looks nice’ but move on…

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:17

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:14

If you're not a man, what makes you more qualified to talk about testosterone than the rest of us?
If you are indeed a woman, then you're not the only who has met men.

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um… you weren’t talking about testosterone were you? It’s not in the post of yours that I quoted. It was me who mentioned it in response to your post.

Kinshipug · 26/04/2024 21:14

Klwp · 26/04/2024 21:12

The difference between you and a man is testosterone. I’ll await my deletion for stating facts. And I’ll await someone accusing me of being a man.

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If you're not a man, what makes you more qualified to talk about testosterone than the rest of us?
If you are indeed a woman, then you're not the only who has met men.

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