Clothing in the gym

It’s a him problem.

I’ve never seen this in my gym though. Women wear shorts and a vest top, but I’ve never seen scrunch butt shorts and a bandaeu top!

He needs to go to my (very cheap) gym. People go there to work out, not to parade the latest gym fashion. The majority wear jogging bottoms or workout leggings and T shirts or singlets, occasionally a crop-top. And almost all the equipment faces towards walls (with TVs) so no-one is obliged to look at anyone else while they are working out. The majority of users come in, do their workout, and then leave - if anyone were leering at other users, the gym staff would be on their case pdq.

I've not seen the craziest then, I've only been going a few months so still time. It's all good tho, so long as they're happy & safe, seeing different people and their ways 😃 It's not like I've never found myself overdressed, underdressed or badly for the occasion 🙈

Of course women shouldn't have to worry that their clothing choices will result in unwanted attention from men but surely the point of those ridiculous shorts is to attract attention, they're hardly being worn for comfort are they. No need to equate anyone to a porn star though.

Wow I'm a very conservative dresser who hyperventilates at the thought of wearing scrunch shorts myself but this man is a sexist, lascivious prick. I don't care what anyone wears and he shouldn't blame his proclivities on women.

If men can't control themselves, they should stay at home. And probably invest in some therapy.

Indeed! The only clothing I find myself pondering at the gym is when people wear hats - baseball caps or even woolly beanies. Or - occasionally - an anorak over their gym kit. I've seen people doing runs on treadmills togged up like this and can't help but feel they must get a tad over-hot.

Errr I don’t want any man looking at me and equating me to a porn star.

And I’d like to think there’s a wee bit more to attraction and procreation than how far along the scale from nun to porn star I appear.

No, I don’t think I should ever dress to help out the ‘poor men who can’t control themselves’. This is a potentially very dangerous line of thinking.

He avoids all accountability in this Statement. Blaming the women in his life and gym for causing him discomfort and controlling his thoughts. If he wasn't married would it be a non issue? I love how he puts more accountability in fabric than himself. Oh those fabrics always controlling my thoughts and inviting me to sexualise.

Where does this line of thinking end? What other settings will he be in whining "I'm a married man and ..." and will it be somewhere in his defense one day when she catches him cheating? "I'm married man, I didn't want to, but .."

All i care about seeing how some women dress in the gym is whether or not they'll be safe using the equipment (I have wondered occasionally) and making sure I'm not too obviously noticing 🤷‍♂️ I'm more concerned about the folk who lounge about on their phones too much between sets 😠

The internalised misogyny on here never ceases to amaze me. Women can wear whatever they feel comfortable in, and if you are sexualising them or thinking about "anal porn clothes" (wtf?!) then it's your own problem.

People may look, it’s the then jump in thought process to sexual fantasy, comparison to porn stars and the like. Men can wear what they want without women complaining that they are causing them to feel guilty that they are lusting after them.

It’s hardly some random woman’s fault he is having fantasies about them and not his wife.

Wow the male entitlement there.

Why doesn't he consider a blindfold if he has no self control over his thoughts and objectification of women.

Women are not sex objects they are there to exercise the same as the men in their speedos. No women are complaining that men shouldn't wear speedos because we have self control basic respect not seeing men as purely sexual objects!

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And I can safely say, you might not be inviting it, but people will look.

Why does it bother you? Just wear what you want and focus on your own workout.

I went to a lido last weekend. There were plenty of men wandering around in shorts, some of which were quite small and tight.

Funnily enough I managed to not think about them in a sexual way or compare them to soft porn.

Have also never seen anyone in a strapless bra in the gym

I find people attractive. I don’t post about it on Reddit blaming them for making me look at them and it being very wrong of them to be so attractive because I’m married.

I think I can safely say, whatever I am wearing, even if I’m prancing around in nipple tassels and not much else, I am not inviting this man to gaze on me in a sexual manner. So if he is confused by my outfit, he shouldn’t be…there is no fucking invite here mate.

Obviously I agree women shouldn't be expected to cover up, men should work on controlling themselves

Apart from one thing - the scrunched bum leggings scrunch around the anus and separate the butt cheeks into a giant peach with the anus highlighted

I'm a woman who is straight and doesn't do anal and I still can't help noticing/thinking of horrible anal porn when I see this

There has to be a middle ground where we're more respectful to everyone. We wouldn't work out in stockings/suspenders and a basque so why are we wearing anal porn clothes 🤷‍♀️

The perfect answer to this is women should wear whatever they like and men should LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE

But when I was having the clothing conversations with my teenage girls years ago I told them they could wear what they like but I encouraged them to think about how they kept themselves safe and how they could cope with the impact of leering white van drivers if they wore butt cheek hot pants

I lift heavy AF weights in summer with no aircon or fan, I wear what I want.

Never seen anyone in a strapless bra.

Well he’s comparing some woman minding her own business in the gym to a porn star. Which if I thought some strange bloke was doing to me I’d be pretty horrified. He doesn’t need to assault her in the changing room to be a pig, thinking of women as porn stars and them presumably entering into his thought whilst his knocking one out is pretty grim too.