So myself and my partner have been together 5 years. We aren't married- not sure if I agree fully with marriage so honestly don't know if we will.
We have 1 baby and 1 on the way. We are generally very happy. I love him and he loves me.
We have always earned our own money, kept our money seperate and split bills 50/50. Both very happy with this setup.
We are not rich people at all.
When I got pregnant with my first, I had £600 in bank and I decided alongside my usual work, to do babysitting to save for my mat leave as I knew boyf wasn't able to support me.
With hardcore saving, working and babysitting all night, every night til 9 months pregnant, I managed to save 10k (one of my greatest achievements)
Anyway, at the same time, my partner was having a NIGHTMARE with his business. And was slipping into debt.
I started having to pick up his share of bills and lending him thousands of pounds at a time- all on the agreed basis it would be returned.
Before I knew it, all the 10k was gone from bailing him out in a bid to keep our family and home safe.
As a result I never had a mat leave first time.
Hes always said he will pay it back and 2 years later, I am pregnant again. I have said I want it back so I can take some leave of high I think I will really need with 2 babies and also get a new car (VERY needed)
He is in a better situation financially although stil not "rich" and has agreed to start paying it back between now and sept when baby is due.
He paid me a first chunk back today but suddenly I feel a huge sense of guilt.
Surely if we are a family then owing shouldn't be a thing, right?!
But it's such a practical reason that I need this money back and we have always agreed to manage our own money.
AIBU to want this money back ?????