Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

If I were Friend 2 I’d drop you so fast. If I were Friend 1 I’d drop you even faster!

You ‘accidentally’ mentioned that friend one was messaging about friend 2 to friend 2?

How is that an accident?

Then you say ‘I am an idiot for sending them’ as well as ‘I knew it would cause an argument’.

Fact is you shit in both friends. Friend one by betraying her trust. Friend 2 by running to her.

If a friend told me someone was talking shit about me, to then, I would be wondering why the person felt so comfortable talking shit to my friend. It would make me wary of my friend.

It’s all the I accidentally told her, I accidentally sent them. She begged me. I’m so silly nonsense.

it’s very clear you did it deliberately and knowing what you were doing. It was bitchy and horrible. And the friend you shared with will deep down think very poorly of you.

but the not owning it and pretending it was an accident is the worst of it.

OP- which part exactly was your accident??? How old are you? You sound 13!

I can't see where "accidentally" comes into it. You did it deliberately and if I was friend 1 I would be furious with you, but she's obviously not a fan of friend 2,and you're just a bitchy shit-stirrer.

This

Accidental - yeah sure, and i was born yesterday. You wanted the drama, now own it. Don't be surprised if they both drop you as a friend.

Me too. I’d play nice for awhile and act grateful then I’d bin her off fast. No one would trust anyone who did something like that. Actually sending the messages so she could proper stick the knife in.

Yeah you are really are a bitchy spoon.

You didn’t stir the pot, you flung it and threw the contents all over yourself and both of your friends.

The only possible chance of salvaging this is to give Friend 1 the heads up so she can prepare.

Then you both start begging Friend 2 for forgiveness. You also beg Friend 1 for forgiveness.

I cannot believe you sent the texts.

Wow.

Yes I absolutely understand the initial putting foot in it.

But to share messages someone send you in confidence?

If I was friend 1 it wouldn't be a case of falling out with you, I'm not a child. I would be absolutely devastated at your betrayal.

If I was friend 2 I would never trust you again.

Cmon now. You didn’t accidentally do anything. What a ridiculous line to take. And all the silly I’m such an idiot why did I do that.

what you did was bitchy and low. You went after friend two and caused as much shit as you could, and she had trusted you.

i hope they both bin you off, as id not wish to be friends with anyone who did that. And even worse you won’t own it.and are claiming it was an accident.

I agree this was deliberate by you and now you're shitting yourself and trying to back track

You've fucked up

Learn, move on

Come on now. You sent her those messages deliberately because you wanted to cause drama. Saying you don't know why you did is just completely disingenuous, and we weren't born yesterday, either. I think both of these "friendships" are over and done.

Not thinking and mentioning it is one thing, but then going and sending screenshots of your private convo is just shitty behaviour. Could have just briefly mentioned what was said, leaving out the worse parts, if you had to say anything.

I doubt either are going to be your friend now, friend 1 will certainly never trust you again. You have some serious apologising to do.

Actions have consequences. These are people’s feelings and quite frankly you deserve whatever happens and should take it on the chin. What you did was reckless and you knew it.

Nothing accidental about that, op.
As well you know.

You don’t feel awful, because you shit stirred deliberately.

Now you’re shit scared that your friends will see how two-faced you are.

You didn't accidently stir things, you deliberately stirred things.

You'll probably end up with neither of them because friend 1 will, rightly, be pissed off you shared her messages to you, and friend 2 will never trust you because of what you did to friend 1.

My advice would be to concentrate on other friendships, and learn from this shitshow.

You deliberately cause an issue, absolutely nothing accidental about it. If I was friend 1, I doubt I'd continue to be your friend.

Nothing accidental about sending the messages.

Basically you've been shown up to be two faced and spiteful and now your panicking about it.

Own it and apologise but expect the friend to not trust you again

Sorry, which part of this was accidental? You were told something by Friend 1 in confidence, something you knew would upset Friend 2. So you told Friend 2 about it and passed on private messages for good measure. Now you've got cold feet because you've done something shitty and are going to have to face the person you betrayed.

Hang on while I locate my nanoviolin 🤷🏻‍♀️🎻

Understandable that you put your foot in it, happens to the best of us, feels more intentional that you continued to stir the pot by sending messages? Either way, it’s done now.

I don’t think it’s fair to cause a shit storm and then wash your hands of it. Meet up all three of you and hash it out.