Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

What possessed you to do such a thing?

She IS the bad guy!

Urgh. My grandmother used to use this as an excuse not to apologise. I hate it.

OP is not in the middle, she's the catalys

Good to learn these lessons early. Especially when messages are digital- they never really go away. 🌹

Everyone knows you don't share messages, unless you want to talk behind someone's back. Sharing those is passing on the evidence, it's always going to blow back on you. Learn your lesson for next time, say no. Keep conversations private. There's nothing you can do about it now. Be prepared for friend 1 to never talk to you again.

I would not be surprised if both friends 1 and 2 dropped you. They certainly will not trust you again.
Playground behaviour

Dd2 aged 14 has just had this she has been friend 1 a close friend of hers blabbed everything she confided in her to her to the person in question. Not the first time either. We’ve had long chats about it. Dd2 has ended the friendship in a non dramatic fashion. Distance / invites stopped and she will never tell the blabber anything again.

Blimey op, some friend you are. Own it and grovel! They can’t trust you again now though - friendship would be over it was me, sorry.

Think you have to wear this one.

Your should have called friend 1 out when she first said the problematic comment. Now you just look two faced.

This. Sending screenshots of messages isnt accidental. You've behaved like a total snake in this scenario.

Why did you do it- because you clearly love drama, gossip and shit stirring. The sad thing is, this will cost you two friendships so it wasn't really worth it was it?

The only option left to you now is to admit full responsibility for what you've done and sincerely apologise then let the cards fall where they may. But personally, I would never trust you ever again if I was either of them.

Well you’ve definitely lost friend 1 and friend 2 knows you can’t be trusted to keep a secret. What an avoidable mess!

You accidentally mentioned it

You were then pressured to say more and send messages

The only way to remotely fix this is to ring the other friend and apologise.

You're a shit stirrer own it.

How can it possibly be unintentional? Unless she has additional needs or was completely off her tits both during the convo and when she sent the messages, then it was not remotely unintentional.

Jeez don't think it will be friend 1 and friend 2 falling out, I think you will be the looser in the end neither will be happy with this little situation. Prepare to loose both friends. No one likes a stirrer.

Think you're going to have to own this if confronted about it - "Yes, I sent the messages, because..." Then deal with whatever comes from that. I'd also suggest keeping as discreet as possible now - don't say much, don't over-apologise, try to avoid further drama.

Letting some info slip into conversation might be understandable but forwarding the messages is blatant and a step too far. What else did you think would happen?

Forgiveness might come with space and time. But you’ve shown yourself to be untrustworthy. And without trust there is no friendship. I wouldn’t expect things to ever be the same again, and that’s the consequence of your actions.

If this is true you deserve all that's coming. You admit you knew it would cause upset if they each found out. The faux naivety talking behind each's back doesn't wash if you're over thirteen. I think you thought each was loyal to you, so you could gossip freely. Maybe you'll learn how awful it was when the shit hits the fan.

You’re a shit stirrer. You deliberately caused drama. Why the hell would you screenshot all your messages otherwise? You knew exactly what you were doing and you deserve all the consequences. You’re not in a school uniform anymore, are you?

You weren't a good friend to either of them and now they know, so you will have to stew in your own shit.

So, friend 2 knows you talked about her behind her back, and friend 1 will soon know you went behind her back. You can't be trusted. You're probably going to lose both of them. Learn from this and try to be a better friend.

Mentioning the conversation? Yeah thar could definitely be an accident. But sending the copies of the messages? Wtaf would possess you. That's just deliberate & nasty and quite honestly you deserve what ever the fallout is.

Be prepared to have lost at least one friend because of your actions. I'd never forgive someone for passing on screen shots of a conversation we'd had

Actions have consequences.

if you value your friendship with friend 1, tell them what happened. It’s better they hear it from you instead of being blindsided. But they will struggle to trust you in the future.

with friend 2, you might want to check they’re okay - they likely feel like everyone is gossiping about them and they feel alone, so your actions would have caused them some upset

Why didn't you tell her the messages were deleted? Or that it was a phone conversation? A lie, but surely better than what you're all dealing with now. You have 2 people to make it right with, and it will be hard. Friend 1 would have believed it was a private conversation; you say you didn't mean to let it slip, but regardless, it's still hurting both of them.

I think I would make a huge apology in person (or send a handwritten letter, though she may not read it.) to Friend 1 for betraying her confidence, and the same to Friend 2 for discussing her situation behind her back and for how much she's hurting. (I hope Friend 1 also apologizes to friend 2 but that's for her to decide.) Briefly explain what happened, apologize again, and then give both of them time, but do leave the door open to answer questions if either of them need it.

I hope the 3 of you get past it, I really do.