Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

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What about that is accidental? Surely you knew what was going to happen

Am with most of the posters here - you may have accidentally let slip something said/messaged to you in confidence, but you chose to go into more detail and to share private messages that the other party had exchanged with you in expectation of confidentiality.

What you did was pretty unforgivable and a total breach of trust - so I’d expect both parties to walk away from you now.

You're a really shit friend. Glad you aren't mine!

Nah, she sent the bloody messages.

I think you have to accept that these friendships are lost tbh.

You obviously shouldn't have said anything at all. Upon realising your mistake, you should have refused to share the messages, told friend 1 that you dropped the ball for a second and said something but gave no details.

I wouldn't trust you again if I were either of them.

Moonlitwalk explained it well.

Slightly different take here. It sounds to me as if you didn't like what Friend 1 was saying about Friend 2, but instead of just saying to Friend 1 that you didn't like it, you created a situation where you could say you had no choice but to tell Friend 2, putting Friend 2 in a position where she had to choose between saying nothing and confronting Friend 1. I don't think this would have been an altogether conscious decision that you were making, but it would have achieved a situation where someone confronted Friend 1 about what she'd said (which is what you thought should happen) but it didn't have to be you.

Maybe there was a part of you that felt that this way you couldn't be blamed by either of them, but as you can see it's probably not going to work out that way! I think I'd be (a) freaking out a bit, because you're waiting for one or both of them to be angry with you, but also (b) trying to work out why you couldn't just say to Friend 1 yourself "don't talk about Friend 2 that way to me".

You didn’t accidentally do anything. You were deliberately stirring and have been called out. I suspect this isn’t the first time.

I would absolutely fall out with anyone who sent my private messages to someone.

This sounds intentional and friend 1 (and possibly 2) are better off without a friend like you in their lives.

Ach don't be too hard on yourself, sharing the messages was daft but hopefully it will all blow over!

Agree with all of this. Your only course of action now is a genuine apology but dont do this unless you are truly sorry because it will come across as fake otherwise.

Trust takes a long time to build and it can be smashed in an instant which is exactly what you've done. Even if they forgive you (which is doubtful) you will have to accept that the friendship will change because friend 1 will end up not telling you stuff any more, the friendship between 1 and 2 will likely never recover and you'll have to hear their continued angst about it from both sides. You will have to show them through your actions that you can be trusted again and that will take a long time so dont expect this to recover quickly. It will either end the friendship or it will take months of repairing work.

If I was you, I'd have a really good think about why passing on gossip was more important to you than your friend's feelings.

You'll lose both friend 1 & 2
Friend 1 will think you're two faced and not to be trusted.
Friend 2 will at first be grateful you shared but will think once the dust settles that both you and Friend 1 sat and bitched about them.
Don't be surprised if these two turn on you and keep their friendship.

If you forwarded my private messages to a third party I would find it very hard ever to trust you again. What a mess. Your only option is to apologise, very sincerely, and give them time.

You can apologise but that’s all.

In that moment you made a choice which broke the trust of one of your friends. You probably will be able to maintain friendship with the other however she will also remember you were not trustworthy even though it benefited her needs at the time.

True!

I'm guessing 14? 🤣

You have probably lost both ‘friends’

How old are you?

You shared messages????

Wow. Just wow. OP that is awful. Honestly awful high school mean girl shit.

This wasn't accidental, you're THAT person (pretends to be sweetness and light but is a nasty bit of kit), and you're not friends with friend 1.

Own both of those things.

If I were either of them I'd not speak to you again, sorry and all. You've proved you can't be trusted. Learn your lesson and go and find some new friends and don't share information again without permission of the person/people it concerns.

yep.

You knew what you were doing so own it

It isnt just them that will fail out. Friend 1 will fall out with you and then probably friend 2 as well now she knows you were talking about her.

Enjoyed the drama of it I guess, some folks are like that. See an opportunity and will stab someone in the back for it.

the other friend trusted her, and made a comments, warranted or otherwise, and the op ran and told the other woman , clearly in depth, then sent her the private messages to prove it for good measure. Hurting both women in the process. Then lied and said it was all an accident and tried to blame the second woman as apparently she begged.

Your friendship with friend 1 is over. I would never trust a friend again after what you did, no matter how much they apologise. Sending texts is a very teenage thing to do.

“Accidentally” stirred the pot my arse. You sent screen shots…

All you can do is apologise to both and not blame them if they don’t trust you again for a while.