Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

How old are you? 12?

It might be worth reading up on, or doing a course in, assertiveness - because sharing someone else's messages is a real breach of trust. I would say less than 1% of people would just hand over someone else's messages without question when asked - this is really unusual behaviour. I think it is worth recognising you have acted in a highly socially unacceptable way and take steps to not do this again. "Sorry they're private messages" "We discuss lots of other things in these texts which I'm not comfortable sharing with you" "I can't share somebody else's private information" are all things you could, and should have said, instead of handing over the texts. But never mind, you made a mistake, we all do. Just try to learn for next time

I’m not sure if you’re being serious or disingenuous? How can it possibly be not intentional when she not only told but then followed it up by sending the actual messages?

It wasn't accidental. What you did was stupid and shitty, you have knowingly upset both your friends and there's nothing for you to do now but apologise and if they want to patch things up with you that's up to them. Be prepared for neither of them to trust you again though.

There's not really a way to make this right unfortunately, it might be one of those things you chalk up to experience and hopefully learn from and never repeat.

Mean Girls vibes.
I'd be annoyed if I was friend 1 and if I was friend 2 I'd be wondering why friend 1 was so comfortable to talk about me to you.

Holy fuck. I'd never speak to you again if you shared private messages.

This! It's so two faced & just why? Also all the faux "I'm such an idiot, it was accidental" is a load of horsehit & wouldn't wash with me for a moment

Grow up would be my advice & stop causing unnecessary drama ffs

Oh, come on OP. You acted deliberately and I assume you are testing your defence out on MN hoping to get some ideas of how to get yourself out of the shit you put yourself in 🙄

Jealousy of friend 1 or wanting to hurt friend 2. Which is it?? Or is there another reason you acted like a snake?

Is this a pattern of yours?

This

’accidentally’ my a*se 🙄

Before you knew it, you had shared the actual messages

Amazing

I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're late teens/early 20s and your prefrontal cortex is some way off being fully formed. Sadly, I don't think there's any coming back from this. Even if you apologise and are forgiven, neither friend will really trust you again. For future reference, if someone is talking about another friend in a way you think isn't appropriate, there are lots of gentle and polite ways to say, "Sorry, I don't feel good talking about X behind her back and I don't think she'd want us discussing this," and if you have engaged in a bit of idle gossip, you can go ahead and not mention it to the subject of the gossip!

I'd focus on trying to repair the friendship with friend 2 anyway, friend 1 is also a bad friend.. if she talks about friend 2 to you what does she say behind your back?

Don't expect them to be your friends for long op
Bad form!!!!

If I was any of them I'd ditch you too, you have shown that you are untrustworthy

Unfortunately op, I think your sadly going to loose both friends after this. Wasn’t intentional I understand. All you can do is apologise

Nothing accidental about it, neither if the friends will trust you now.

If I was either Friend 1 or 2 I would know never to trust you again.

All you can do is to admit to both friends that you were completely in the wrong for breaking Friend 1's confidence and sharing her messages, knowing that it would cause an argument between the two of them, @pleasehelpagirlout62.

Tell them you know how wrong it was, and that you deeply regret doing it, and that you hope that they can forgive you and learn to trust you again.

After having an argument (but it was accusing me and another best friend of both doing something illegal) with my then best friend when I was 24, I'd never have 2 best friends again.

Basically, it can then all get caught up in lies, and deceit.

My issue, was, I was so angry with my best friend of accusing me of something that I told the other best friend she'd accused, partly because I thought she needed to know, but also as she had a young baby and was in a vulnerable position with an abusive boyfriend. I didn't want her to get in trouble and her baby taken into care.

Luckily the other best friend (with baby) was so incensed with first friend that she ended that friendship as did I. The other best friend ended it with me anyway.

Trouble is, in my scenario, was I never knew if the accuser was doing the illegal thing herself (benefit fraud) and doing it to 'get attention' or if the third best friend was lying to both of us and had actually did the fraud herself (the one with the baby).

I'm not speaking to either of them now, years on. I was best friends with the baby one though for years.

Sounds though in your case OP, you've deliberately shit stirred and it's come back to bite you in the bum. Hopefully one or both of them forgives you, but it's a hard lesson to learn. Do not do it again, shit stir but also if you do, don't lie and back track on it.

People appreciate honesty in friends, not two faced liars who betray them.

You need to figure out why you wanted them to find out and why you wanted them to argue.

Nothing about what you did was an accident. It was purposeful.

You just need to take an honest look at yourself and figure out why you did it

Then you can offer a genuine apology and if they don't want you to remain friends you just have to respect that.

I think you knew what you were doing. But it’s only just dawned on you that you haven’t been clever enough about the shit stirring and it’s all going to lead back to you

The person you need to look at here is yourself . You’re minimising what you’ve done by saying it was an accident. No it wasn’t, it was deliberate. Your re saying oh woopsy I’m an idiot, which is again minimising it as some cutesy childish behaviour when if fact it’s vindictive and a horrible way to treat friends and yet I get an undertone here than you’re enjoying it. You say you don’t know why you did it… really? Maybe work that out then. Gave the fact that it wasn’t an accident and that you’ve deliberately done that to two people who are supposed to be your friends. This isn’t an ‘oh dear silly me’ situation.

Exactly. You forwarded the messages. That’s low!

The idea that someone would forward texts from someone else is such a breach of privacy and trust, you deserve your friends to no longer trust you.

I don’t think there was anything accidental or unintentional about your actions . You OWN this shitshow as you deliberately created it