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Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

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pleasehelpagirlout62 · 25/04/2024 20:59

Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

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Trainersocksandbootsarenotagoodcombo · 25/04/2024 21:05

Why did you make it even worse by letting her see the text messages? Okay you said something you shouldn’t have but to make a further mess instead of just (white) lying and claiming you’d accidentally deleted the messages ..

This is the sort of thing I expect to see of 12 year olds.
I just do not know how anyone can be so troublemaking as to let one person know what another person has said about them.

And these are your friends?
Wow. How do you behave towards people you don’t count as friends?

Nagado · 25/04/2024 21:04

You need to contact friend 1 before friend 2 gets the chance. Come clean, apologise, grovel and hope she forgives you for breaking her trust.

I think you might just have lost both of them, with friend 2 being upset that you didn’t shut friend 1 down immediately and that you hid it from her. Sincere apologies to both of them are the only way to go.

Calamitousness · 25/04/2024 21:04

Well, not only will they fall out with each other but you will have no friendship with friend 1 either. What a shit show.

thistimelastweek · 25/04/2024 21:04

You and friend 1 aren't good friends.

Own it.

MrsKwazi · 25/04/2024 21:04

Really bad form to share messages.

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pleasehelpagirlout62 · 25/04/2024 21:04

Nesbi · 25/04/2024 21:02

In what way was deliberately sharing messages an accident? Everything you did was deliberate, and now the obvious shitstorm has kicked off. Im not sure what else you can say.

I know, I sent the messages knowing full well it would lead to an argument. I’m an idiot. What I accidentally done was mention me and Friend 1 was talking about it the other day and thenFriend 2 was asking why was we mentioning it and basically begged me for the messages so I sent them. I don’t know why I did it. I can’t believe I did it

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WillJeSuis · 25/04/2024 21:04

How was that accidental? You can apologise and hope for the best but that's about it.

W0rkerBee · 25/04/2024 21:02

Argh nightmare.

Refuse to get anymore drawn in.

Froggy99 · 25/04/2024 21:02

pleasehelpagirlout62 · 25/04/2024 20:59

Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

Why the hell would you do that?

Nesbi · 25/04/2024 21:02

In what way was deliberately sharing messages an accident? Everything you did was deliberate, and now the obvious shitstorm has kicked off. Im not sure what else you can say.

MrsO3 · 25/04/2024 21:01

Oh jheez what a mess!
Unfortunately I don’t know if you can rectify it. You’re in the middle which is the worst place to be and you’ll be seen as the bad guy

Isitme1114 · 25/04/2024 21:01

Not sure you can really, depends what it's about. Did you comment on her lifestyle, parenting, finances, partner?

you need to just hold your hands up admit you've done wrong and apologise

SOxon · 25/04/2024 21:00

least said, soonest mended

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