Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

@pleasehelpagirlout62 I just wanted to apologise for my comment, it was written badly. I am glad it is all resolved.

Great update, OP. Lesson learned, which is all we can hope for in life!

OP, kudos for coming back to this thread, it was very brave.

Your wording was clearly deceptive and probably by design. Do you love drama? You and your friends are most likely having a good laugh reading the responses.

All's well that ends well, I suppose, but for future reference it's really unacceptable to share someone else's private messages (even if they are saying something nice) and if nothing else I hope you've learnt this from the whole experience.

I think regardless you should have asked the other friend if you can share her messages. it should have been her decision, not yours. And the other friend sounds very insecure, why would you need to see people's private comments about you to prove anything, sounds like hard work and pretty toxic.

Oh well, all's well that ends well. Enjoy the lunch!

You made yourself sound really bad in your OP.

Why would you do that?!

Somebody asked me to send messages that were sent to me once , to show to another person to prove something, I said absolutely not , that was a conversation had between us 2 even if it did prove something it was private. What you did was deliberate and will probably damage all of your friendships.i certainly wouldn't trust you again.

She's not getting drawn in, she started it!!

I agree where you say people with mutual friends (and who respect their relationship) do not bitch to the joint friend, if anything they sway the other way.

content is everything though. I think we should know in rough terms to be able to give an accurate reply.

Haven’t read the full thread, just your posts OP, I’m sure everyone else has said this but there is nothing accidental about forwarding on messages. You made a decision to do that. You’ve definitely lost friend 1 and friend 2 now knows she can’t trust you either.

We don’t know friend one was bitching,

We know it’s something friend two may not have liked but it doesn’t mean friend one was bitching.

It could have been friend one telling Op something because she is concerned for friend 2.

and if it was bitching. Why would friend one be son comfortable bitching to Op? People generally don’t bitch to mutual friends, if they know the mutual friend doesn’t get involved or tells the person who is being bitched about.

I don’t think the right thing is to take part in the conversation THEN go tell the second friend. IMO, the right thing is to shut it down straight away.

and like I said, we don’t know it was bitching.

Well, I'm going to buck the trend and say I don't think you're two faced. Friend 1 started all this by betraying Friend 2's trust. So she's the shit stirrer.
Mentioning it in conversation was the thing not to have done if you could have helped it but these things CAN happen by accident, if you're the type of person who doesn't normally deal in lies. Having mentioned it, it was only right that Friend 2 knew exactly what had been said about her behind her back.
The only thing I would have done differently would have been to message Friend 1 and explain before sending the messages to Friend 2, but that's in an ideal world, and I wasn't in the situation.
I don't think you're two faced and I'd rather have you for a friend than Friend 1 on the info I have.

I would call friend 2 and tell
her how you're feeling, that you put your foot in it and shouldn’t have followed up by sending those texts, tell her you really don’t want everyone to fall out and could she when confronting friend 1 just say you accidentally let a few things slip and not mention the texts?? She what she says….. tell jeer you don’t want to be stuck in the middle of it and also hope it all be worked out between everyone.

You need to apologise to them both.

Wow. It's very doubtful that you will ever be able to mend the friendship with either Friend 1 or Friend 2. But at the very least, I hope this has been a big life lesson and that in future you’ll think twice before sharing other people’s private messages or comments. All the best x

Are you sure you quietly didn’t want this to come out?

I’m considering having a chat to neighbour no. 1 about her friend neighbour no. 2 blaming her for various things to others. had enough of hearing how wronged no. 1 is by no. 2.

If I was friend one and you had shared messges I had sent you in good faith I'd never ever trust you again. The dynamic between the three of you does not seem that supportive if you gossip about eachother in this way. Where is the backbone? The integrity?

Er no.

One of life's steep learning curves of what never to do.

Friend 1 messaged you and you messaged back. You didn't kill the conversation or make a stand.
(Because I note you forwarded the multiple "messages" to friend 2)

You then didn't regret the conversation - you shared it with friend 2. Not only that but you sent her all the private messages between you and friend 1.
(That's a serious no. Unless you actively want to confront friend 1, which you pretend you didn't)

So absolutely no one can confide in you or trust you.
You will hang people out to dry.
You set friend 2 on friend 1.
You will defer to anyone instead of establishing your own boundaries and values.

I absolutely would not want you as a friend.

If I was OP, I'd try to think of 5 reasons why someone would want me as a valued friend. If that's not possible, I'd think of 5 reasons why I would really want someone as a friend. And learn and move forward.