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To be 1 minute late?

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liladough · 25/04/2024 20:13

What would you do?

I have an appointment tomorrow at a healthcare facility. It’s an NHS appointment but at a private contractor. I have waited 6 months for this appointment.

I have to get the bus there, it’s an hour long journey (just one bus). The appointment is at 3:20.

I can either get the bus that gets there at 3:01, or get the bus that gets there at 3:21. I don’t want to be waiting outside for twenty minutes as it’s a really dodgy area, they have a cage on their door and you have to buzz up, just for context. There’s no where within a 5 minute walk I can go to get a coffee. Judging by their reviews I would have to wait quite a while to get seen anyway. So if I have to wait 30 minutes to be seen, that’s nearly an hour of waiting in there which would quite frankly do my head in.

On the other side, what if I get the bus that gets there at 3:21? Can I risk that the bus would actually get there for that time and not say 15-20 minutes late? What if I get there at 3:21 and they say sorry you’re late, we can’t see you, try again in 6 months.

YABU = 3:01 Bus
YANBU = 3:21 Bus

OP posts:
pambeesleyhalpert · 25/04/2024 23:09

I'd 100% get there at 3.01. I'd prob get the one that got there at 2.45 tbh because things always go wrong esp on public transport

mondaytosunday · 25/04/2024 23:06

Get the earlier bus. I had similar (not dodgy area though) and was five minutes late and the area nurse had left. It was about her six months wait as I went to bottom of the pile. Won't they let you in to wait inside?

SabreIsMyFave · 25/04/2024 23:03

MumblesParty · 25/04/2024 22:45

I’m very intrigued by this health facility which is in a shit area, but presumably right next to a bus stop, has a cage on the door, and no waiting room.

I know right. And it's looking like the OP is not going to come back to tell us anything, or explain anything to us. Wink

I also wanted to say, I went with my friend for her to get her covid booster on Tuesday ... The appointment was 2:15pm and we got there at 1.55pm. Wanted to get there in plenty of time. As an NHS worker said above - do try to get there a bit earlier if you can.

There was nobody waiting, as a couple of people hadn't turned up (not sure if they were late, or not coming!) So we went straight in and out before 2:00pm. It's always a good idea to go early - at least 10 or 15 minutes early. Not too early - like an hour - but 15 minutes early yeah ...

Ineedaholidayyyy · 25/04/2024 22:54

This frustrates me. You are exactly the reason why appointments overrun and its a selfish attitude. You should be aiming to arrive with time to spare to sign in etc , not purposely planning to arrive late because you don't want to wait and then delay appointments for the rest of the day!

I would even be getting an earlier bus than the earlier one you suggested . There will likely be school traffic at that time and buses are not known for being punctual

MumblesParty · 25/04/2024 22:45

I’m very intrigued by this health facility which is in a shit area, but presumably right next to a bus stop, has a cage on the door, and no waiting room.

Lesina · 25/04/2024 22:43

Early bus. Buzz in and say you want to wait inside. Don’t miss the appointment

Emeraldsrock · 25/04/2024 22:42

You have to walk in stand at the desk, give your name etc. what if someone is in front of you are the desk taking ages? What if the bus is late?

I work in the NHS and on my lists if you are more than 15 min late you are turned away.

Yellogreen · 25/04/2024 22:41

Don’t risk the appointment. Get there early and just read a book in the waiting room! It’s not exactly that early is it

Emeraldsrock · 25/04/2024 22:40

I think the 3:01 bus isn’t early enough and it’s utter madness to contemplate the later one. I would be getting the 2:41 arrival bus.

SleepingStandingUp · 25/04/2024 22:39

Go early, press the buzzer don't wait outside, take a book

transformandriseup · 25/04/2024 22:37

Definitely get the early bus. Some buses are once every two hours where I live so I wouldn't think twice about arriving 20 mins early.

lovecrazyhorses · 25/04/2024 22:27

Is the bus right to the door?

Longma · 25/04/2024 22:27

I'd get the earlier bus as, in my experience, buses are often late.
And I'd be really stressed being late for an appointment I'd waited 6 months for and the risk of being turned away.

seven201 · 25/04/2024 22:26

There's no way I'd get the later bus. Personally I'd be far too stressed the first bus might run late that I'd get one earlier than that, despite the area. Is there a local mini supermarket you can wonder round in for a bit? Get off a couple of steps early or late and walk. I'd see if they let me up to the waiting room a bit early and if not walk along the busier roads.

fungipie · 25/04/2024 22:25

Brainded · 25/04/2024 20:18

3:01 take a coffee and a snack and a book and wait.

yes, this.

Veryverycalmnow · 25/04/2024 22:24

Early. Headphones, book, snack...

westcountrywoman · 25/04/2024 22:21

Get the earlier bus and get off a stop or two early and walk the rest. I always find walking in a dodgy area less stressful than just waiting around. Unless you have mobility trouble of course.

WhatsUnderneathTheClothesBrookeDavis · 25/04/2024 22:20

Questions like this frustrate me. Can you really not decide for yourself that being early to an appointment you’ve waited 6 months for is the option to choose over being late? So many people are on waiting lists for so much longer and wouldn’t even contemplate being late and you just don’t want to wait outside?!

letsgoskiing · 25/04/2024 22:16

Obviously you can't get the bus timetabled to get there at 3.21 and I'd say the 3.01 is cutting it a bit fine. Are you teleporting from your bus seat into the consulting room?

albatrossjoe · 25/04/2024 22:15

NHS worker here, please get the earlier bus if you can OP! We have so many people late to appointments for all sorts of reasons. We don't get long to see people and then write up notes from the appointment, so if someone is even 5 minutes late it often means making a judgement of spending less time with that patient (so the patient ultimately loses out), spending the rest of the day running late, or sacrificing our own lunch/comfort break to try and make up time. As a result of this if people are more than 15 minutes late in our service then we won't see them and they'd have to rearrange. For you this would mean if the later bus was run late you'd risk having to wait another six months for another appointment, arguably not worth it.

If you are able to catch either bus then please do that, it's the best outcome for you and the professional. Plus as others say, you may not end up being 20 minutes early after all if relying on the bus!

awayandaway · 25/04/2024 22:15

I agree the 3.01 bus is nowhere near early enough to be sure of being there for your appointment. I would get the one before.

ProjectsGalore · 25/04/2024 22:13

The 3.01 would make me twitchy and there is no way I would plan for the 3.21 bus. By the time you have got off the bus, walked to the entrance and booked it that is some extra time too. I would want to be checked in by 3.10 at the latest so would want to arrive before 3pm!

LIZS · 25/04/2024 22:11

Earlier bus. Why not go straight in to wait?

bradpittsbathwater · 25/04/2024 22:05

I'd rather be really early than all flustered and even slightly late. The bus might be delayed also.

SabreIsMyFave · 25/04/2024 22:04

Of course you should get the earlier bus. It's getting you there 20 minutes early, not half a bloody day! YABU!

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