People posting pics of their children in hospital online

I’d be lucky to have Remembered to take my phone with me. Let alone think ‘oh must ‘social media’ this situation and update regularly.

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This really fucking winds me up. How on earth can your first thought be “oh I better take a quick pic and upload it to fb for everyone to see” rather than comforting your child?! Especially when they’re crying and in pain?! It’s quite sick actually. It infuriates me so much. This and the checking in to A&E with zero explanation because they’re crying out for the “what’s up hun?” Comments. They might as well have just put a status up saying “desperate for attention, give me some please!” 😡🙄

I think people who do this are attention seeking freak shows.

It’s a tricky one, I don’t like it when the child is clearly in pain or one off trips to a&e etc, thats just not needed BUT my DD had fairly serious surgery a couple of years ago, we were in and out of hospital for months in the run up to it. People were concerned and regularly asking how we were doing so it was easier to pop a post of Facebook updating people. It did include photos of her smiling such as, look how well she’s doing after physio today, enjoying slime making with the play team today, eating the yummy treats ‘x’ sent us, then after surgery, she’s managed to walk down the ward for the first time etc. It was an incredibly tough time for us as a family and this was once way for people to keep in touch and offer support. Plus was my normal Facebook friends, not an open insta page or anything.

YANBU, it’s totally inappropriate when the child cannot provide informed consent. I rarely post a photo of my kids online, if I do I usually use Instagram stories so it’s temporary

I agree op.
I've almost never posted any pictures of my children during their whole childhood.
The only exception I would make, would be with extremely sick children , needing experimental treatment that might need fundraising for or public pressure to support NHS funding. I completely sympathise with desperate parents doing anything in a situation like that.

"Get a grip"

After the judgement with no thought for those of us who have no choice but to photo our kids illnesses and hospital time?

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All of this.

Immediate unfollow from me. Probably even the famous mumsnet NC.

you missed the point of this post

Ditto @Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse

Why parents want to film anaesthetic induction instead of comforting their distressed anxious child who's about to have surgery completely baffles me.

I used to work in theatres and we regularly had to ask parents not to make videos or take photos of their children and the staff in the anaesthetic room. I know many nurses in the recovery area and the HCAs in reception that have been verbally abused for also reminding parents the same. Honestly we don’t say it to be mean it’s a matter of safety, privacy and respect.

This sums it up perfectly. It’s disgusting and voyeuristic.

My little girl is called Emma.

Op didn't categorise anything, just lumped us parents who take photos and post online 'for likes and followers' together really.

I don't have SM anymore but for the longest time I did because I was desperate to find other families in the same boat, I was desperate to find an answer (long backstory about her short life and her death).

Now I post every so often just because I want people to see her, use her name, and read a little about her so she isn't just real to me.

As I say, all I have is hospital photos.

Maybe if op didn't mean people like me, she should have used her words more carefully.

To add to my reply, the worst part for me is the fact the parents are never comforting their child or holding their hand when they are distressed or going through procedures, they are taking photos instead like some nasty paparazzi photographer taking photos of a crash. The children will grow up with evidence that their parents cared more about ‘likes’ than they did them. It’s really sad.

God I hate this. It's one of the reasons I'm not on Facebook anymore.

But in the past I I have seen pictures of:

• a child throwing up in the toilet
• a child's bare back showing chickenpox, the buttocks were visible.
• close up shot of a very unwell child asleep
• a child being given oxygen by ambulance staff

It's disgraceful that these parents are posting pictures of their children at their most vulnerable, without consent, when they should be getting off their stupid fucking phone and comforting the poor child. I judge these people harshly and wouldn't be friends with anyone who does it.

Are you Billie's mother?

If so the photos of your lovely daughter are not in the same category of people who have taken their child to A&E and are photographed having treatment or in distress.

There is a big difference.

My little girl is in and out of hospital, I take photos but never of her in pain and I try not to show wires/cannula etc. She's just very sweet and it helps to keep family updated. I wouldn't post to social media as I couldn't be bothered explaining to 20 separate people what's going on.

Its so easy to say "I wouldn't even dream if taking photos of my child in hospital" isn't it.

Until you have a kid who spent their whole life in hospital and that's all you actually have of them.

I have posted photos of my beautiful daughter in hospital, I've posted them on MN actually, so you can be disgusted by that all you damned well like, they are all I have and I'll share them to the world, because she never got to make the impact on the world that she should have.

Photos of a new born in an incubator are entirely different are worthy of empathy and a show of support.

Little Brian with his leg hanging off after falling off his trampoline, are not.

An old school friend has lost her daughter and grandchildren over this.

Her granddaughter (4/5) fell and had a very deep cut to her knee. Her mother photographed the wound and filmed the child screaming and uploaded it to Facebook with some merry caption of 'on our way to get stitches'.

The morons came out of the woodwork with 'Poor Bubba' posts and heart emojis etc.

Then the whole hospital wait and treatment and stitches was photographed and filmed and uploaded in real time.

The girl was very distressed and when the husband arrived he took a photo of his crying daughter and in the background was the mother, eyes down and gripping her phone and not comforting the child.

My friend saw all these posts and photographs and was very upset. She made the mistake of posting underneath a photo of the crying girl song the lines of it not being very nice for Imogen and that was it.

The daughter blew up, blocked her and they had a massive row by phone and she's never seen her daughter or grandchildren since.

I took a couple photos of my youngest in NICU, just because you do take photos of your new baby, but I only sent them to a couple of relatives to "introduce" him to family, and he was asleep rather than distressed or having needles put in him.

I have a couple of FB friends who post things like photos of them and their kids in A&E "at A&E with Lulu, sooo worried" so that the comments all fill up with "omg hun" and "poor Lulu, what's wrong?" It's such horrible attention-seeking.

A bit dangerous if you ask me:

https://www.kaspersky.com/resource-center/threats/children-photos-and-online-safety

It’s very easy to be very judgemental about this isn’t it?
I’ll admit to having posted photos of my 6 year old online when she got a cancer diagnosis (just eating breakfast rather than mid procedure!). I desperately needed support from my friends and couldn’t face telling everyone individually- it was just too painful. I’d never have thought I’d do it till I was in that situation either - until you’re in the middle of it I really don’t think you can predict how you’ll react.

I absolutely hate it. I don’t use SM anymore, but I also used to hate it when people would check into hospital to get the ‘you ok hun?’ comments too. It’s worse when they do it with their kids though. I instantly thought the person doesn’t give a damn about their child when Ive seen it, because when it’s plastered over social media it’s just for attention for the parent. The only exception I would make for this is when they are fundraising for their child, which to me is completely different.