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To think some people never, ever get found out?

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neverwrongme · 25/04/2024 18:27

I will try and keep it brief.

Family fall out sometime ago. Instigated, caused, made worse, by one member of the family and their adult child.

They have been able to manipulate the rest of the wider family into believing it absolutely was not their fault.

Other family members have been blamed and basically cut out of the wider family.

It has now, today, happened again. With another part of the wider family.

Will these trouble makers ever get found out?

Will these trouble makers ever be held accountable?

Of will they just go around living life leaving a trail of upset behind them?

Will the gullible who fell for their lies ever wake up?

Anyone have experience of this?

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goingdownfighting · 25/04/2024 19:41

Yep. But people have their own motives for allowing the behaviour to happen.

Usually it's money or power or that they are beholden to them. It's all politics and says just as much about them as it does about the actual person. Probably other things going on that you're not aware of.

Tutifruitie · 25/04/2024 19:36

Won’t others be able to see the situation as you do?
Won’t the casualties collude and make connections?
Won’t the pattern be recognised and analogies made?

Flatleak · 25/04/2024 19:26

Yes of course. I know a man who had a year long affair, declared love etc, who didn't get found out.

I imagine most people have something they're embarrassed/ ashamed off that others don't know (unless they want them to)

neverwrongme · 25/04/2024 19:05

It’s just so unfair and makes me sick.

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NewMe2024 · 25/04/2024 18:37

I’ve seen this happen in the workplace. You are not wrong.