Friend constantly cancelling plans

Its not clear if you're giving her the favours she's asking for or not - I'm hoping not given she's complaining she doesnt see you but if she does stop that asap!

If you WANT to stay friends with her I'd give her one more chance but tell her "Look every single time we've tried to arrange this coffee you've cancelled, if you cancel it again this time I'm not going to bother in future."

If you're not bothered about staying friends I'd be tempted to do as the pp said - agree to give her a lift then cancel last minute with a 'see how it feels' then block her number. Depends on how petty you want to be!

I just feel shes very high maintenance. She doesn't work and her kids are grown up, so she texts everyday and is always looking for 'favours' (lifts to places as she doesn't drive and lately she has started looking for money).

She's using you. I mean, seriously? Looking for money!?

Just ditch her.

Hmm why is she cancelling, does she say?
Do you think ‘something better is coming up’? Or Is she socially anxious?

I think your life looks way more busy and yet you manage to make the effort so you’d be well entitled to walk away. Don’t like the sound of her looking for endless favours and to borrow money either tbh.

Shes a cunt.

Tell her that, then block her ass.

Live happily ever after. It is that simple.

I feel like just cutting her off now. Would I be unreasonable for this?

No.

I'd bin her off, she sounds like a nightmare to be fair.

This.

What are her reasons for cancelling? I'm intrigued.

I'd just stop contacting her and the next time she asked to meet say, 'I'm not prepared to make plans with you because you constantly cancel, which is rude and irritating when I've arranged childcare. You're too flaky to meet up with. Sorry'.

Ignore any requests for favours, by the way. Friendship is two way - and she's not offering anything.

My "friend" did this also for a number of months. Cancelled our weekly meet ups with the kids on very short notice. My DS is autistic so the change in plans was making him distressed.

In the end, I just stopped making plans. I stopped reaching out. I hadn't heard from her for MONTHS until recently.

Turns out, she got a new boyfriend, so a lot of her time was now being dedicates to him instead. It did annoy me when I found out as even if I have a partner, I make time for my friends.

She contacted me a couple of days ago asking could we book a weekend away in a few months time, she's only done this as she recently posted up photos from her weekend away with her boyfriend.

I told her no, that I wouldnt have the money for it.

I agree that as a full time working mum, with little free time, your time is valuable and I dont waste it anymore on flaky people.

we are an older couple, our children are grown and we had a similar issue with SIL.

we would make plans, sometimes we instigated them, others it was her and her husband and you could guarantee a day before of the night before we would get a message..

sorry can't make it, or i've got a migraine (which is fair enough if she didnt then post on her socials the fun she was having with someone else).

events cancelled included holidays, concerts, meals... it didnt matter to her about the cost, she just walked away from the money.

in the end we did sit down together as ask what the issue was, she then stated 'i'm just very busy' ...

I have stopped making plans, I dont even contact her now, as she's hubbies sister i leave it all to him.. my life is much less stressful without her in it

Next time you agree to do something be sure to cancel first. Particularly if it’s a favour you’re doing her (like a lift). Better even, cut her out if she is bringing you so much negativity. Life is too short.