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Seating arrangement on flight abroad

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momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:25

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

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Gazelda · 24/04/2024 19:42

Gazelda · 24/04/2024 19:40

How long is the flight?

If there are 2 seats elsewhere on the plane, I'm guessing it's not long haul as they are usually 3 on each side with a larger bank in the centre.

I think he's been thoughtful towards the friend. I understand this has meant disregarding your request, but I can't honestly think that it's a reasonable request for a short flight.

My apologies, I've just re-read your op and seen that it's a long flight.

FestivalFun · 24/04/2024 19:41

Is it premium economy or economy?

CrappySack · 24/04/2024 19:41

momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

Maybe he'll learn to listen next time!

sonjadog · 24/04/2024 19:41

I think your DH is being considerate of your single friend. It would be nice for her not to sit on a long flight by herself when her friends are on the same flight. I think you are being rather self-absorbed here. Swap seats with your DH or your friend if you need to.

Gazelda · 24/04/2024 19:40

How long is the flight?

If there are 2 seats elsewhere on the plane, I'm guessing it's not long haul as they are usually 3 on each side with a larger bank in the centre.

I think he's been thoughtful towards the friend. I understand this has meant disregarding your request, but I can't honestly think that it's a reasonable request for a short flight.

amylou8 · 24/04/2024 19:40

If it's a A320 or 737 all the economy seats will be 3:3, so you can either sit with your friend or stranger.

Poostickers · 24/04/2024 19:39

Why not upgrade, then, as long as its a reasonably OK airline you get your own space and can be away from everyone. I couldn't do a long haul flight in a row of 3 in economy but I wouldn't even try, I would make sure I was able to manage my booking myself.

GrumpyPanda · 24/04/2024 19:39

YABU about wanting couples' intimacy but I'd be considering a patio re-decoration if my DH deliberately booked me into a middle seat for a long-distance flight. Tell him to re-do the reservations or he gets the middle.

FestivalFun · 24/04/2024 19:39

Why didn’t you choose the seats you wanted?

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momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

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Topseyt123 · 24/04/2024 19:38

InTheRainOnATrain · 24/04/2024 19:32

If you can’t handle a flight sat next to your friend is the group holiday really a good idea? The chances of there being a pair of seats in economy is also quite small isn’t it- usually 3,3,3 or 3,4,3 configuration? But if it was that big of a deal why not do the seat assignments yourself? In short, I don’t really get it but you could always have DH take the middle and take his aisle or window.

Absolutely this.

FestivalFun · 24/04/2024 19:37

He gets the middle seat.

Clearinguptheclutter · 24/04/2024 19:37

All very odd. But surely if one of the singles is in first class then it makes sense for the other two to sit together. Or is the other with the other couple.

HesterPrincess · 24/04/2024 19:37

That's really weird that you'd rather share a space with a stranger than someone you're going on holiday with.....

Pinkdelight3 · 24/04/2024 19:36

how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person

You need to get help for that. It's pretty far out and too much to expect other people to manage. If you're so 'self conscious' then you need to sort it yourself. The only place with two-seat rows afaik is in the section above standard class - business exec or whatever they call it, so you'd have to pay more. How do you cope sitting in the seats at the gate beforehand or on the shuttle thing on the way to the plane??

TakeOnFlea · 24/04/2024 19:36

Presumably the other single friend is with the other couple. And you'd just leave this friend alone?

I'm more intrigued by the first class wanker 🤣

BigBadBarri · 24/04/2024 19:35

You’re furious? That your husband included your friend and didn’t leave her out?

hes a nicer person than you are imo

Topseyt123 · 24/04/2024 19:35

I don't see the issue. You are going to be sitting with your DH and a friend, not with a stranger.

Would you really have preferred to leave the other person to sit on their own?

You're being ridiculous. Perhaps you should have booked the seating yourself because it sounds like your DH can't do right for doing wrong.

Screamingabdabz · 24/04/2024 19:35

“…had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person.”

What a luxury to go through life like this.

helpfulperson · 24/04/2024 19:35

Is it just planes? Will you sit with others at meals, on public transport etc? I'm thinking you might have been better going on holiday with just your husband.

Lifestooshort71 · 24/04/2024 19:34

A kind thought from him re the other passenger

Maray1967 · 24/04/2024 19:34

Why would you want her to be on her own though? I don’t understand that. She’s part of your group.

KreedKafer · 24/04/2024 19:34

I’m sorry, but you really need to get over yourself.

Notimeforaname · 24/04/2024 19:34

I'm with the "book it yourself" gang.

As you know, not everyone is comfortable with everything and your husband was uncomfortable with booking seats away from another travel companion.

You cant force someone to be comfortable with your demands, even after a lengthy discussion.

You could have saved the time and done it yourself in minutes.

You can put your husband between you.

NewName24 · 24/04/2024 19:34

InTheRainOnATrain · 24/04/2024 19:32

If you can’t handle a flight sat next to your friend is the group holiday really a good idea? The chances of there being a pair of seats in economy is also quite small isn’t it- usually 3,3,3 or 3,4,3 configuration? But if it was that big of a deal why not do the seat assignments yourself? In short, I don’t really get it but you could always have DH take the middle and take his aisle or window.

All of this

YABVU