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Seating arrangement on flight abroad

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momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:25

7 people going on vacation abroad. 2 couples (one is my DH and me). Three singles - 1 single will be in first class. Long flight. As we were discussing flights, my DH and I had a long talk about how i am self conscious about sitting on a plane with another person. I asked that if there was a choice of just two seats in a row that he reserve them so it could just be the two of us. He was crystal clear on my wishes. Reservations were made yesterday and he reserved three seats together with one of the other singles in our group. She is a person I like very much - she is not the problem. The problem is that my husband deliberately ignored what I had thought was a reasonable request. Now I will be stuck between my husband and the friend for the entire flight. I realize it is better that being stuck squished with a stranger, but I am furious he didn't take into consideration my feelings. I asked him if there was anywhere on the plane where there were just two seats and he said yes but he didn't want her to feel "left out". AIBU for being hurt but this situation?

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MrsO3 · 24/04/2024 19:58

Mangobrango · 24/04/2024 19:49

I think a private jet is probably more appropriate for your needs.

This! 🤣
OP, you sound very precious

Mcvitieschoccybiscuit · 24/04/2024 19:58

Booking seats isn’t always that easy especially when you’re trying to accommodate a larger group. I think you’re being hard on your dh. Some airlines leave certain rows unbookable because they sell different tickets classes (not cabins) for those that don’t want to pay for seat reservations. Any 2s I’ve ever seen are usually at the back and maybe they weren’t available/ only one available so one of your friends would be sat alone further down the plane. I’m assuming this was a request you made after the flights were booked? How would you feel if you were on a plane with no 2s? How would you feel (as has happened to me on many occasions) the airline change the plane and your seats change completely? I’d try to stop feeling hurt and furious and look forward to your upcoming trip. I almost feel a bit sorry for the lovely friend.

mitogoshi · 24/04/2024 19:56

I've never seen 2 in a row in cattle class

Okbyethen · 24/04/2024 19:56

Could you just do it yourself? Just go online and swap the seats to ones you want 🤷🏻‍♀️

EmilyTjP · 24/04/2024 19:56

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/04/2024 19:46

I'd insist on it anyway, as punishment for him booking you in a middle seat when you didn't have to be. He won't make the same mistake again.

One of them is always going to be in a middle seat, if they want to sit next to each other, if it’s a standard 3-4-3 or 3-3-3 on most long haul flights.

GrumpyPanda · 24/04/2024 19:55

momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

He'd have even less leg space in a window seat. I would insist.

GinForBreakfast · 24/04/2024 19:54

Honestly, if you can’t sit on a plane without getting stressed about it then don’t go on holiday.

There seems to be a lot of people who have issues with basic skills for existing in the world.

crumblingschools · 24/04/2024 19:53

How many planes have 2 seat configuration?

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 24/04/2024 19:53

I would leave him. For maximum effect I'd probably pack, go to the airport and do it there in front of the whole group.

Pollyannamex · 24/04/2024 19:50

I hate middle seats and I’d be annoyed by that. But you don’t want to sit next to your friend? And you are going on holiday together? How weird.

can you not change the seats?

Mangobrango · 24/04/2024 19:49

I think a private jet is probably more appropriate for your needs.

Starbugg · 24/04/2024 19:49

I don’t get it. You would have ended up sitting next to a stranger anyway.

InTheRainOnATrain · 24/04/2024 19:48

momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

The leg room is what it is whether aisle, middle or window. He can’t stick his long legs in the aisle to get bashed by meal trolleys or trip people up on the way to the bathroom. My DH is also 6’3 and as he puts it- middle seat in economy is a treat when you’re flying without the kids! So whilst I think YABU about the seat selection, your DH and his legs could definitely cope with the middle. Is upgrading an option? You usually get a pair of seats in premium economy and it has more leg room so ideal for you both.

pineapplebun82 · 24/04/2024 19:48

TBF I don't think you're being unreasonable to be annoyed with him, as I'm really fussy with where I sit on the plane. However, if it's a long flight what was the seating arrangement? Maybe there was no other choice? I'm also really insecure so I'd wonder why didn't he want us to sit together alone...
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FestivalFun · 24/04/2024 19:47

Why didn’t he leave the two non business class singles to sort out their own seating, they may have wanted to sit together?

TulipCat · 24/04/2024 19:47

What's the issue with being next to someone on the plane? It's so bad that you would prefer to leave one of your party alone rather than sit next to them?

Wolfpa · 24/04/2024 19:47

momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

You get the exact same amount of leg room no matter which seat you are in so this excuse doesn’t wash. Unless he takes an aisle seat and makes himself a trip hazard by lounging in the aisle.

purplecorkheart · 24/04/2024 19:47

Why are you self-conscious of seating with others on a plane? Is there a physical reason?

TakeOnFlea · 24/04/2024 19:46

He won't have any more legroom regardless of where he sits on the row

IncompleteSenten · 24/04/2024 19:46

Why is it worse to be sitting with a friend than a stranger?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 24/04/2024 19:46

momtoboys · 24/04/2024 19:39

Ok, the vast majority think I am being unreasonable. I'll take that and adjust my attitude. Thanks for the input. As for the people mentioning that my DH could go in the middle, I don't think that will work. He's 6'3" and long legs. 😂.

I'd insist on it anyway, as punishment for him booking you in a middle seat when you didn't have to be. He won't make the same mistake again.

NeedToChangeName · 24/04/2024 19:45

YABVU. He sounds considerate of the single friend

FestivalFun · 24/04/2024 19:43

As your DH is so thoughtful towards the friend he can sit next to her in the middle, don’t be a mug and take the seat yourself.

TidyDancer · 24/04/2024 19:42

I don't get what your problem with this is. Have you left out a huge detail as to why it would be such a problem for you to sit next to someone?

pinkmags · 24/04/2024 19:42

Why would you want her to be on her own though? I don’t understand that. She’s part of your group.

This!

Your husband did the right thing imo