Seating arrangement on flight abroad

Given you asked and he agreed and there were sets of two seats available

Were there 2 seats available on their own though?

Her weight…..

I'm either you OP. What was the point of the conversation you had if your DH just ignored it? This is rude and weird.
Why is he more concerned about someone else's flight enjoyment than yours? His own wife.
Does he regularly ignore you?
As for you booking the seats, that's not how things should have to work.
If some asked that their DH buy some tomatoes when they did the grocery shopping, or to put the trash out after you cooked dinner or made sure dc had their spots kit with them before school and it was agreed it's not a reasonable comment that 'you should have done it yourself'
Tasks are shared in a household and the task of booking seats was his and he didn't respect you and your request.

It's not about the friend or who books it. You asked him to do something and he completely ignored you.

If my husband offered to buy me a sandwich and I said can I have ham. He said yes no problem. And he came back with cheese despite the fact there was ham. I'd be irritated.

Either he didn't listen to you, doesn't consider your feelings valid or the friend asked if they could sit with you or he considered the friends feelings above yours.

I would tell him he can sit in the middle

I’ve never been in economy with just 2 seats to a row, and I’ve never seen an economy cabin like that either on tv or online etc. It’s usually in rows of 3. Besides which, she’s your friend? I don’t understand the issue?

Given you asked and he agreed and there were sets of two seats available, YANBU to miffed at him and insisting he shove his 6’3” frame into the middle seat is reasonable if he’s so happy to book a set of three.

I don't agree with "why didn't you book it yourself" - if we discuss some arrangements with my DP, I totally expect him to follow up on the agreed, or let me know if he needs to do something different.

It is so convenient he "can't" sit in the middle - he was gentleman in a way which costs only you and not him.

In many planes there would be only very few places where just two people sit in a row together, typically the last line or two, but it sounds he didn't even check whether they were free.

Well he went against your wishes and booked a row of 3 seats so he can sit in the middle!

You should maybe have explained your weight issue in your op. It is relevant. I voted YABU but now I don’t think so.

Is there an option to book premium economy or extra legroom seats?

There are often posts on here from larger posters asking about seatbelts on planes, and most replies have been very helpful.

I hope you have a stress free flight.

That doesn't guarantee no one would sit in the 3rd seat though?

So your DH is tall, and you are a bigger lady. Honestly, I think your DH might have been better off asking the friend if she wanted to sit with you or elsewhere, no? Couldn’t the single people have sat together?

Are you worried about spilling into their space? In which case your DH hasn't been very thoughtful at all.... but would he have understood that's why you wanted 2 seats together and not to be in a row of 3.....

Yep! How mean to have deliberately wanted her to sit alone.

Not the point, but what are you self-conscious about?

Frankly, you're being ridiculous 🤷‍♀️

Plenty of transatlantic planes have a 2-4-2 configuration, or 2-3-2 close to the back.

OP doesn’t want to inconvenience her friend, or anyone else. How is this something to criticise?

LTB, he’s clearly shagging your friend 👀😂

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This.

I think you're being OTT OP and I think your DH is very thoughtful. Would you really have wanted your friend sat with strangers so you have the flight you wanted?

This entirely. So OP would you have liked your DH to buy an extra seat to be left empty?

This

I find the responses to this bizarre. Particularly that the OP should have done it herself.

So how does that go...

"DH - I'm going to book the flights, what do you want to do about seating arrangements.

OP - I'd like to sit in a 2 seat if there's an option to do because .....

DH - OK great. That's fine with me. I'll book that then.

OP - well actually I can't trust you to do what we've agreed as you are completely incapable of it, so I'll do it myself"

Ummm that's going to go down well.

OP whatever anyone thinks of you desire to sit in a certain place on the plane, it doesn't matter. You discussed with your DH and made an agreement. If he wasn't happy with that he should have said at the time. If he was happy he should done what you agreed. If that wasn't possible when he came to book he should have told you. If he chanted his mind after the discussion he should have mentioned it to you before booking.

It's basic respect and communication really and most people wouldn't operate any differently. It's disrespectful to just do something that is not what has been discussed and agreed, whatever that is.