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Finders Keepers?? AirPods

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UnlimitedCake · 24/04/2024 17:47

DS (12) recently found some AirPods (don’t know if they are official) on a beach walk with DH and I. DH and I have now had a big fall out over what DS should do with turn. DH told DS they are his to keep and “quick, put them in your pocket before anyone sees!” I told him he should hand them in and that they are not his to keep. DH called me naive, a “nerd” a wimp etc for wanting to do that. I tried telling our son to imagine if he lost something valuable, he would want it back. DH said that’s not how the world works, anyone could come along and lie and claim them.

I tried again telling our son that the right thing to do is to hand in anything you find but I was then made out that I was “upsetting DS” and being “a misery”

We were meant to take DS out for a meal but the atmosphere was so awful that we came straight home. I ruined everything apparently 🙄

So AIBU?! I know I am not but apparently I am now the bad guy for ruining the evening. So what the hell do you do when one parent tries to teach right from wrong and the other just tramples all over it and fights you all the way?!

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IAmThe1AndOnly · 24/04/2024 20:33

eurochick · 24/04/2024 20:24

I can see that my stolen iPhone is now in China, a few streets away from the border with Hong Kong, so pretty far.

An IPhone is different though in that it remains on the Apple ID unless the owner is able to sign out.

AirPods though are just headphones which are paired with the device. So if the finder actually does keep them, they will reset them, pair them with their own device, at which point they can no longer be tracked.

PineappleTime · 24/04/2024 20:31

eurochick · 24/04/2024 20:24

I can see that my stolen iPhone is now in China, a few streets away from the border with Hong Kong, so pretty far.

Have you not bricked the phone?

eurochick · 24/04/2024 20:24

UnlimitedCake · 24/04/2024 17:59

How far can they be traced? We are now 10 miles away from where they were found.

I can see that my stolen iPhone is now in China, a few streets away from the border with Hong Kong, so pretty far.

Notsuretoputit · 24/04/2024 20:24

I think you’re right if you find things in a shop etc. But on a beach who can they be handed in to?

IAmThe1AndOnly · 24/04/2024 20:23

I’m not sure why people seem to think the owner is going to track them down and turn up at the OP’s house.

If the DS is planning to keep them, as soon as he resets them to pair them with his phone they will no longer be able to be tracked by the owner.

anothermnuser123 · 24/04/2024 20:19

Morally thats a terrible lesson to be teaching a 12 year old. I would be very tempted to orchestrate a much loved item of your DS or even DHs to 'get lost' while out and then see the look on their face when you remind them its finders keepers. Its not so easy to deal with when you are on the other side of it.

I do hope the owner can track them down but for me, I genuinely couldnt be with someone that not only had lousy morals like this but would mock me for not being that way and then influenced our children.

maimeo · 24/04/2024 20:17

Dying to know if someone turned up at the door to claim them, and how DH reacted! Please please update us when that happens, OP!!

Amx · 24/04/2024 20:12

Hopefully the owner has been over to collect them by now.

BimbledAgain · 24/04/2024 20:09

Of course you should hand them in. But not because they may be tracked but because it's the right thing to do.

What values is your DH's position teaching your child?

Shopper727 · 24/04/2024 20:06

I found some on the grass outside my house, I thought they were my sons but not, the school kids walk past on their way to and from school so I handed them in and the receptionist said a young girl had been very upset asking if someone had handed some in so hopefully they were hers. However they were manky. There is not a chance as @Tessisme said I would be using second hand earphones. I’ve seen my sons and urgh.

Chocolatecoveredshitpig · 24/04/2024 20:01

Tracking isn't that accurate either. I've found two pairs of AirPods on dog walks during the past year. On both occasions I took them home and plugged them in, hoping that the owners would then be able to track them. I also posted on every local FB group and on Next Door. Neither pair was ever claimed and no one ever turned up on my doorstep either. I still have both pairs in a drawer somewhere.

IAmThe1AndOnly · 24/04/2024 19:57

Your DH is in the wrong.

But it’s not true that they can be tracked. It takes 30 seconds to reset them, after which they are no longer trackable.

JMW2024 · 24/04/2024 19:51

Someone stole / found my daughter's AirPods (she had them 2 months) (she's 12) and she was devastated.

We tried tracking them & the person had took them off her find my iPhone and loaded them onto theirs - we never found them.
She was gutted. And so was I - that was a lot of money to loose.

He should attempt to find the person who's they are imo

PineappleTime · 24/04/2024 19:46

Everyone talking about tracking them you know they can only be tracked if they are connected and charged? And if they are connected to a new Apple ID they won't be traceable any more? It's very easy to steal AirPods.

PineappleTime · 24/04/2024 19:44

My DS left his at the gym and they never turned up. He was so upset that someone would just find and keep them. It's a bit easier at a gym to hand them in to lost property but as they never showed up on find my we have to assume they were wiped and added to someone else's Apple ID. He should charge them up so the person can find them (you can find them anywhere in the world!) and try to track them down.

Flubadubba · 24/04/2024 19:41

Are they actually Apple Airport? If so, they are trackable. If not Apple, then they may not be.

duende · 24/04/2024 19:39

YADNBU.
a horrible attitude on behalf of your DH. Ask your DS to imagine a society where everyone thinks and acts as his dad. :(

YeahComeOnThen · 24/04/2024 19:31

Hwory · 24/04/2024 18:16

My AirPods have the ability to play a bell ringing sound (which is very loud if they’re in your ear) from my iPhone. If I could see someone’s taken them to their house you betcha I’d be activating it over and over again.

@Hwory why? If YOU. Lost them, it's up to YOU to go & get them . It's not their responsibility nor can they find your location.

if you did that instead of coming to get them, you'd soon find out how waterproof they are!!

DrJoanAllenby · 24/04/2024 19:29

What a disgusting role model your husband is.

I hope they get tracked and some big geezer knocks on your door and takes your feeble husband by the ear and has a 'word' with him.

YeahComeOnThen · 24/04/2024 19:28

OldTinHat · 24/04/2024 17:50

As PP said, they will no doubt be tracked.

You are correct. Hand them in ASAP before you get a knock on the door.

@UnlimitedCake
@OldTinHat

ehere exactly would you hand them in? It's not like there's a police station on every street corner, or even in every village!

PoppyJM · 24/04/2024 19:26

They can be traced anywhere.

what a foolish twat your dh is.

the owner will be able to see your home location where his/her AirPods have been taken, following the theft your dh has orchestrated.

OhmygodDont · 24/04/2024 19:25

But yes I can go onto the family part of my phone and it pin points each of my children’s phone to a numbered house address or their schools when at school etc. shows them moving speedily down the road when in a car.

OhmygodDont · 24/04/2024 19:24

Doesn’t even have to be charged a lot of the time these days. Unless weeks dead they all have a little bit of charge tapped in them.

Blondeshavemorefun · 24/04/2024 19:22

Thanks for explaining

So hopefully if ever lose something apple then or someone finds it and plugs in then owner can find the finder as such

ImNotAPanda · 24/04/2024 18:16

Worldwide traced. I’d buy them a charger so they get plugged in and they come and get them.