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Finders Keepers?? AirPods

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UnlimitedCake · 24/04/2024 17:47

DS (12) recently found some AirPods (don’t know if they are official) on a beach walk with DH and I. DH and I have now had a big fall out over what DS should do with turn. DH told DS they are his to keep and “quick, put them in your pocket before anyone sees!” I told him he should hand them in and that they are not his to keep. DH called me naive, a “nerd” a wimp etc for wanting to do that. I tried telling our son to imagine if he lost something valuable, he would want it back. DH said that’s not how the world works, anyone could come along and lie and claim them.

I tried again telling our son that the right thing to do is to hand in anything you find but I was then made out that I was “upsetting DS” and being “a misery”

We were meant to take DS out for a meal but the atmosphere was so awful that we came straight home. I ruined everything apparently 🙄

So AIBU?! I know I am not but apparently I am now the bad guy for ruining the evening. So what the hell do you do when one parent tries to teach right from wrong and the other just tramples all over it and fights you all the way?!

OP posts:
dinomirror · 24/04/2024 21:32

dinomirror · 24/04/2024 21:28

I think that he should have asked those around him if they dropped it and then maybe would have been okay to keep. Airpods can be tracked but they can easily just be reset so the tracking is lost

I also agree with posters upthread that i would have charged it at my house in hope of people tracking them

dinomirror · 24/04/2024 21:28

I think that he should have asked those around him if they dropped it and then maybe would have been okay to keep. Airpods can be tracked but they can easily just be reset so the tracking is lost

hottchocolatte · 24/04/2024 21:27

Your DH sounds horrible not only for keeping things that are not his but more so for the way he treated you when you tried to do the right thing. He didn't see any nuance or take your point on board at all - it was very clearly his way.

tennesseewhiskey1 · 24/04/2024 21:23

Imagine if a parent or a child saved up their money to buy those, your husband is a cunt, I pity your children with a role model like him. Awful.

DagnabbitDeputyDawg · 24/04/2024 21:19

[w]here exactly would you hand them in? It's not like there's a police station on every street corner, or even in every village!

This is exactly what I was going to say. There are very few police stations, and those few aren't open to the public. "Handing them in" isn't an option. Leaving them where they are is. If they are traceable, I suppose you could take them to an Apple store, but that might involve a long journey.

Headstarttohappiness · 24/04/2024 21:19

Well I would swipe them when they are put on charge or something and take them straight to the police station asap. Let husband go down and try to explain finders keepers to the cops.
Good luck OP. Awful parenting from DH.
I did like someone suggesting that he might “lose “ something very precious in the next few days!

Verv · 24/04/2024 21:18

Nah I think you were right OP.
You should try to return property before pocketing it, and if you teach a kid to pocket early doors then you have the potential for them to become an adult who thinks its fine if they find a wallet and keep the money.

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 24/04/2024 21:14

Sorry op but your dh sounds like a right wanker. He needs a taste of his own medicine! That could be something a child got for their birthday, or a teenager paid for with their first wage packet. Horrible example to set ds.

BakedTattie · 24/04/2024 21:14

Fucking hell. Your ‘d’h is an absolute rocket. Your son sounds just as bad! Even my 7 year old knows you don’t just keep expensive stuff you find!

WiddlinDiddlin · 24/04/2024 21:13

I would be unable to wait until DH lost something, in fact I'd be inclined to 'assist' some spendy item in becoming lost if I possibly could, without getting caught, just to able to say 'Well, serves you right for being so stupid as to lose it/them'...

ToxicChristmas · 24/04/2024 21:12

UnlimitedCake · 24/04/2024 21:08

Quick update - unfortunately nobody has turned up at our door as much as I want them to! Thank you all for your comments - it’s reassuring that there are other decent human beings out there who would try to return possessions to their owner. According to DH I am a pushover, a doormat and naive for doing the right thing. Great parenting from DH! He takes the attitude that it “serves them right for being stupid enough to lose them in the first place” He, of course, would never be stupid enough to lose one of his possessions as he looks after his stuff 🙄

The temptation I'd have to hide his phone/something valuable and watch the reaction. Selfish shit.

tastydiner · 24/04/2024 21:09

With DS’s iPods, tracking only shows the last time they were online when he dropped them at school. It was only when someone opened the case that the location updated and he was able to go and get them.

UnlimitedCake · 24/04/2024 21:08

Quick update - unfortunately nobody has turned up at our door as much as I want them to! Thank you all for your comments - it’s reassuring that there are other decent human beings out there who would try to return possessions to their owner. According to DH I am a pushover, a doormat and naive for doing the right thing. Great parenting from DH! He takes the attitude that it “serves them right for being stupid enough to lose them in the first place” He, of course, would never be stupid enough to lose one of his possessions as he looks after his stuff 🙄

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XenoBitch · 24/04/2024 21:03

Finders keepers is bollocks. It is theft by finding.

Kinneddar · 24/04/2024 21:00

Are they actually Apple Airport? If so, they are trackable. If not Apple, then they may not be

Samsung ons are exactly the same - and traceable. Tracking isn't exclusive to Apple. There are other companies out there

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/04/2024 20:59

Your 'DH' has now let you know that he has no morals past getting caught to not.

You can't trust a word he says, being as he's a liar.

I wouldn't still be married to a man like this. Not being a thieving, lying scumbag is my line.

Londonrach1 · 24/04/2024 20:57

Yuk to second hand air pods that been in someone's else's ear

Bearpawk · 24/04/2024 20:55

Tessisme · 24/04/2024 18:13

Morals aside, there is NOTHING that would induce me to place something in my ear holes that had been plugged in someone else's ear holes. No amount of antibacterial spray. Not even a fucking flame thrower would clean those bastards sufficiently for me.

You can easily get replacement rubber ear bits for them. In fact the ordinals come with a few different pairs.

Delphiniumandlupins · 24/04/2024 20:50

If your DS hands them in and the owner doesn't claim them then he will get them back. Why is your DH's moral compass so low? Does he think every dishonesty is acceptable if you don't get caught?

listsandbudgets · 24/04/2024 20:46

We were burgled a few years ago. One of the things taken was DD's phone... the police were delighted - it hadn't been turned off and was still trackable. They got a search warrant, walked into this guys house and found evidence of about 20 recent burglaries and a trawl through his bank account and trips to various pawn brokers / cash convertors places uncovered a pile more. Their clear up rate had never been so good Grin

Your DS needs with your help to make an effort to locate the owner. I bet he'd be devastated if he lost something of similar value.

As for your DH he needs to check his moral compass because there's something seriously wrong with it.

ToxicChristmas · 24/04/2024 20:42

Let me guess OP, he is the type who would have be absolutely furious and indignant if someone took something he lost? That it wouldn't be "finders keepers" in that case? I had an uncle like that. Was apoplectic with rage when someone broke into his car and stole his stereo...but would purchase stolen goods from the back of lorries and would have gleefully kept a lost wallet.
I'd be so turned off by his behaviour. I hope you are doing OK. YOU didn't ruin the day -the thief did. The audacity of him being annoyed at you because you didn't back up his shitty parenting.

Trulyme · 24/04/2024 20:41

I always try and return anything I find because I would want someone to return my things.

I would especially do this in front of my child who I’m trying to teach to be a decent human being.

Your DH isn’t a great role model for his child.

determinedtomakethiswork · 24/04/2024 20:38

If your husband has AirPods I'd be very tempted to throw them out of the window while I was driving down the motorway.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 24/04/2024 20:36

What a peach he is, teaching your ds to be a thief, and ruining your day 😞

TinyYellow · 24/04/2024 20:35

If they still had battery left, they will be easily tracked to either your address or next doors.