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Male Nursery Staff

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herei · 24/04/2024 15:59

My child is in Nursery after my return to work. They nursery chain have been hiring make staff recently. My child's nursery has 3 male staff.

My daughter's nappy was changed by a male member of staff. For my own personal reasons I feel upset about this but not sure if I can even say or do anything. I just don't like it.

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CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 16:20

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You must be incredibly damaged to have this viewpoint.

LambertndButler · 24/04/2024 16:19

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Sellingbedtime · 24/04/2024 16:19

It's quite hurtful to assume the worst of male nursery workers.

I would suggest just moving nurseries.

Pippa12 · 24/04/2024 16:17

If you’re not happy move your child. What would you reasonably say?

FWIW my little boy flourished when a male nursery nurse took over his nursery. I didn’t give it a second thought. He was great!

PinkyFlamingo · 24/04/2024 16:17

Some of these views are so sad.

ScarlettOBan · 24/04/2024 16:16

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Good luck to you.

Divebar2021 · 24/04/2024 16:15

Related males are much less of a risk than unrelated males

the biggest perpetrators of SA are relatives or friends of the family - step fathers ( or someone in that position like mums boyfriend) other male relatives like uncles and grandfathers and fathers who have not lived with a child.

LambertndButler · 24/04/2024 16:14

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ToryHater · 24/04/2024 16:13

I think it is great that there are role models for the boys!

ARichtGoodDram · 24/04/2024 16:13

Tbh the nursery either has good grasp of safeguarding the children and a good nappy changing set up or it doesn’t.

Presumably its one of the things you asked about/checked when you sent your child there?

There’s a nursery here that I wouldn’t ever use because of their nappy changing set up. Regardless of male or female staff. The one I used had the children kept safe, again regardless of male or female staff.

ScarlettOBan · 24/04/2024 16:12

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Are you also suspicious of male paediatric/neonatal doctors, male paediatric nurses or male midwives? They’ve also chosen a field where they work with babies and children. Do you question their motives?

Divebar2021 · 24/04/2024 16:12

well there are endless threads from women complaining that their husbands don’t pull their weight with their own children but a man in a caring profession must be suspicious?

LambertndButler · 24/04/2024 16:11

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Tandora · 24/04/2024 16:10

ScarlettOBan · 24/04/2024 16:05

Sorry, should we be assuming that all males are also paedophiles? Is that the insinuation or is there another reason I am missing?

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No I don’t assume all men are pedophiles , but 80-90% of child sex offenders are men, and around 80% of victims are girls. So it’s just ridiculous to reverse the genders and pretend it’s exactly the same equivalence.

CaptainCarrotsBigSword · 24/04/2024 16:10

I wouldn't like it either.

Not all men are sex offenders. But nearly all sex offenders are men. And sex offenders will seek out employment where they can access their victims.

Op, I would want to know from the nursery what processes are in place to mitigate the risk to your child. Is there CCTV in all areas, including the changing areas? Is there an arrangement so staff are never alone with children during nappy changes?

The risk of sexual abuse to the infants in their care is increased by having male staff. That is not pearl clutching hyperbole, that is simple facts based off crime data & patterns of offending. They need to have things in place to reduce this risk back to where it would be if all the staff were female. (Beyond what would be in place if all staff were female.)

If they don't, I would move my child.

JustMarriedBecca · 24/04/2024 16:09

Jesus I hope you raise your DD to be more aware of equality.

Given the number of families with crap absentee fathers, having caring and empathetic male role models is critical to raising women who will smash glass ceilings and the men who will help them do it.

PercyJackson · 24/04/2024 16:09

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So you think the only time men should want to work with children is if they have an unhealthy interest in them? Do you think the same about male teachers? Male paediatricians? Male sports coaches? Fathers?

MaggieFS · 24/04/2024 16:09

PuttingDownRoots · 24/04/2024 16:06

I would rather have a male nursery staff member looking after DDs than a woman who believes all men are a threat and women aren't.

All staff, male and female, should follow safeguarding principles and procedures, so risk is mitigated

Exactly this. I don't know what the rules are, but at my DC's nurseries, nappy changing is always done in an open area. There is limited privacy for the child, but it means for the sake of the DC AND for the staff, they are visible to others, and visible on the CCTV (but genital area is NOT visible).

The male staff DC have had have done nothing but enhance their experiences.

LittleRedYoshi · 24/04/2024 16:07

You're being unreasonable.

And for the record, the best and most caring member of nursery staff that my DDs ever had was male.

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ScarlettOBan · 24/04/2024 16:05

Sorry, should we be assuming that all males are also paedophiles? Is that the insinuation or is there another reason I am missing?

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Statistically the rate of peadophile men is higher than that of paedophile women so I can understand why the OP is uncomfortable.

LambertndButler · 24/04/2024 16:06

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PuttingDownRoots · 24/04/2024 16:06

I would rather have a male nursery staff member looking after DDs than a woman who believes all men are a threat and women aren't.

All staff, male and female, should follow safeguarding principles and procedures, so risk is mitigated

ploooto · 24/04/2024 16:06

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😂🤣 this is a scary view.
Maybe because it's a low paid and undervalued career, must make the women do it!!

Lassiata · 24/04/2024 16:05

Safeguarding and oversight measures should prevent any bad people, male or female, being a danger to the kids.
Of course that does not always work, as seen in a recent high profile case about a female nursery worker.