Male Nursery Staff

When you pay someone else to care for your child, you don't get to call all the shots. Remember that there are male nurses, male paediatricians and (most importantly) male fathers.

Can you have a word with the nursery manager and explain that you'd prefer DD's ably be changed by female staff only - can they facilitate that?

No good nursery manager that values her staff would facilitate that. Why should women do more than their share of the unpleasant jobs just because their manager hired a man?

Vanessa George female nursery worker took photos herself sexually abusing kids in her care.
Not all men are paedophilles and not all women are a safe choice.

Prize for the first idiot comparing lesbians with men.

Being naturally wary isn't a problem and should be applied to all people having contact with children not just men. Assuming because 98% of sexual crimes are carried out by men therefore all men are risky is wrong if that were the case most of us would be victims as we have fathers and male relatives and family is the riskiest place to be.

I think people need to put things into perspective only a low percentage of children are abused, most risk is at home, sexual abuse is a lower percentage than physical, emotional, or neglect. Be aware ask questions like what is your safeguarding policy, your nappy changing policy etc. read Ofsted reports on management and leadership

Why?

There are safeguards in place in all good nurseries to ensure no staff member is alone with toileting/nappy changes. Staff change nappies all day long, it's another repetitive task for most of us and part and parcel of the day.

Male staff in early years are amazing. They play and interact differently and for children without consistent male role models in the family environment they are almost essential. All the men I've worked with in early years seem to be far more patient than some of the women.

I am normally very progressive, but I wouldn't like this either. When I went to look around DD's nursery there was a male member of staff on the team board and it did put me off.

As pp have said, of course not all men would do something awful, but most sexual assaults are committed by men. Working in a nursery presumably attracts one of two types of men: very caring wonderful ones and ones with awful motivations.

Can you have a word with the nursery manager and explain that you'd prefer DD's ably be changed by female staff only - can they facilitate that?

Peak Mumsnet

"Wah all the childcare roles are women because men won't do it such oppression"

Man attempts childcare

"Wah get that man away from childcare it's not safe such oppression"

If you don’t like it, take your child out of the nursery. I wouldn’t tell them why you’re leaving though, it doesn’t reflect well on parents that are happy to send their child to nursery but want to pick and choose who cares for them. You either trust the nursery as a whole or you don’t.

We have a male member of staff at DD's preschool... but that is with the 3 and 4 year olds who are already potty trained. Not sure how I would feel about baby room, though I am satisfied that there is a strict safeguarding policy in place.

I will say that he is great- highly trained, very professional, and a good male influence. It's a shame there aren't more men in early years education.

It does not matter whether we think you are BU or not.

You are not happy with the staff at this nursery or that it’s not following the correct procedures, so move your child.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2009/oct/01/vanessa-george-sex-abuse

not worth the risk with women either

No wonder men feel reluctant to go into childcare, nursing, teaching. How do they learn how to care for children.

It's not about equality it's about safeguarding 🤷‍♀️ I'm sure your son's lovely but I wouldn't put my child in his nursery.

And if the female member of staff were a lesbian? Should she have to declare that if she is changing female children's nappies? Oh I bet not.

And tomorrow when they take on a man?

unfortunately, I agree. it's just not worth the risk is it

How would you feel about a woman holding your boys penis and scrotum ? There's actually much more intimate touching cleaning a boy properly

I really struggle with this. In a society where women are routinely heckled, harassed, sent dick pics and sexually assaulted by men. Where every single day there are stories in the news about men who have raped, killed and stalked women. Where 98% of people who have committed a sexual crime are men. When so many women on here and other sites have shared stories of doctors, teachers, gynaecologists and other male professionals assaulting them. Why is it women are accused of being ‘disgusting’ and thinking ‘all men are sex pests’ when, by the time we become mothers we are shaped by experience and become naturally wary? Even if that seems unfair on the rest of men?

There is a lot of ‘poor men’ sentiment on here. I feel more sorry that women have been socialised to be so wary of men through bitter experience.

My daughters nursery had cameras in the baby changing area, I was quite relieved about that as a first time nervous mum.

If the nursery doesn't meet.your requirements, for whatever reason, then move her.

But don't ask the nursery to stop.male.staff.chnaging the nappies. It'll put unfair work on other members of staff.