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Car accident.. who is at fault here?

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Greenleafants · 24/04/2024 13:53

I am so stressed so bare with me. Going down the A1 but it’s a single carriageway and turning right into a little side road because I live there. I stop and start Indicating right as there is approaching traffic on other side of the road. I can see a white van approaching my rear at high speed but I still don’t want to turn as there is traffic coming very quickly on other side of road. Then I see a gap but I am really stressed at this point and I stall my car like an absolute fool. So embarrassed. Crash. He goes into the back of me and he was absolutely raging. His van is damaged worse than my car, I have some damage to my bumper but managed to drive home.. I’ll be found at fault for, won't I?

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cadburyegg · 24/04/2024 16:34

I had something similar happen last year. Was driving out of a service station and indicating left at a junction. Lots of traffic so had to wait. Went to move off and car cut across me so stopped again. Van went into the back of me. He didn't apologise, just went on and on about how he thought I was going to move. I was so shocked tbh so didn't say anything, just exchanged details and left the scene.

I reported the crash when we got home and my insurance company said more or less straight away that they knew I wasn't at fault. The only way you'd be found responsible is if you reversed into the front of his van, which is not what happened obviously. The other insurer took ages to admit liability to my insurer. I reckon the driver kept claiming I was at fault. Grin

Sorry you were intimidated. Drivers seem to be becoming more aggressive. And they're always men. And I've been driving 19 years. Big hugs to you. Flowers

Irishmama100 · 24/04/2024 16:26

1000% his fault!!
Typical fecking man, he thought you would move and but he thought wrong.
If this is a turn you have to do often I would suggest that for safety if you think someone is coming too fast behind you drive on. I used to have to do a right turn of a main road into the road I lived on. If I thought a car was going to go into the back of me I was ready to drive on. Shouldn’t have to do that though!

Eze · 24/04/2024 16:20

Totally his fault, he failed to slow down enough to anticipate a potential issue, that’s why the theory test has videos on it. Complete dickhead to then try to take it out on you. Ignore what he said about your driving, it’s him that needs a few lessons.

Tell your insurance exactly what happened and let them tell his insurance to fuck off pay for your damage. Moron.

Itloggedmeoutagain · 24/04/2024 16:07

Doesn't matter why your car stopped.
Could have been a child running out etc
He is at fault

GerbilsForever24 · 24/04/2024 16:05

It is ALWAYS the person who does the rear ending's fault. It is up to the driver behind to check their speed and folowing distance. Doesn't matter what he expectd you to do. Or even what you DID/DIDN'T do. At the end of the day, it is still the responsibility of the car behind.

if someone stops suddenly for no reason an dI hit them. They might well be an idiot. Doesn't matter, I'm still liable as it's up to me to ensure that I have time to stop for vehicles in front of me.

ChangeAgain2 · 24/04/2024 16:00

It's his fault. He hit you from behind and you were stationary.

If you feel nervous maybe do a pass plus driving course. It should lower your insurance as well. But, in this case you did nothing wrong.

EatCrow · 24/04/2024 15:58

Greenleafants · 24/04/2024 14:01

Thank you. Feeling better already. I didn’t argue. Just wanted to get out of there asap.

No point arguing with a moron anyway.

Porageeater · 24/04/2024 15:58

Car in front needs to be able to stop at any point for any reason and car behind needs to have left enough stopping distance to avoid going into the back. It’s really quite simple. He is a twat and his insurance will have to pay out for it all. Phone your insurance company and tell them what happened in factual terms.

TwelveAngryWhiskers · 24/04/2024 15:57

WarshipRocinante · 24/04/2024 14:46

It’s no more dangerous than stalling anywhere else. If you’re stalling then you’ve been stationary, and every driver coming up behind should be reacting to a stationary car, which means slowing and approaching at a crawl and stopping if they still haven’t moved. If they stall and you hit them then you were going too fast and too close, doesn’t matter how busy the road is. Every driver should approach a stationary car as if it’s a stationary car! And not imagining that it will move before you get there.

Edited

Exactly this! Stuff happens. People walk out into the road. Cars break down. Tailbacks occur on blind bends. Look ahead, anticipate, adjust speed accordingly and be prepared to stop.

LIVVI1234 · 24/04/2024 15:57

Very similar happened to me once, except I didn't stall, I was about to drive out at a junction but hesitated (I'd barely started moving) as a car flew past super fast. and the car behind went straight into the back of me.
He was found at fault. I was told that 99% of the time they will be found at fault unless they can prove you did something absolutely, outrageously stupid. Which you didn't.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 24/04/2024 15:57

Nothingandnobody · 24/04/2024 14:00

100% his fault. However, you shouldn't be stalling on really busy roads like the A1. It's massively dangerous so I can understand why he said what he did.

Anyone regardless of experience can easily stall on any road if you're stationary and waiting to turn.

Dareisayiseethesunshine · 24/04/2024 15:55

The other driver in my case has ignored my insurers. And indeed the police call that told him to deal with the claim. Firstly he told me he was only going 10pmh then that he was stationary! What on the wrong side of a country lane in a blind spot? I did respond that yes he was stationary after he had written my car off! He didn't even hang around just handed me a business card!! Utter cunt... Meanwhile my premium has gone up as insurance class it as pending case....

dragonscannotswim · 24/04/2024 15:54

He's an absolute dickhead who can't drive, doesn't know the Highway Code, and is an aggressive arse.

He is at fault.

I hope you're ok, OP. 💐 Don't let him knock your confidence. Stalling can happen to anyone.

PotatoPudding · 24/04/2024 15:52

How far behind was he and were you indicating before you stopped?

TwelveAngryWhiskers · 24/04/2024 15:52

I don't understand how he managed to crash into you because you stalled. That terrible driving on his part. He should have waited to move into the gap, but instead must have been like a coiled spring. He's the one who shouldn't be on the road. You did nothing wrong.

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 15:52

saveforthat · 24/04/2024 15:31

I was just about to say this. Quite a lot of it is in the South East!

I'm not going to lie, I thought the only part of the A1 that was single carriageway was between Northumberland and Edinburgh

stormy11 · 24/04/2024 15:51

It happens all over. I am in the East Midlands and have seen some shocking driving recently. Thing is most of it could be prevented if people have a little more patience!

WarshipRocinante · 24/04/2024 15:50

Parky04 · 24/04/2024 15:47

Not necessarily. The accident may have been contrived. You would require evidence though ie Dash Cam.

Doesn’t matter. If someone brakes in front of you, even on purpose to try and cause an accident, and you hit them then it’s because you haven’t left yourself the proper braking distance.

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:49

He's one of those angry, impatient drivers, nightmares on the road

Parky04 · 24/04/2024 15:47

DilemmaDelilah · 24/04/2024 13:58

It is ALWAYS the fault of the person crashing into you from behind.

Not necessarily. The accident may have been contrived. You would require evidence though ie Dash Cam.

Cygnetmad · 24/04/2024 15:46

so you were stationary and he drove into you? of course it's not your fault. 100% on him.

VolvoFan · 24/04/2024 15:43

Bad driving is nationwide. I'm in the south east and last night some nutsack in a BMW cut a corner entering a junction into a tight road with cars parked on one side as I was coming up through, uphill. He then decides to try to bait me into squeezing through the gap he left me. I try the first few feet before my nearside front wing got within a few inches of a parked car on my left, parking sensors screaming at me. I reverse all the way back down the road, nobody behind me and then said nutsack came barrelling down past me into the gap I left him, flapping like a chicken as if he'd left his oven on at home. No accident. No harm. Just a nutsack in a BMW.

fieldsofbutterflies · 24/04/2024 15:42

Nothingandnobody · 24/04/2024 14:44

It's the busiest road in the North East. It could have led to a massive pile up. She's lucky it didn't. It was the man's fault and I said that. However, I can understand his anger as stalling on a major road is so dangerous.

Stalling isn't dangerous, but driving so fast that you can't stop and slam into the back of someone is incredibly dangerous.

theemmadilemma · 24/04/2024 15:39

saveforthat · 24/04/2024 15:36

Pile ups only happen because people do not use safe stopping distances.

This. See it daily people sitting up each others arses on high speed roads.

theemmadilemma · 24/04/2024 15:38

Been driving 30+ years, stalled this week by accident. Shit happens.

As I understand it, if you hit a stationary car you are always at fault. Not your fault at all, and insurance will confirm it.