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70s bush envy

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Sparklybutold · 24/04/2024 11:34

Is it just me or does anyone else have bush envy? Yes I mean pubic hair bush. I swear I have alopecia down there. I would love a big soft bush. Apparently you can get a bush wig which I'd seriously consider.

(Dear Aston University - stick that in your pipe)

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CheerUpFFS · 24/04/2024 18:06

Katbum · 24/04/2024 16:06

I love my bush. DH not so keen but whatever, I’m not a porn star, my body is not a tool to arouse someone else’s sexual pleasure. We manage to have a very fun sex life and he just has to get on board with the bush.

It is much more comfortable and hygienic to have public hair - otherwise nature would have selected it out. People who remove hair totally are - whether they admit it or not - absorbing the sexist pornification of our culture. At no time in history have women removed pubes for ‘comfort’; it’s done because we are told through repeat cultural messaging that it is more attractive and ‘sexier’. Once you realise this, it’s game over for pube removal.

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This is quite horrible? I remove all of mine and have for years including when I was completely single and times I've had gynae ops and no regular sex, I do it for me but I accept other people keep theirs for them why can't you? And yes I do it because it makes me feel nice and it makes me feel clean, whether that's true or not. I don't agree that I'm absorbing any sort of culture, I think you're trying to make a bit more of an issue out of it than it is.

AInightingale · 24/04/2024 18:03

When I think of the number of times men cut themselves shaving - and that's their fully visible and easily accessible faces, right in front of a mirror! Christ.

BIossomtoes · 24/04/2024 18:03

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 24/04/2024 16:38

I don't particularly care what other people do with their hair. But I don't think sex feels as good when there's no hair on either party. It's way too slippery and sweaty. Feels like two dolphins going at each other.

😂 Such a brilliant description.

GlomOfNit · 24/04/2024 18:00

I love pubes, me! Grin I love a big fluffy bush. I remember Caitlin Moran, in one of her many navel-gazers where she enjoys being female (yay for being female tho!) said an underrated joy in life was to bouff up a freshly washed bush, basically fluffing it up and a bit of back-combing, and then bounce your hand gently up and down on it, bouff bouff bouff. Grin Lovely.

Mine can no longer do that! I'm VERY nostalgic for the wild and curlies of my 20's. Now I'm 50 and my bush is balding at the sides (I think it's the elastic of my pants!) and thinning on top and is just not very fucking CURLY any more! I knew they thinned, greyed and balded but by Merlin's Beard, why do they straighten?!

Why any red-blooded woman would allow her partner to encourage her to rip them out is beyond me. They're meant to be there. so are areola hairs but I tweeze 'em out!

potato57 · 24/04/2024 17:56

IncompleteSenten · 24/04/2024 17:53

Trimmed or waxed or shaved adult women look nothing like prepubescent girls.

Our genitals change a lot during puberty. You could rip out your entire thatch, polish it with car wax and slap a smiley face sticker on it and it would still look nothing like a child's vulva.

Mine still does. Sorry.

TheLadyofShalotts · 24/04/2024 17:55

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 17:48

It must be red raw being shaved every single day 😬

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No, it isn’t weirdly. It gets a lot more raw if there is hair rubbing the skin all the time.

I don’t do it every time, I use a lot of shaving stuff and an extremely sharp razor… I’m also a wheelchair user with care needs so my showering ways/situation is probably different to a lot of other people’s.

CheerUpFFS · 24/04/2024 17:53

AInightingale · 24/04/2024 17:38

For the women who do remove it, isn't regrowth as itchy as hell? I know waxing is 'best' if you choose to remove hair, but I daresay many of those who do, shave. How the f isn't it as distracting and uncomfortable as hell?

Epilating is even easier than waxing as you can do it when it's super short. For me it's as much a part of a routine now as brushing my teeth I love it!

IncompleteSenten · 24/04/2024 17:53

Trimmed or waxed or shaved adult women look nothing like prepubescent girls.

Our genitals change a lot during puberty. You could rip out your entire thatch, polish it with car wax and slap a smiley face sticker on it and it would still look nothing like a child's vulva.

Katbum · 24/04/2024 17:52

TheLadyofShalotts · 24/04/2024 17:38

Wow! I don’t care so much as I’m fascinated.

You really don’t believe that other women’s bodies are different to yours? When we strip off we are all exactly like you, down to the texture of our body hair and the ph balance of our discharge?

How do you square that with the evidence of biology and what you can see with your own eyes?!

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Their bodies are different sure - their tolerance for sensations different sure. That removing pubic hair is more comfortable and hygienic for them than letting it grow - no. I don’t believe it. I think if that is the case then there is some kind of problem that needs addressing with a doctor.

CheerUpFFS · 24/04/2024 17:52

Didn't mean to underline my post lol

CheerUpFFS · 24/04/2024 17:51

Each to their own but I hate public hair, reading soft bush made me heave a bit inside. My epilator is my absolute favourite thing, makes me feel so clean.

DaoineSidhe · 24/04/2024 17:50

StarDolphins · 24/04/2024 11:55

I’m disappointed- I came here to reminisce about the laurel hedging at the front of my childhood home in the 70’s.

😂

Callipygion · 24/04/2024 17:49

When having a caesarean section (30 years ago!) they shaved me down there, and the hair on bit in the middle (is that the mons Venus?) under the incision line, never grew back. That area is also a bit numb. I don’t think they sewed me up straight either as I had a linea negra and it ended up as a linea dog-leg.

CrunchyCarrot · 24/04/2024 17:49

I'm disappointed no-one has mentioned Shepherd's bush. Magnificent thing.

70s bush envy
lifeinthelastlane · 24/04/2024 17:48

DagenhamDanny · 24/04/2024 16:23

Personally, I love a neatly trimmed lady garden. But a full Amazon rainforest? No thanks.

You would genuinely stop having sex with a woman if she revealed this during the act?
I find that hard to believe

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 17:48

TheLadyofShalotts · 24/04/2024 17:41

Yea, it’s itchy if you leave it to grow back- I run over it with a razor most times I shower so I don’t get the regrowth feeling.

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It must be red raw being shaved every single day 😬

TheLadyofShalotts · 24/04/2024 17:41

AInightingale · 24/04/2024 17:38

For the women who do remove it, isn't regrowth as itchy as hell? I know waxing is 'best' if you choose to remove hair, but I daresay many of those who do, shave. How the f isn't it as distracting and uncomfortable as hell?

Yea, it’s itchy if you leave it to grow back- I run over it with a razor most times I shower so I don’t get the regrowth feeling.

TheLadyofShalotts · 24/04/2024 17:38

Katbum · 24/04/2024 17:28

Yes that is what I think! Why do you care?

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Wow! I don’t care so much as I’m fascinated.

You really don’t believe that other women’s bodies are different to yours? When we strip off we are all exactly like you, down to the texture of our body hair and the ph balance of our discharge?

How do you square that with the evidence of biology and what you can see with your own eyes?!

AInightingale · 24/04/2024 17:38

For the women who do remove it, isn't regrowth as itchy as hell? I know waxing is 'best' if you choose to remove hair, but I daresay many of those who do, shave. How the f isn't it as distracting and uncomfortable as hell?

LlynTegid · 24/04/2024 17:36

I think we should envy that if the choice you make is not to trim or remove, in the 70s no-one would have criticised you for it.

TorroFerney · 24/04/2024 17:36

LittleBooThang · 24/04/2024 11:35

Nope. It’s just grim. Taking care of yourself is important.

How is getting rid of pubic hair "taking care of yourself"? It's not like it grows to your knees and trips you up?

EarthSight · 24/04/2024 17:34

HesterRoon · 24/04/2024 17:33

My bf is a sexual health nurse-she says the fashion for young women to remove hair completely isn’t healthy and puts them at a greater risk of infection. Hair helps keep you clean.

This.

EarthSight · 24/04/2024 17:34

LittleBooThang · 24/04/2024 11:35

Nope. It’s just grim. Taking care of yourself is important.

Do you say that to men as well?

HesterRoon · 24/04/2024 17:33

My bf is a sexual health nurse-she says the fashion for young women to remove hair completely isn’t healthy and puts them at a greater risk of infection. Hair helps keep you clean.

VeryUnlikely · 24/04/2024 17:33

I remember being told by a bloke to 'do something about down there for next time'. I said he needed to do something about his cock and face for 'next time.' Bloody cheek.