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70s bush envy

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Sparklybutold · 24/04/2024 11:34

Is it just me or does anyone else have bush envy? Yes I mean pubic hair bush. I swear I have alopecia down there. I would love a big soft bush. Apparently you can get a bush wig which I'd seriously consider.

(Dear Aston University - stick that in your pipe)

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BashfulClam · 24/04/2024 19:20

You can have some of mine for a Merkin. Mine grows at an insane rate. I keep it
neatly trimmed but don’t remove it as it is mean to be there and has a purpose.

DagenhamDanny · 24/04/2024 19:20

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 24/04/2024 18:37

But you are absorbing culture. Because no one did it 25 years ago, as getting rid of pubes didn’t exist.

Its a new culture which you’ve absorbed.

I love listening to my 17 year old telling me that no woman should feel the need to shave as it’s a feminist issue.

I agree that it is.

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That's simply not true. My girlfriend at the time, and before, always kept herself clean shaven down there.

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:20

@Polishedshoesalways

Ah i see what you mean.

But women don't shave their vagina to resemble a child. Just like they don't shave their armpits in order to look like a child.

Waitingfordoggo · 24/04/2024 19:18

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:12

@Pingtotheeastwoodly but you knew what I meant didn't you Hmm

The bast majority of women use vagina to refer to the whole shebang so no need to be anal about it Wink

Most of the women I know use the words ‘vulva’, ‘labia’ and ‘vagina’ as appropriate (or some rather more coarse equivalents 😂) I honesty don’t think the majority of women use ‘vagina’ to mean the whole area.
But if you’re right, I find that depressing.

Would you at least differentiate if you were trying to explain a problem to a Dr?

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 19:17

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:14

@Polishedshoesalways no 99% of adult females do not have full bushes. How would you even know that?

An adult vagina is an adult vagina, hairless or otherwise.

They have hair - naturally!!!!!

OhmygodDont · 24/04/2024 19:17

Unless someone expects you to touch their vagina it really shouldn’t matter to you personally how it looks.

Angrymum22 · 24/04/2024 19:17

I always think hairless groins look even more naked and a little ugly. A good bush is like a natural fig leaf. I always had quite large labia that dangled a bit, without the bush I would have been quite self conscious about them.
Fortunately like the thinning bush, as you age the labia shrink as well. In fact my nether regions are looking more and more prepubescent with every passing year.
Maybe if old women were more open about what happens and that you lose everything post menopause the younger generation would be less inclined to remove it all. Rather than saying a naked groin looks prepubescent, perhaps likening to an 80 yr old would be sufficient deterrent.

DH is rather sad that I’m thinning out drastically. Although he’s delighted that I no longer pinch his razor to do my pits.

LadySugar · 24/04/2024 19:17

@Polishedshoesalways yeah I have to agree, I completely shaved smooth and just thought no. Pubic hair, whether thinning, sparse or bush is more womanly imo

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 19:17

Verv · 24/04/2024 19:13

Women have been removing public hair since 300BC.
The ancient Egyptians invented the sugar wax.
It was popular in the 18th and 19th century and had a resurgence when the bikini was invented in the mid 40s.
It was depularised in the 60s 70s and came back in the 80s.

Its been in and out more times than a cat flap but it certainly is not new culture.

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The ancient Egyptians did a lot of rather questionable things- we shouldn’t be just blindly follow unconsciously! It was a patriarchal society and women had very little influence.

I hope we are somewhat raising the bar by now.

newyorkhotel · 24/04/2024 19:14

Do what YOU want- have a full bush or get rid of it. Its a personal decision.

Having hair there is not gross or not taking care of yourself

Not having hair there is not trying to look like a child fgs (if a man can only tell the age of a woman by her pubic hair, I'd be extremely worried about him)

I dont know why people get so upset and angry about other people's grooming habits. Good grief.

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:14

@Polishedshoesalways no 99% of adult females do not have full bushes. How would you even know that?

An adult vagina is an adult vagina, hairless or otherwise.

Verv · 24/04/2024 19:13

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 24/04/2024 18:37

But you are absorbing culture. Because no one did it 25 years ago, as getting rid of pubes didn’t exist.

Its a new culture which you’ve absorbed.

I love listening to my 17 year old telling me that no woman should feel the need to shave as it’s a feminist issue.

I agree that it is.

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Women have been removing public hair since 300BC.
The ancient Egyptians invented the sugar wax.
It was popular in the 18th and 19th century and had a resurgence when the bikini was invented in the mid 40s.
It was depularised in the 60s 70s and came back in the 80s.

Its been in and out more times than a cat flap but it certainly is not new culture.

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Sparklybutold · 24/04/2024 19:12

theduchessofspork · 24/04/2024 14:36

Are you menopausal?

Most old ladies are bald as coots down there so it does start to thin out in midlife for many.

According to the doc - now.

According to me - likely.

I have always been pretty bald down there. Waxed bikini area teens and early 20s, then it just stopped growing back.

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crostini · 24/04/2024 19:12

@Pingtotheeastwoodly but you knew what I meant didn't you Hmm

The bast majority of women use vagina to refer to the whole shebang so no need to be anal about it Wink

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 19:11

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:07

A shaved vagina does NOT resemble a child's vagina ffs, stop saying that.

If you want hair, have hair, if you don't, remove it. I can't for the life of me figure out why women are so judgy both ways over this!

Why does it make you uncomfortable?

99% of fully developed women have natural hair - children do not - of course the comparison will be made.

DagenhamDanny · 24/04/2024 19:10

lifeinthelastlane · 24/04/2024 17:48

You would genuinely stop having sex with a woman if she revealed this during the act?
I find that hard to believe

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No, because that would be rude and offensive.

Pingtotheeastwoodly · 24/04/2024 19:08

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:07

A shaved vagina does NOT resemble a child's vagina ffs, stop saying that.

If you want hair, have hair, if you don't, remove it. I can't for the life of me figure out why women are so judgy both ways over this!

If you are shaving your vagina, I’d be astonished!

crostini · 24/04/2024 19:07

A shaved vagina does NOT resemble a child's vagina ffs, stop saying that.

If you want hair, have hair, if you don't, remove it. I can't for the life of me figure out why women are so judgy both ways over this!

Theunamedcat · 24/04/2024 19:02

I shaved it once and didn't like it stayed natural ever since

Windypants21 · 24/04/2024 19:02

It would be interesting to know the age group of those expressing an opinion. Eg Younger going for none or shorter vs older sticking with what your god gave you, apart from a bit of gardening.

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Sparklybutold · 24/04/2024 18:57

I've been at work all afternoon, so am now going through my bush thread as I have a cuppa 😁

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HeraSyndulla · 24/04/2024 18:52

Nope, not a fan of the full growler, prefer to keep my lady garden neat and trimmed.

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 18:49

CheerUpFFS · 24/04/2024 18:44

How bitchy😂

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I am just being honest!
If that is the extent of the excitement on offer - ripping out hair at the root from tender places, well that is pretty shit isn’t it?

’I love it’ seems really sad to me!

Polishedshoesalways · 24/04/2024 18:47

It’s a toxic message really.

You are not good enough as you are.

It’s not a message I will ever sign up to. Or my dds. Our bodies are incredible just as they are thanks -get that hot wax away from me, take your sharp razors and misogynistic pornography elsewhere.

CherryCoaster · 24/04/2024 18:46

Bushy and proud 🌳