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To be shocked at the arrogance of this man

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Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 08:12

Selling my car, man rings me interested. We arrange a time he can come look at the car. I arrive at the time to see he has all my car doors open and is sitting in my car routing through the glove box and at the manuals. My DF was also meeting is there as he had the keys, DF rang to say he had to go get a tyre pump because one tyre was flatish. Df must have left the car open.

I approach the car and said oh have you seen my DF who opened the car for you. He laughs and says no the car was open so thought I'd have a look, why not. No apology. I just thought it was very arrogant to open up someone else's car and sit in it whilst routing around. He knew I would turn up at any minute. He also didn't know my DF would be showing up, so makes me wonder would he have done the same if he knew a man was meeting him. I think he probably wouldn't.

He took it for a drive. Said he would let me know either way yes or no. But he didn't and I didn't hear from him. Why say that if you had no intention of doing it. He was also running on about making his drive bigger to accommodate 8 cars in his drive blah blah.

Aibu to be annoyed about this?

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RespiceFinemKarma · 24/04/2024 08:38

He would not have done that if you had a male name/profile. No way.

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/04/2024 08:36

Your car was left unlocked ... be glad your car didn't get stolen!

If the car is unlocked and he's there already, it sure looks like a sign he's OK to start taking a look at it. Why did you DF leave it unlocked?

And was this yesterday, a week ago, a month ago? Because if its been a day or two then he might well still be deciding!

tkwal · 24/04/2024 08:29

Your car was left open, he went through your belongings and THEN you let him take the car for a drive?I hope your DF at least went with him otherwise you're lucky to still have your car.
I think you need to be a bit more security minded both personally and for your belongings. And yes, it is sad that we all have to be on our guard so much but there are people around who will exploit any little opportunity they are given.

PicaK · 24/04/2024 08:26

You left it open. He'd come to view it of course he's going to look at it.

Summerishere123 · 24/04/2024 08:23

Yeah I wouldn't be impressed with someone opening my car and rooting around in it.

Mymiddlenameiscynic · 24/04/2024 08:23

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I am seeing more and more posts like this.

Why do people start threads about such non-events?

Mind you I had a guy pull out in front of me yesterday. I gave him the finger.

Bet he wouldn't have done that to a man!

podcastrunner · 24/04/2024 08:20

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peakygold · 24/04/2024 08:20

Pump up your own tyres and stop relying on men.

podcastrunner · 24/04/2024 08:19

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NewIdeasToday · 24/04/2024 08:19

Why would you or your husband leave the car unlocked? That’s the strangest part of this story.

podcastrunner · 24/04/2024 08:19

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Lampslights · 24/04/2024 08:17

Huh? Your issue is he looked and not that the car was left open? Really?

Miloandfreddy · 24/04/2024 08:15

He sounds like a dick but you're unreasonable to care about it. I'd laugh at his arrogance and chalk it up to experience.