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To be shocked at the arrogance of this man

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Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 08:12

Selling my car, man rings me interested. We arrange a time he can come look at the car. I arrive at the time to see he has all my car doors open and is sitting in my car routing through the glove box and at the manuals. My DF was also meeting is there as he had the keys, DF rang to say he had to go get a tyre pump because one tyre was flatish. Df must have left the car open.

I approach the car and said oh have you seen my DF who opened the car for you. He laughs and says no the car was open so thought I'd have a look, why not. No apology. I just thought it was very arrogant to open up someone else's car and sit in it whilst routing around. He knew I would turn up at any minute. He also didn't know my DF would be showing up, so makes me wonder would he have done the same if he knew a man was meeting him. I think he probably wouldn't.

He took it for a drive. Said he would let me know either way yes or no. But he didn't and I didn't hear from him. Why say that if you had no intention of doing it. He was also running on about making his drive bigger to accommodate 8 cars in his drive blah blah.

Aibu to be annoyed about this?

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Cocothecoconut · 27/04/2024 07:31

No way would I sell a car privately
and wtf was it left unlocked your lucky he or someone else didn’t pinch it

Andylion · 25/04/2024 11:41

It’s not yours as you’re selling it.
WTF?

silenttwin · 25/04/2024 06:55

2 men
1 female

Female selling car. Stores it on Male’s premises. Male turns up and sees flat tyre on female’s car and goes off to try to resolve issue to no benefit to himself (for female as her car).

Male 2 turns up, no one there wanders around car, opens door handle, it’s open has a look.

Female turns up. Pissed off at Male 2 for opening the doors and Male 1 for leaving door open .

Male 2 fixes problem and then takes Male 1 out for a test drive.

As far as i can see… the female in equation does bugger all except be pissed off and start a mumsnet thread about it

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 25/04/2024 00:48

And really... if the vehicle was at a site that wasn't my home then I'd make sure to arrived at least 10 minutes prior to the buyer arriving so that I could check the car over myself, allow for the buyer being earlier etc

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 25/04/2024 00:46

Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 14:55

What sticks this? The car doesn't have the old lock things on the door to see if it's locked or unlocked

That's why I said "some"
Some still have visible unlock "sticks" in the window

Others it can be because the wing mirrors aren't folded in for example

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Yeah sounds like he was really trying to help you

notthatperson · 24/04/2024 15:01

Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 15:00

sigh I didn't leave it open DF did. I didn't know I had a flat tyre until I arrived and DF was on his way to get a pump

sigh well DF shouldn't have left it unlocked then.

There's no point getting annoyed about it just remind DF to lock the door or sort the tyre out yourself.

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Verv · 24/04/2024 15:00

Was the car unlocked or open?

Either way, guy turns up to look at car, car is there, car is open, guy gets in and gets the manuals out of the glovebox.

Cant see the issue.

Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 15:00

Londonrach1 · 24/04/2024 14:58

You shouldn't have left the car open. Don't understand why you didn't pump the tyres up yourself...it's very easy.

sigh I didn't leave it open DF did. I didn't know I had a flat tyre until I arrived and DF was on his way to get a pump

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notthatperson · 24/04/2024 14:59

I think he can be forgiven for assuming it was left unlocked deliberately. Most people don't leave their cars unlocked.

Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 14:59

RespiceFinemKarma · 24/04/2024 09:07

Only a few decades of behavioural research. No, nothing at all to back up that men treat men differently to women.

Exactly this. Men do in fact treat women alot differently. I study psychology and this is a big interest of mine. It's everywhere in every day life

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Londonrach1 · 24/04/2024 14:58

You shouldn't have left the car open. Don't understand why you didn't pump the tyres up yourself...it's very easy.

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I didn't realise I had a flat tyre. Wow I feel like in being attacked here for nothing

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Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 14:56

Whatsitcalled38 · 24/04/2024 09:14

He arrived to buy a car, the seller wasn't even there, which would annoy me. A tyre was flat. The car was left unlocked so he had a look while waiting for you to arrive. There shouldn't be anything left in the car of a personal nature when you're selling it. But it also shouldn't have flat tyres.

I wouldn't have bought the car from you but also wouldn't have even bothered taking it for a drive. Wouldn't have messaged you either.

I arrived dead on 3pm which was the agreed time. So there was nothing to be annoyed about time wise

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Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 14:55

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/04/2024 12:16

He might not have tried the handles tbf

You can see some cars are unlocked by the little "stick" being up or down

What sticks this? The car doesn't have the old lock things on the door to see if it's locked or unlocked

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Mellowmallow201 · 24/04/2024 14:54

It was my DF who left it open because it was left at his business premises. So I am cross with my DF too. Also annoyed at the person for have a rummage in my car. Also just found out from DF he's been leaving the key in the ignition because apparently its "safe" to do so in the area. I'm furious. My DF is a smart man too, just clearly couldn't care less about my car

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 24/04/2024 12:37

@Mellowmallow201 I take it he wasnt allowed to take it for a test drive by himself??? cannot believe your dad left the car unlocked though!!

ButWhatAboutTheBees · 24/04/2024 12:16

Whatifthehokeycokey · 24/04/2024 11:43

I'm not sure why he tried the handles to see if the door was open?

He might not have tried the handles tbf

You can see some cars are unlocked by the little "stick" being up or down

Clarinet1 · 24/04/2024 11:51

Newsenmum · 24/04/2024 09:04

I can imagine me and dh doing that. Turning up. Where is she? Pull the handle. Ooh it’s open! Let’s look inside. It’s not yours as you’re selling it.

Err - a sale involves money changing hands and, until it does, the car is the OP’s!
However, I do agree that whoever left the car unlocked was foolish.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 24/04/2024 11:43

I'm not sure why he tried the handles to see if the door was open?

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