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To think facebook is dying out?

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Middleagednbored · 24/04/2024 07:39

Been on it for years, have a couple of hundred friends on there. Over the past few years, I've noticed that only a handful post regularly now, the rest post rarely, if ever. I've realised some haven't posted for years! There are a few who until a year or so ago posted regularly and I liked keeping up with their lives but now seem to have stopped. I have definitely cut down on my posts too. A year ago, I would average twice a week, now it's twice a month if that. What's the point if no one is reading? I do actually like seeing the memories come up and how people I don't see much anymore are getting on but these days it's so boring. Mostly ads. I'm in a few groups (hobbies, interests, local community) which are useful but otherwise it's so dead!

Do we think Facebook will fizzle put altogether over the next few years? I don't do Instagram or twitter and don't understand tik tok etc (too old 🤣).

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Thefallout · 24/04/2024 12:40

I think by them pushing content to us and lots of adverts they've killed Facebook. I only want to see what people I know are doing, not a random meme. Even I've stopped posting now because I think what's the point? The only thing that's good about it is the Facebook groups (leaving teaching one is excellent and my community group).

BrieHugger · 24/04/2024 12:35

My teenager says it’s for ‘old women’ anyway.

Good! I’m glad it’s not full of pouty teens and bad eyebrows. My friends feed is generally funny or informative, or both. The occasional annoying person gets snoozed for 30 days at a time.

I think those complaining about it just haven’t worked out how to use it properly!

WaitingforCheese · 24/04/2024 12:28

My teenager says it’s for ‘old women’ anyway.

I also use it mostly for hobby and local news stuff, especially traffic alerts.

I keep it as I do know a few people who I only keep on contact with on there, actually ‘old women’ 😂. I know a few people who still try and use it as a form of constant showing off, I’ve muted them anyway and I know some others have, so they are playing to an empty room I think.

funinthesun19 · 24/04/2024 12:24

Mrsjayy · 24/04/2024 12:08

I'm normally all over ageism but the kids not wrong is she 😂 there is no 13 year olds begging for Facebook !

Nope! 🤣 My 13 year old DS is definitely not interested in it.
But I remember relatives’ kids dying to join Facebook about 5-10 years ago.

It’s just not the in thing anymore.

HeartandSeoul · 24/04/2024 12:21

I’m hardly using my account at all now, and would happily delete it if it wasn’t useful for keeping in touch with distant family/local events etc. I have noticed that I am often not shown every post a friend will add at the time they add it, but it will sometimes appear randomly several days later. When I then see their post announcing their pregnancy, for example, I then look like I had been ignoring them for all that time!

Purpleberet · 24/04/2024 12:19

I hope so I can’t stand it. Had pretty much stopped using it but unfortunately there’s some local groups I’ve joined recently and they all use fb a lot.
I’m in my late 30s and I find lots more of my 40+ friends use it but not many of my age or younger use it.

Jumpingthruhoops · 24/04/2024 12:16

Londonrach1 · 24/04/2024 07:52

I use it daily and have lots of posts from friends and family which I love seeing. I mostly use it for community activities though. We got a very active country wide group which every mum seems to be on...it's amazing supportive group which can answer most questions, it's safe too, no bullying. Admin is great to make it safe due to some rules. Abit like mn but local.

I also think the increasing popularity of groups is down to the fact that people know their posts/comments can only be seen by other members of that specific group. And not by all and sundry on FB.

ajax1985 · 24/04/2024 12:12

It's definitely getting a lot quieter on fb. It may die off eventually. Do you remember how massive Friends Reunited was back in the day? Now that's gone.

phoenixrosehere · 24/04/2024 12:10

EscapeTheCastle · 24/04/2024 11:45

I've joined lots of groups and now my feed is full of interesting (to me) things. Holiday destinations, gardening, interiors, local history, lots of other niche history groups! My fav music, old and new. Fav film stars from the classic era. Ghost stories. Lots of nostalgia. Quite like FB because of this.
Lots of friends don't seem to post much these days. I post 5 times a year maybe.

Same and also found groups for carers and parents for children who have SEN needs like autism. It has been more helpful in many ways than what has been given to me on sheets of paper when my son was diagnosed.

I keep in touch with my family and friends overseas and they post quite regularly compared to me and it’s great to see all their photos and know what is going on in their areas. Several family members and I have had babies in the last year and it has been a nice thing to bond over.

I do use Facebook Marketplace and have gotten free stuff for my daughter instead of buying new baby things that she’ll outgrow in months.

I’m more on Instagram and have learned lots from it. I follow diy, gardening, painting, tapestry weaving, embroidery, cooking, PowerPoint , excel, finance, and learning foreign language amongst other things.

Like most things, it’s how you use it.

TheGoogleMum · 24/04/2024 12:09

I use Facebook a lot, but not in the way I used to. I don't put up photos or statuses often but I find it great for groups for my interests and local area

Mrsjayy · 24/04/2024 12:08

isthesolution · 24/04/2024 11:57

Yup my teenage niece told me Facebook is just for old people 😂

I'm normally all over ageism but the kids not wrong is she 😂 there is no 13 year olds begging for Facebook !

Jumpingthruhoops · 24/04/2024 12:07

Facebook died out a long time ago. All the cool kids (like moi 😎) are on Instagram. Personally, I find it a much nicer platform.

RuthW · 24/04/2024 12:03

Dewdilly · 24/04/2024 07:43

I don’t use Facebook at all for friends and family. But I do use it heavily for some information and support groups I am in. There are always lots of people posting on those.

Exactly this. It's shifted to groups with common interests rather than friends and family.

isthesolution · 24/04/2024 11:57

Yup my teenage niece told me Facebook is just for old people 😂

Applescruffle · 24/04/2024 11:56

I bloody hope not. I get about 50% of my customers from there 😂

SkyBloo · 24/04/2024 11:56

Agreed, its crap now.

No one posts and the feed is full of tiktok and Instagram drivel or ads.

It was great between 2007 & 2012 or so. Been headed for the bin ever since.

Echobelly · 24/04/2024 11:54

They changed it to push algorithmic stuff over friends' content about 2 years ago , which made it useless to me effectively. I like to look over my memories from every day but I don't post on it anymore and 2 years ago cut down to just friends for whom FB is my main source of contact with them.

It's basically unusable now, which is shame. When I tell people I've stopped using it a lot say 'Oh yeah, I was much happier when I stopped using FB', but I am actually sad about it as it was genuinely useful for me - I only followed friends and family, no one whose opinions would annoy me, and I have a disparate friend group so it was great to have one place where I could keep up with almost all of them. But then 40-60% of my feed became adverts, recommended pages that had nothing to do with my interests, and I wasn't seeing my contacts' content. And now it's got even worse - other than memories I only look now to see how much weird, crappy AI stuff pops up, it's just bizarre and I think marks the total death knell. Loads of weird pics of Jesus riding a crab, or a child who has made a model aeroplane out of eggs, or sad dogs and puppies in mud, or a 'realistic' horse-shaped cake - all liked by bots or boomers who don't get that it's all AI generated. 🙄

Honestly, FB would do better to adopt a strategy of aiming at boring old Gen Xs like me and boomers wirth a low monthly fee to get it back without the algorithmic bullshit and I expect they'd still get enough users to make millions every month.

bumpandtots · 24/04/2024 11:53

I only use it for marketplace, in fact I'd deactivate it if it wasn't for marketplace.

EscapeTheCastle · 24/04/2024 11:45

I've joined lots of groups and now my feed is full of interesting (to me) things. Holiday destinations, gardening, interiors, local history, lots of other niche history groups! My fav music, old and new. Fav film stars from the classic era. Ghost stories. Lots of nostalgia. Quite like FB because of this.
Lots of friends don't seem to post much these days. I post 5 times a year maybe.

MariaVT65 · 24/04/2024 11:44

Another one who only uses it for local info, especially as I have young kids. It’s been useful to find baby groups, to know about local issues, and we have a local ‘swap group’ where we give free unwanted items to neighbours.

The only people I know who post a lot are really unhappy in real life.

I’m trying to get my mum to stop wasting her retirement by doomscrolling.

I’m also proud to have never joined insta or tiktok.

RideMeSidewaysWasAnother1 · 24/04/2024 11:43

I have deleted the app from my phone because all my news feed seems to be is ads and posts from pages of no relevance (i.e. Manchester News - I live in Northern Ireland) or posts from suggested pages. I can't actually see what my "friends" are posting. I'm reluctant to delete my Account completely as I have lots of photos and a connection to my late father's Facebook page. There seems to be no way of managing the news feed as the app updates and changes so regularly.

cardibach · 24/04/2024 11:43

OpusGiemuJavlo · 24/04/2024 11:41

Hasn't friends feed been blocked? I used to use that all the time but now it doesn't seem to exist.

It’s on my phone, but weirdly not my iPad. Or not in the same place and I haven’t found it. I just use my phone in the morning to catch up with friends over a cuppa.

BrieHugger · 24/04/2024 11:41

cardibach · 24/04/2024 11:38

Try using your friends feed…

Yes, or that.

I can see why people get frustrated by all the ads and spammy stuff, but the settings allow you to just see posts from friends.

OpusGiemuJavlo · 24/04/2024 11:41

cardibach · 24/04/2024 11:38

Try using your friends feed…

Hasn't friends feed been blocked? I used to use that all the time but now it doesn't seem to exist.

cardibach · 24/04/2024 11:38

Mactoba · 24/04/2024 10:17

I’ve mostly given up on it because when I go on now I don’t see any of my friends’ stuff (despite them having posted if I search their profiles). I could scroll down for an hour and only see ads or weird groups I’m not a member of. It just doesn’t interest me now, I liked Facebook when my feed was posts by my friends.

Try using your friends feed…

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